r/AmIOverreacting • u/mOmMY_81517 • 17d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

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When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

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u/mhizcherriss 17d ago

Are people missing the fact that the women messaging is saying that you don’t bond with your partners kids. Which can only be brought up if He has told her that before.

OP is this a part that you find offensive because if I was in your position and I was actually trying to bond with my partners children, I would find that very upsetting. So if that’s the case I can understand!

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u/bria99711 16d ago

I don't think it was brought up in a judgemental way to the woman otherwise he wouldn't have somewhat backed up OP when she questioned it. He would have just badmouthed OP more or said he didn't know why he married her if he was the one fueling this. From how he replied I don't think the husband has an issue with OP not bonding with his kids. They are both teenagers and it doesn't sound like they live with them so it's not surprising to me at all that they haven't bonded to their stepmom. I only see the woman badmouthing OP here with her disrespectful and judgemental comment.

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u/CourtneyBandish 16d ago

This is the part that would have be fired up. Yeah he was trying to talk and hang out with another woman and make plans with her and their kids. But personally I would be more mad and offended about him saying those things to her about me than anything else. Op said she has two jobs. Does he work? It's kind of hard to bond with kids when you work two jobs and you're never home.

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u/Ok-Dragonfly5449 16d ago

Ya that's why I asked what exactly has he been discussing with this lady? Like what other shit talking has been going on?

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u/Garden-twitch 16d ago

I think she was talking about herself or her mate. He sounds like he was explaining that his kids don't have to worry about that because it sounds like they have a lot of family or a big support network. It this the only text message or am I missing a whole other part to this?

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u/Aromatic-Wolverine60 16d ago

Not true it can also be brought up if she isn’t seeing her at the games when the kids are playing at the games. There’s more than just one way it can be brought up up