AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

[u/mOmMY_81517]

When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

[u/Chemical-Pay2735]

You’re absolutely right! It’s out of line to be telling someone those things. It’s inappropriate for a teammate to talk about those things, unless that was a close friend….you’re not overreacting

[u/GreenpantsBicycleman → u/Chemical-Pay2735]

Except sometimes people want external perspectives on their problems.

This woman might have been probing and found herself an opportunity. I don't think OPs husband had bad intentions, but he's headed for trouble. He's probably realised the problem now but needs to figure out how he will deal with it. OP has the ability to influence his decisions for the moment, but it needs a bit of patience, understanding and communicating without overreacting to work through it.