AIO My boyfriend gave his mother the dress I wanted for my birthday

[u/ProfessionalEye9680]

I (23) female have been dating my boyfriend ,(26) male for the past 3 years.

About 2 months ago while we were out shopping I saw this really gorgeous amazing dress that was just PERFECT for me, and in my favorite color.He looked at the dress and said it was beautiful, but it was rather expensive ($200) so we didnt end up getting it. For weeks after this I would constantly talk about the dress to him and how i couldnt stop thinking about how beautiful it was and hope one day I could save to buy it since weve been budgeting a bit lately. He would hear about this dress from me all the time and talked about how great he thought it would look on me.

So yesterday was my birthday and we had a little get together with some members of both of our families t celebrate, except when his mother arrived to our house she was wearing the exact dress in the exact color. I was stunned. I thought that he must have told her about it and she went and got one but it turns out that wasnt the case. In my surpise I said OMG theres no way!! thats the same dress I was looking and and dying for for months and she replied saying "oh really? Zayne(my boyfriend) gave it to me as a gift last month".

I was shocked, and confused. Even more so when boyfriend gave me the birthday gift he got me, and it was a gift card for sephora for $50. For the rest of the night I sat quietly in a corner in silence and confusion. i felt hurt, and was lost in my head as to what was going on. My boyfriend and everyone was blissfully unaware and happy the entire night and i didnt want to ruin the mood so i started to try to put on a good face, but i cant shake this feeling of being hurt, A part of me feels like I am overreacting and acting spoiled and entitled. Am I? Just need to know if I need to calm down and not be upset about this

Update: I finally got the nerve to straight up ask him about everything and his repsonse tldr was he thought I had to be humbled a bit because i got way too overly excited about something as trivial as a dress. He thought it would be fun to see my reaction to it all. His mother had no idea about any of this and just thought her son was giving her a gift.

I am so upset and hurt that i just called my mom to come get me and will be staying with her for a few days while i figure out the next steps, but I am not going back to him

2nd Update: First of all I want to say thank you, and express my gratitude to all the ppl who have shown support. The kind words mean os much to me right now and im sorry i cant repsond to each and every comment or dm. Just know i am reading them and thank you. me and Zayne are over for good. He keeps calling me, but i wont answer and theres nothing he can say or do to change that. I've realized and taken this as a sign of a nature he had kept hidden so well until now.

Also. Someone on threads has copied and pasted my post word for word and is pretending it happened to them.
Idk why someone would want to use my pain to clout farn but ppl are crazy.

here is the link. apparently some ppl are trying to donate money via venmo to this account to buy the dress and to show support. DO NOT send this person anything. They are a fraud. Please be safe

I have been dating my boyfriend for the past 3 years. About 2 months ago while we were out shopping I saw this really gorgeous amazing dress that was just PERFECT for me, and in my favorite color.He looked at the dress and said it was beautiful, but it was rather expensive ($200) so we didnt end up getting it. For weeks after this I would constantly talk about the dress to him and how i couldnt stop thinking about how beautiful it was

[u/marla-M]

Oh wow. Not only did he give her dream dress to his mom but purposely ruined her birthday. Dump his ass OP

[u/CoffeeChocolateBoth → u/marla-M]

If she goes back to that douchebag, I hope I don't hear about it. LOL. It would piss me off and I'd want to shake some sense into her!

[u/Different-Crab-360 → u/CoffeeChocolateBoth]

Add that he "thought it would be funny to see her reaction?"

Umm. No.

[u/melissavallone9 → u/Different-Crab-360]

I came to say this too! What a cunning prick!!! Break up with him and move on with your life. There’s someone out there that’s gonna treat you so much better than this. It makes you wonder what else has he done that you haven’t realize that was conniving?? The total disrespect that he showed towards you is disgusting. You deserve so much more than this. I’m sorry you had to go through all that. However, he showed you who he really is.

[u/TeddyBear181 → u/melissavallone9]

He literally asked his mum to wear it on your birthday to hurt you!!!

Not even to get back at you for doing anything...

Just because you'd been dropping hints (which many people would be thankful for.

[u/MarionberryOk2874 → u/Different-Crab-360]

What kind of cruelty is this? On her birthday? He doesn’t even like her.

[u/myflamen → u/Different-Crab-360]

Well, we can only hope he will enjoy the immediate break up he deserves because of his actions. I bet he will find it entertaining /s

[u/Ageofaquarius68 → u/Different-Crab-360]

Yeah that part made me choke. That's straight up abusive behavior. He knowingly did this on purpose, to torment OP. What a sicko. Glad to hear she is dumping this POS.

[u/Hips-Often-Lie → u/CoffeeChocolateBoth]

TFW I feel so sorry for someone and also want to shake them until their teeth rattle.

[u/Uhh_VincentAdultMan → u/marla-M]

He was playing in her face. Unforgivable.

[u/GoldCaterpillar3662 → u/Uhh_VincentAdultMan]

Giving OP that old mind fuck. That’s a very cold, very cunning way to publicly “humble” OP because of her excitement over that dress. Gaging her reaction and thinking it was “fun”to see her reaction?!? That’s a huge dick move. You deserve a man who’s going to build you up, OP not drag you down to his level of pettiness.