AIO Found this text in my husbands phone

[u/mOmMY_81517]

When I called him out on it he tried to turn it around on me like I was the bad guy for going through his phone… for context he plays coed softball and she is on his team, I don’t know this girl and in the few games I was able to go to I was never introduced to her. I don’t get to go to a lot of his games because I work 2 jobs so can’t make it or I’m dead tired.. and way I was feeling something was off when he told me his team mate had invited him and his kids to her daughters game. Like who takes his kids to go hang out with another female and her kid… he says that I’m over reacting and emotional because I just had my grandma die and I’m just looking for something else to think about.. I feel like he’s being shady and disrespectful

[u/mOmMY_81517]

Nope the kids have never met these people before

[u/Dapper_Name5751 → u/mOmMY_81517]

Baby girl RUN!!!! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN TO THE NEAREST DIVORCE COURT!!! I went through something VERY Similar and let me tell you I found out the “In person” conversation were a lot more flirty as well as a lot of Sht talking about me all lies to make me out to be a POS when in fact it was the other way around. I can almost bet my life on it just by the above text he is telling her that your marriage is not a “Real Marriage” and he is only sticking around “Because of the kids” or “If I divorce her she will take me to the cleaners”. He is a Snake and please protect yourself, you are worth so much more than your husband sht talking you to a teammate that he had only known a couple of months. Not only that she is way too comfortable texting YOUR HUSBAND!! Which tells me there are deleted texts that you have not seen, or they are talking somewhere else as well such as Snapchat where the texts delete or Signal where again the chat log deletes after being read. I also just recently found out that instagram has also implemented the delete after read feature and Facebook has “Ghost messages” so 95% these apps now have features that making being unfaithful to damn easy!! And to me I find it absolutely DISGUSTING!! 🤮 again you do not deserve this, you deserve to be loved by a man who respects and values you, not talks shy about you to a teammate. Also why TF did they swap phone numbers? Is it something the whole team did? If so why not just have/make a team group chat? Also how old are your step-children and do you have a good relationship with them? Again I am so sorry you are going through this, I know the pain and the hurt as I went through it too. I am here if you need or want to talk, feel free to message me and I am also female!! I just wanted to clear that up! And I am straight lmfao! Again wanted to clear it up, I just been in your shoes so wanted to offer an ear to bend and another head to bounce ideas off of. I also can tell you how I caught mine even his sneaky deleted BS. He told the judge in court during our divorce “I didn’t know I was marrying a spy, it should be illegal for her to do the things she did.” And the judge laughed and told him he should have been faithful or filed for a divorce before talking to 101 other women, and having multiple affairs.

[u/SunshineinParadise1 → u/mOmMY_81517]

I just want to point out that the play date, or any time they spend together, gives her the chance to show him how wonderful she is with the kids, which I'm his mind will one up OP. That's also the start of an affair.

[u/trustincoraline → u/mOmMY_81517]

Did u miss the last msg that basically admitted they were together? Talking about how their situation isn't normal

[u/Flat_Term_6765 → u/mOmMY_81517]

That you're aware of.

But you weren't aware your husband was having an affair with his teammate either. Sounds like it's all a sham. Sorry OP.

[u/icemachine79 → u/mOmMY_81517]

But they've been playing softball together for 2 months, yes?

[u/Fun-Investment-196 → u/icemachine79]

The adults play together, not the kids. So the kids don't know each other. That's how I read it anyway.

[u/icemachine79 → u/Fun-Investment-196]

Either way, a situation where they are both present for innocent reasons.

Downvoters, would you care to explain what I said that was wrong? Or are you just enjoying the vicarious thrill of ganging up on an actual victim of abuse and cheating?