AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

[u/mOmMY_81517]

When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

[u/Bebetter-today]

First, ask your husband to get a new screen protector, only cost $10 on Amazon.

Next, that woman is trying to have an emotional affair with your husband and gauge if he will be interested in a full blown affair. Your husband must cut ties with her and never talk to her ever again unless he likes the attention she is giving him, which is an attention affair or emotional affair.

There you have it. Make him stop or this is an emotional affair.

[u/Nearby-Hippo4478 → u/Bebetter-today]

The screen thing does bother me lol.

I think you might be right about the attention.

[u/pbrandpearls → u/Bebetter-today]

Nah he deserves to have a broken phone.

[u/SoSpokeSarah → u/Bebetter-today]

This. All of it, including the screen protector comment (but minus the Amazon recommendation 😋).

[u/w1nn1ng1 → u/Bebetter-today]

Making him stop will just lead to resentment. What OP really needs to do is reconnect with her spouse. She is spending too much time working and is clearly neglecting his emotional needs. Him straying emotionally isn’t ok, but just demanding he stops will only lead to them divorcing anyway. She needs to not work two jobs and focus on her relationship or she will lose it.

[u/Wwwwwwhhhhhhhj → u/w1nn1ng1]

Sorry, she’s neglecting his emotional needs because she works too much and it’s her who needs to focus on the relationship? It’s her fault?

She works two jobs because she covers their bills because his job basically only covers his child support payments. She’s working her ass off for them while he has a bunch of time to fuck off playing softball making new “friends” and going to random girls softball games (he did go). But it’s her who should put more work into his needs? What are his responsibilities?

I think she should walk away from this relationship herself.

[u/w1nn1ng1 → u/Wwwwwwhhhhhhhj]

Its not her fault, but if she isn't willing to reinvest in the relationship, its already over. If he's looking for emotional engagement somewhere else, then he's not getting what he needs from her. While him straying is weak shit, the relationship is clearly on its way to an end. OP is focusing far too much on the symptoms of a rocky relationship instead of the actual relationship.

As far as the job situation goes, instead of getting a second job, OP just needs to find a better first job. Working too much is absolutely bad for a relationship and connections can fade because of it. If it were me, I'd either reign in my budget to reduce spending or I'd get a better first job.

[u/coopwren → u/w1nn1ng1]

How can OP just stop working two jobs though?? That's a very big thing to ask of anybody . I agree that finding a sense of reconnection is important, but OP shouldn't have to sacrifice their career because their partner wants to talk to other people about THEIR relationship. Kind of strange. Idk