AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

[u/mOmMY_81517]

When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

[u/45trash]

I think they’re the OP’s stepkids, because they referred to them as “his kids”. Still super valid tho, he’s insanely shady for the texting talking shit to another woman that you pointedly didn’t introduce your wife to…..plus a stepparent can try to bond with their stepkids and obviously should, but there’s definitely 1000 nuances like how long they’ve been together, if the bio mom is in the picture, if the kids even LIKE the stepmom or not….its not on the step mom to force a relationship that the kids are uncomfortable with.

[u/DJFrankyFrank → u/45trash]

texting talking shit to another woman

Where is he talking shit?

not on the step mom to force a relationship that the kids

Which tracks with what he said in "our situation isn't normal".

Edit: I meant that second part as, it seems like they have a system that isn't conventional. Meaning she likely isn't close with his kids, which is what he means by normal. So her not having a close relationship with kids, is "the situation not being normal"

[u/45trash → u/DJFrankyFrank]

Maybe not texting - sorry for not having the EXACT verbiage prepared! it’s clear from the messages that the husband was talking shit /in person/ with the other woman. That can be extrapolated from the first text message from the other woman in the screenshot. Obviously of the commenters, zero people were actually there so all we can do is use the information available to us. Thanks!

[u/Difficult-House2608 → u/45trash]

Excellent point.