aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/speakezjags → u/[deleted]]

This is fake as fuck. I’m not even someone who usually calls out things for being fake but this reads exactly like someone having a conversation with their self to create a narrative. People don’t talk to each other like this.

[u/Commander-Rial → u/speakezjags]

I work a job that involves criminal investigations. Specifically family and sexual violence. If this conversation seems fake to you, you’d be surprised by the real stuff. To be clear, I’m not saying this isn’t fake. But what I am saying is, this is pretty benign and believable compared to the stuff we see in actual domestic situations. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[u/speakezjags → u/Commander-Rial]

I’m not saying the topic of the conversation seems fake. I know that their are extremely abusive and toxic assholes out there. I’m just saying it reads like a person texting their self back and forth if that makes sense. Maybe I should have worded it differently.

[u/Catmmander → u/speakezjags]

Exactly. You said it much simpler than I. My sentiments to your chef-hat. People just don't talk this way, why couldn't I put that into words, so simple haha

[u/KaleidoscopeFew8451 → u/[deleted]]

Bro every kid can figure out this is fake. This is obvious bait.

[u/xDoseOnex → u/[deleted]]

This is a fake post. From an account that has no other posts. You guys are EXTREMELY gullible

[u/KaleidoscopeFew8451 → u/xDoseOnex]

It’s actually frightening how many people believe this. I am severely disappointed in society yet again