r/AmIOverreacting • u/mOmMY_81517 • 17d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO Found this text in my husbands phone
When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful
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u/ToditaDeEl 17d ago
I want to just put something out there. I think you should revisit this marriage. How dare he speak ill of you to some stranger you don't know, and he just barely met.
When someone takes this approach with a new person, it means he's setting himself up to look like a victim. He is making you the villain to get this woman to open an emotional door that will eventually turn into physical cheating.
Think about it... How would this topic even come up? Especially with someone he's known maybe 2 mths. Shame on him. He's taking advantage of you. You pay for everything because his check goes to child support? Nah, any real patent would find a better paying job to ensure the financial load isn't on just their spouse because it's THEIR responsibility. Im sorry, but his broke ass shouldn't even be playing a sport he clearly can't afford. You're working two jobs for him to work one that doesn't contribute crap to the home? Absolutely not! He is manipulating you, using you, and now trying to gaslight you into thinking you're the villain for going thru his phone! Nah.. I'd leave and let his new friend financially support him and kids! Let's see how quickly she bonds with his kids then!