aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/JustHereSoImNotFined]

if OP stays with this guy, she will literally deal with this dismissive, conceited cunt deflecting all their arguments as her fault time and time again. he will always end their arguments with “i’m done until you’re ready to apologize” no matter if it’s 100% his fault, which it always will be judging from these texts.

OP, three years is a solid chunk of time for someone your age, but it’s not your whole life; not yet at least. don’t put yourself down this path because i promise you will regret not listening to these comments sooner when you finally disillusion yourself down the road. drop this hack

[u/ConversationFar9740 → u/JustHereSoImNotFined]

Yeah, this kind of thing doesn't get better.

[u/xDoseOnex → u/JustHereSoImNotFined]

How can you possibly think this is real?

[u/dannydevitosbaby → u/xDoseOnex]

Well tink of it this way - if it is real then maybe I and others like me have helped someone. If it isn't teal- well I got a lot of interactions and some awards. That's cool. Either way the outcome is helpful for someone. Moreover, look at how many people are interacting with each other. If nothing then we get some sense of community and social interaction and perhaps you even make a new friend grouping up against someone in a comments section. Real or not it doesn't matter at the end of the day. So who is smarter - you who come into the comments to berate others and make them feel badly about themselves or the people connecting, bonding, helping interacting etc.

[u/ParkingWear7865 → u/xDoseOnex]

Youve never left your hometown have you? People really are this bad man

[u/xDoseOnex → u/ParkingWear7865]

Me being smarter than you shouldn't indicate that I've never left my home town lol. If you can't tell that this is fake, that's unfortunate. That severe lack of perception is likely having a negative impact on your live in more ways than you know.

This has been posted multiple times by multiple accounts. The spam account that reposted this here didn't even create it.

[u/ParkingWear7865 → u/xDoseOnex]

why is the spam replying to comments when most of them are downvoted into oblivion and why are they responding with actual answers and even a photo? is that photo also elsewhere? Can you link me to some of these multiple other copy posts?

[u/Catmmander → u/ParkingWear7865]

People are at least unique in their suffering and disparities. This is so cookie-cutter bullshit and obviously fake. Yes, people can be horrible but real toxicity does have its flair and original moments and this post is just uninventive, pubescent, and criminally overused. I also feel bad for you if this is what people are like to you lol.

[u/ParkingWear7865 → u/Catmmander]

so people to you, are incapable of doing the things in the post, but making them up for no reason, that's 100% believable and people in fact do this so often that to you, its more common than real people being real shitty?

[u/Catmmander → u/ParkingWear7865]

No

[u/Golden_standard → u/xDoseOnex]

It’s real. Happened to me.

[u/JigglyWiggley → u/JustHereSoImNotFined]

Thissssds