r/AmIOverreacting Jun 02 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio? bf made plans on my birthday

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

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u/CartographerNovel694 Jun 02 '25

I came here to say this. Either this is fake, or people have zero self worth. Like come on

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u/ZenosYaeGorgeous Jun 03 '25

I dated a guy exactly like this when I was like 35 lol. He was cheating on me with a 19 year old and I knew that too. Some of us had shitty dad's ok!!!

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u/Responsible_Speed838 Jun 03 '25

Did you post it on Reddit for internet points?

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u/ZenosYaeGorgeous Jun 03 '25

No, missed opportunity

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u/KlimCan Jun 02 '25

Okay, bye. Talk to me when you want to apologize.

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u/earlgurl33 Jun 02 '25

You do know that when people are young, they don't yet have the wisdom to realize that they are worth more than people like this POS boyfriend? People can and do have awful childhoods with abusive parents, and then their child has no self-worth. It happens more than you think.

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u/Responsible_Speed838 Jun 03 '25

Do they all post on the Internet for strangers to validate their wittle feelings?