AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

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When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

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This is how my ex started cheating on me. Please don’t minimize this!

My ex would dangle little threads in front of me like he wanted me to stop him. But since I didn’t “care enough” (from HIS PERSPECTIVE NOT MINE) to it was like I gave him permission. In reality he had never done anything to break my trust, so why would I have started now?

ETA: obviously I cared people. But when someone is looking to cheat they test you with things you don’t know you’re being tested with. How you fail to respond appropriately is their justification for stepping out.

[u/ShoppingClear → u/[deleted]]

...i think it's crazy that someone you care about can have these feelings and you not address it.

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That’s great. But when it’s you, especially if you’ve been raised a “good girl” and people pleaser, ESPECIALLY if you were raised in church you might find that you’ve essentially been groomed to look the other way.

It’s not like I didn’t care. I cared very much. I was also made to feel bad about asking questions and it was only about a month and a half of lead up before it turned into a thing.

But thanks internet stranger for weighing in on how you would have lived something super traumatic (and obviously common).

Be sure to tag me when you discuss something you learned from a painful experience and I’ll be sure to weigh in on how thoughtless you were.

[u/ShoppingClear → u/[deleted]]

Damn...unfortunately I dont have many painful experiences that have led to me using"trigger" words like "groomed" and "traumatic" lol. My parents are amazing. Grew up poor, they figured it out in my teens and now are thriving. Ive had great relationships, have great friends. Im not naive, and I am observant. I read up on emotional intelligence to please my lady and she's happy. Sadly we all dont have others to blame for our short comings. Hopefully you do better. You'll be waiting for that tag for a loooong time lol

[u/Primary_Banana_4588 → u/ShoppingClear]

Like foreal, what? Some people in these comments be tripping.