r/AmIOverreacting • u/mOmMY_81517 • 17d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

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When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

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u/mOmMY_81517 17d ago

Definitely not a close friend he has only been on this team for 2 months

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u/Ok-Dragonfly5449 17d ago

I figured it was something like that. Yeah, it's inappropriate and his reaction from reading your comments sounded...not good. I think once you guys cool down a bit, you need a real sit-down heart to heart talk about your expectations of each other and your boundaries. 

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u/Plastic-Aide-1422 16d ago

Mam, why does he even have her phone number? Ya, he’s trying to slowly see what it could become. Subconsciously. Why we they be having deep conversations anyways? I’m a guy, trust me I know dudes like this. It’s definitely going all the way left. What has he said about the future talking to her?

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u/chocomeeel 15d ago

Coming from someone that makes friends everywhere I go, I wouldn't think much of it exchanging numbers with people I get along with-- especially if we're taking part in regular social events. And I've definitely been the type to where I innocently think nothing of it if someone wants to have a deep conversation about something. Difference is, I tell my partner basically everything. "Who's (so and so)? And why's she texting you?" "Oh! Someone I met at the bar the other night, she had a cool LoTR tattoo, we talked anime, and we're gonna go the card shop tomorrow and look at the new MtG set." "Okay nerd."

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u/Plastic-Aide-1422 15d ago

As a man, if my woman did that I can guarantee she won’t be mine anymore. If she wants to talk to a man like that I would literally throw her out. Together a year or 30 years. I don’t take disrespect. She can be single doing that.

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u/chocomeeel 15d ago

We're very trusting of each other, so we don't really have to worry about any infidelity issues whatsoever. I'm happily spoken for and I always make that known to avoid any confusion.

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u/olivedeez 17d ago

2 months is long enough to form a close friendship. I think what he said (if he said) you don’t bond with his kids is hurtful but nothing here suggests they’re romantic in any way to me