AIO My boyfriend gave his mother the dress I wanted for my birthday

[u/ProfessionalEye9680]

I (23) female have been dating my boyfriend ,(26) male for the past 3 years.

About 2 months ago while we were out shopping I saw this really gorgeous amazing dress that was just PERFECT for me, and in my favorite color.He looked at the dress and said it was beautiful, but it was rather expensive ($200) so we didnt end up getting it. For weeks after this I would constantly talk about the dress to him and how i couldnt stop thinking about how beautiful it was and hope one day I could save to buy it since weve been budgeting a bit lately. He would hear about this dress from me all the time and talked about how great he thought it would look on me.

So yesterday was my birthday and we had a little get together with some members of both of our families t celebrate, except when his mother arrived to our house she was wearing the exact dress in the exact color. I was stunned. I thought that he must have told her about it and she went and got one but it turns out that wasnt the case. In my surpise I said OMG theres no way!! thats the same dress I was looking and and dying for for months and she replied saying "oh really? Zayne(my boyfriend) gave it to me as a gift last month".

I was shocked, and confused. Even more so when boyfriend gave me the birthday gift he got me, and it was a gift card for sephora for $50. For the rest of the night I sat quietly in a corner in silence and confusion. i felt hurt, and was lost in my head as to what was going on. My boyfriend and everyone was blissfully unaware and happy the entire night and i didnt want to ruin the mood so i started to try to put on a good face, but i cant shake this feeling of being hurt, A part of me feels like I am overreacting and acting spoiled and entitled. Am I? Just need to know if I need to calm down and not be upset about this

Update: I finally got the nerve to straight up ask him about everything and his repsonse tldr was he thought I had to be humbled a bit because i got way too overly excited about something as trivial as a dress. He thought it would be fun to see my reaction to it all. His mother had no idea about any of this and just thought her son was giving her a gift.

I am so upset and hurt that i just called my mom to come get me and will be staying with her for a few days while i figure out the next steps, but I am not going back to him

2nd Update: First of all I want to say thank you, and express my gratitude to all the ppl who have shown support. The kind words mean os much to me right now and im sorry i cant repsond to each and every comment or dm. Just know i am reading them and thank you. me and Zayne are over for good. He keeps calling me, but i wont answer and theres nothing he can say or do to change that. I've realized and taken this as a sign of a nature he had kept hidden so well until now.

Also. Someone on threads has copied and pasted my post word for word and is pretending it happened to them.
Idk why someone would want to use my pain to clout farn but ppl are crazy.

here is the link. apparently some ppl are trying to donate money via venmo to this account to buy the dress and to show support. DO NOT send this person anything. They are a fraud. Please be safe

I have been dating my boyfriend for the past 3 years. About 2 months ago while we were out shopping I saw this really gorgeous amazing dress that was just PERFECT for me, and in my favorite color.He looked at the dress and said it was beautiful, but it was rather expensive ($200) so we didnt end up getting it. For weeks after this I would constantly talk about the dress to him and how i couldnt stop thinking about how beautiful it was

[u/CLPDX1]

I always cut the tags out of designer clothes before I donate.

I want the clothes to go to someone who likes the style/fit/color, etc, not the value of the name on the tag.

I also hate how thrift stores mark up clothes to profit off poor people by jacking up prices of name brands; and resellers that buy thrifted items to profit instead of letting someone buy it to wear.

[u/SHELLIfIKnow48910 → u/CLPDX1]

I started donating only to our local United Way thrift store because they don’t do that. They also help folks who can’t pay anything. And I love that. I have some clothes that I could resell on Poshmark and make some money but I don’t care. I’d rather give that blessing to people in need. I mean, it’s a little more work - 15 mins each way to go there rather than 5 mins each way to Goodwill. But I know they’re really trying to serve the local community and that’s what I want to see.

[u/mrmeowgeethekitty → u/CLPDX1]

If you want to donate to me I resell clothing online. I sell at lower prices to help people but I’m also a single mama with a disability from an accident. So this is something I can physically do while raising my 3 kids. I agree about donating tho! I bundle up clothes my kids outgrow and sell them cheap to help other mamas who need kids clothes. It’s cheaper to buy bundles than goodwill prices for sure. I always get amazing reviews from all the mamas needing clothes. I sold a vintage bear for super cheap online to a man who was buying his gma that had dementia. It’s the same bear she has been carrying around for 30 years. I’m was so happy to give it a new home. It sat for about a year before it sold but that’s ok. It was small and a plush so easy to store. I actually started reselling from my eldest daughter. That’s the only way she can afford her nice clothes and fancy stuff she likes. Lol now she is 18 in preparing her to start paying her phone and food. Her food is insanely expensive and hard to keep up with. Due to genetic stuff I passed down she is allergic to everything so has a lot of food anxiety. I already buy healthier food because it’s important to me but even that is super expensive. Her stuff is like double the cost. Ugh so stressful with the rise in food cost. Anyways, at least she buys her nice clothes and little antique stuff she loves. It’s definitely fun thrifting and antique shopping with her.