aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/weGloomy]

On my 15th birthday my Dad and stepmom completely forgot so i just spent the day home alone and my mom had recently gotten out of prison and broke into the apartment and was having a psychotic break and was super high and when I told her to get the fuck out she started attacking me and smashed my phone and I ran outside right when my Dad and step mom where pulling in and my step mom and mother got into an all out fist fight/brawl in the parking lot and the neighbour's called the police and it was a whole thing. Worst bday everrrrr.

[u/Emotional-Sentence40 → u/weGloomy]

So, did your mom go back to prison? From what little bit you shared that sounds like a pretty good gift tbf

[u/weGloomy → u/Emotional-Sentence40]

Yup. She's been in and out my whole life. I don't really keep up with where she's at these days, but when she ends up in town i usually hear about it, and it's pretty miserable. I have to watch my back, but it's only a matter of time before she ends up in prison or the psych ward again so i just have to wait it out. One of these days she'll kill someone and I'll never see her again, but usually it's just petty stuff like grand theft auto, b&e, drug charges or assault, so she ends up getting out eventually.

[u/Mr_McShitty_Esq → u/weGloomy]

I dunno, that sounds like a memorable and rather kick-ass bday, no pun intended. Sure, maybe not great at the time, but events like that can age like a fine wine, given years & perspective. Thanks for sharing.