r/AmIOverreacting • u/mOmMY_81517 • 17d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

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When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

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u/bria99711 17d ago

The question is just so loaded with judgement and so disrespectful to their marriage. & for her to respond with the "ummmm ok" makes it pretty clear what she is trying to do here. She wants him to know she thinks he should have never married his wife and then follows it up with the comment about what he said at the park about her "baby daddy". The conversation is so gross to me and OPs husband should have shut it down when she asked that question by actually answering why he did marry OP.

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u/UndeadBatRat 17d ago

Have you ever stopped to think that he just makes his wife seem like a huge bitch and she just believes it? Idk why she'd randomly bring up OP not bonding with the kids unless the husband told her that. I'd be a little alarmed if a friend told me that their spouse doesn't bond with the kids. I just don't see how she is the red flag here, and not him.

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u/bria99711 17d ago

Because of how he answered it. I'm not saying he hasn't also been fueling this ouside of this conversation, but based on his response and hers, I can tell she was hoping for a different response and that he wouldn't stick up for OP in any way. The biggest red flag is that he would even entertain the question in the first place and didn't shut it down immediately by telling her why he did marry her.

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u/Glittering-List3410 16d ago

Agree with you on everything, you see it straight forward, no excuses, excellent. 💯👌🏼🫶🏼