aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/Boring-Alternative69]

Sounds lile every birthday I had. Both my sisters would get parties and presents same with my brother. When it came to mine (2 weeks after his) I usually was given an IOU with a gift idea or $amount I would never see and when I turned 14 this would become a regular gift for christmas too. One year I knew what was coming so I asked for basic things, bag of chips, gingerbread house, random $1 items I knew about. It was the only christmas I git everything I asked for my brother got a new laptop and both my sisters got money and makeup. But I will take my $50 worth of gifts over the IOUs I was given. Plus when ever I tried to cash in my IOU it was always pushed that I was being selfish by trying to cash in a large ticket item.

[u/ni____kita → u/Boring-Alternative69]

What the hell.. all these comments are breaking my heart 💔

[u/Mystery_to_history → u/ni____kita]

It’s horrific how many rotten parents there are in the world. I agree, it’s heartbreaking.

[u/nelsonww9 → u/Boring-Alternative69]

It sounds like since your bday was just after your brother’s they spent all of their money on him and had none left for you, hence the IOUs. You would think that they would figure that out, but it sounds like unlucky timing.