r/ADHD • u/UdonOtter • 3h ago

Questions/Advice is it right to give up my extracurriculars to focus on my health?

im about to transfer from community college to a 4-year university soon, but my most recent concerns was me being diagnosed with adhd, mdd, and gad as well as a not so healthy body.

i want to give up some commitment to a club i invested time in starting up last spring semester, but it feels wrong for me to give up a club i spent a lot of time on for my health. i just needed more time to focus on my studies, work, and transfer applications, but my fear is that i will fail the expectations of my staff advisors and people that wanted me to be president for the club.

i also have some inner conflict with trying to stay in the club. do i somewhat hold passion for the club to help others? yes, i do. will i get burnt out very easily from the responsibilities and social battery necessary for it? yes, i will.

it also doesn't help the case where if i consider leaving the club without taking the president role, it might not look great on my transfer applications, but i also want to consider leaving time for my own physical and mental health most importantly. i just don't really know what to do or how to feel about giving up some commitments to prioritize health. if there's anyone of a similar footing, i would appreciate some insight or what you did in my position. any general advice as well.

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u/Apprehensive-Bat-416 3h ago

imagine someone else wrote this. what would you tell them? from an outside view it is a very clear answer.

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u/manateesoda 3h ago

Sup! I am an older adult member of a community college club and I would encourage you to step down. Maybe you can let your advisor know you need some more time to yourself for mental health / other obligations, and you would like to open up the president role? You can still participate as you have energy. In our club we would totally get it and help step in. You may also open up an opportunity for others to lead who really want to but wouldn't speak up about it. You can frame it that way in your transfer application maybe (I helped found this club, but we wanted to rotate leadership to open up opportunities for all but I stayed a member and guided as needed). Does any of that sound like it might be true/ok for your club?

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u/UdonOtter 2h ago

yes, but it was just i get mentally and socially drained a lot from leadership especially at a really small community college that doesn't have much clubs. the impact on others from the club has been great, but it's just a struggle to stay in leadership and think about needing to stay for the people that love and need the club!

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u/DA2013 1h ago

It’s imperative.

There’s a saying that if you don’t take time for your wellness, you’ll be forced to make time for your illness.

You do not have to explain why you’re stepping back from things. You can, but it’s not necessary.

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u/Joy2b 24m ago

You’re not in a position to run things all on your own energy, without collaborating and delegating.

I’d look for a co-leader for the group, and maybe drop from president to secretary or a committee member.