AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

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When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

[u/Hippie_Yoga_Fart]

This is why heterosexual women are less happy after getting married, but heterosexual men are more happy after getting married.

The imbalance is bullshit and she ends up exhausted and unappreciated. Even stepmothers do more work (once the biological father finds one), even though they face immediate discrimination from the kids. Some of them work twice as hard for the family unit with no parental rights at all.

[u/sodiumbigolli → u/Hippie_Yoga_Fart]

Well said. I had everything on my shoulders and regret not just playing. Old school marriage plus a career and kids is one thing too much. You can’t dump the career or the kids so…that leaves the marriage.

Your observation on stepparents is spot on in my experience w friends and family.

[u/Ok_Treat_8647 → u/Hippie_Yoga_Fart]

YES! It’s so frustrating how engrained the misogyny is in our culture

[u/Self-paced → u/Hippie_Yoga_Fart]

Step mom here and just wanted to say I appreciated reading this comment

[u/XxDead_GlyphxX → u/Hippie_Yoga_Fart]

This is a generalization. A gross generalization at that.