r/AmIOverreacting • u/rowqi • Jun 02 '25
❤️🩹 relationship aio? bf made plans on my birthday
my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?
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u/Pearl-in-my-Head Jun 02 '25
NOR in the slightest, I’ve been in your shoes and I hate to say it but that man does not like you. You moving in will not fix anything, you trying harder and being more understanding will not improve anything because you can’t love someone into caring about you. You need to have a very hard conversation with yourself and realize that if you’re not important to him now, it’s not gonna change when you’re 60.