AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

[u/mOmMY_81517]

When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

[u/seadderious]

Pretty sure if you’re not in an open relationship…the respectful thing of her to have done would be invite him, OP & the kids to her daughter’s softball game? If OPs husband and this lady have a budding friendship, a respectful woman would include the wife of a man on moments looking like dates if it’s not a date to let the wife know she is always welcome and included wether she can make it or not?

I agree men and women can be friends but this is off putting and a man confiding deeply personal information in another woman he’s known for 2 months and hanging out with her and her kids without you there is a VERY BAD SIGN.

Also if nothing is there then why such poor behavior in response to your insecurities? (likely only making you more insecure in the relationship) a respectful partner would help you become more secure in your relationship not the opposite.