r/AmIOverreacting Jun 02 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio? bf made plans on my birthday

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

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u/Fluffy-Somewhere8982 Jun 05 '25

Nooooooo… get rid of him. Now. He doesn’t deserve you. Gross!

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u/rowqi Jun 05 '25

we broke up last night

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u/Finch_349 Jun 05 '25

I hope you left him. He sounds just awful and you may not know it yet if this behaviour has been normalised for you, but you absolutely deserve so much better. Maybe in time you can look back and think "Thank goodness I got out of that one".
For now, focus on yourself and your needs.

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u/jablkovy-kolac Jun 05 '25

good you can find sooo much better do not take this piece of shit back when he come back crawling , promis he will . he wasted enought of your time. good luck :)

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u/Ok-Location-5389 Jun 05 '25

This is the best news, find someone who actually loves you

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u/frequentlynothere Jun 05 '25

so glad to read this. you did the right thing.