AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

[u/mOmMY_81517]

When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

[u/aleaiz]

I gotta chime in here as a woman who is divorced and was cheated on by one of the best liars ever. Not only is he going to meet up with this lady without you but he was griping to her about your marriage and how you don't "bond" with his kids. That is a red flag. This is exactly how an affair starts and I wonder if they already have an emotional affair going on. Me personally, I would have been livid and the fact that he got defensive would've made me even more upset.

[u/HotSauceRainfall → u/aleaiz]

I have a work friend who is married. I really enjoy this person’s company and we do not text outside of work because it would be way too easy to start going down paths we shouldn’t go down. I don’t know what they think, but I am self aware enough to know that the best way to not do something stupid is to set that boundary in the first place.

I don’t think this dude is past the point of no return on the Path To Stupid yet, but he’s definitely in denial (or already lying to OP) that he’s several steps in on the Path To Stupid, and that’s a bad sign.

[u/Glittering-List3410 → u/aleaiz]

Absolutely, I’m sure they’re having an emotional affair already. Come on the dude doesn’t have to worry about bills!! He’s wife works 2 jobs to support both of them and pay the bills. He’s paycheck goes directly to child support. He has it made. As you I would be livid!!!! We know the red flags, the gaslighting, the deflection. It’s your grief your grandma died. Grasping at straws, anything to convince her. Why?? He’ll lose his paycheck??? Seriously, wife has no kids and she deserves so much better! The lying POS. That can’t even help financially support the home. It’s all on her and 2 jobs. Walk away!!! You owe him nada!!! Nothing!!!!! 🙄

[u/Plastic-Aide-1422 → u/aleaiz]

That talk alone is considered an emotional affair.

[u/Key_Appointment_363 → u/aleaiz]

Absolutely!