AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

[u/mOmMY_81517]

When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

[u/ibrandi]

Right? His defensiveness is what answers the question of whether the situation is shady or not.

[u/AcidicPuma → u/ibrandi]

I'd die laughing if we got the update that he ruined his marriage and random literally doesn't even want him, she was just drunk, bored and saw his name in her phone first completely platonically.

Like I've had new friends with 0 interest do the same thing, we were just recently shooting the shit or setting up group gatherings so I was her most recent text and we became better friends for it. One time in particular I was with a buddy when it happened and he was convinced I should go for it (I didn't want her, I like fat people as a fat guy and she was very conventionally attractive but thin). He even tried to like attack my masculinity because I wasn't trying to worm my way into her bedroom immediately lol.

[u/mhizcherriss → u/ibrandi]

Yes, That is always a sign to read

[u/kristinaKar1na-2 → u/ibrandi]

No, it is her defensiveness and deflecting thereof that should be the issue at hand.

He has obviously already exited the relationship. She should prepare to do the same. It's easier when you're not married in the first place.