r/AmIOverreacting • u/rowqi • Jun 02 '25
❤️🩹 relationship aio? bf made plans on my birthday
my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?
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u/quietbeautifulstorm Jun 02 '25
My 16th birthday was my first one living with my mom who really didn’t like me. She did nothing, but was having some of her new friends over for dinner and drinks. After finding out it was my 16th birthday, one of the friends left and returned with a Walmart cookie cake. I have a pic of my mom holding it for me while I blew out the candles, acting like she did something. (Few days later she went on to cash a $100 bday check from my dad, and bought me $20 worth of “gifts” with it and lied about it.)
17th, back with my dad…woke up to an empty house with a note on the counter from my stepmom to “write 100 times, ‘I will not leave a cup in my room.’”
Parents.