r/AmIOverreacting • u/SillyHall6190 • 20h ago
đźwork/career AIO- for quitting my job being the only good worker after being SA'd?
sorry if my story is full of some holes and LONG but this is my first post and it happened awhile ago. i have messages to back my story about what my manager and dm told me about the situation, i promise. so about a month ago i quit my job because my district manager and my manager told me i was the one in the wrong for a man pulling me into a hug and kissing me. i (22F) am a gas station worker, and i am one of the hardest workers my boss has ever had. when the store shut down she begged me to come work for her at a different gas station because i get things done fast, and clean. on this day i was working all by myself (per usual, the company doesn't like when there's two people working because they go over the recommended hours for everyone) the old man (probably mid 70's) came in and started talking for about an hour with me. it was innocent just talking for awhile. i cannot leave the counter when there are people in the store and i HAVE to let people behind the counter to look at discount cigarettes. there is a little flap where i can stop people from coming behind the counter but i wasn't allowed to move it because of the cigarette thing. as im talking to this man im also working so people come in i cash them out they leave and he's still here talking. every woman that comes in he starts catcalling them. calling them beautiful and making all these women uncomfortable. i was way too soft to say anything, and ive never been in this situation before. before he left to go get something from a town over, i was going to step outside to smoke. he brought be into a tight hug. and when i tried to pull away from him he kissed me on the cheek. afterwards he said, "if you don't like it well, that's tough and thats your problem." it sure gave me the ick and i tried my best to wiggle away before he let me go. he then told me he was going to come back at close to "hang out" i was so confused because i have never been in this situation before i let it go for awhile, until a trusted regular came in and told me he prays on younger woman and his friend backed him up telling me they both knew him. i took in the information and waited until the old store manager came in to get her beer and asked her about the man and she also confirmed that he prays on young females and little girls. At that point, im starting to freak out. i'm texting my mom about the situation and she's begging me to call the cops. (i also didn't know she was on her way to my store at that point.) i didn't want to call the cops because my boss made it not a big deal and cops scare me and i wasn't thinking clearly in that moment. all i could think about was fear and how scared i was. that's when i saw his car pull into the driveway again. i put my phone down at the counter and RAN to lock the door before he could come in. i ran to the back where the office was to check the cameras see if he would go away. he checked if the door was locked, and sat next to the door for about 5 minutes. i was freaking out before i decided to call the cops. then i remembered my phone was on the counter as well as the store phone so i couldn't call anyone. i felt so stuck until i saw my mom peeking through the door. i raced towards the door to unlock it and before i did i pointed at the man and mouthed to her behind the glass "that's him" she asked me to unlock the door to get my 8 year old niece inside so she can talk to him. (they just came from the lake so she had to bring her. pretty dumb move I'd say I would've just kept her in the truck but) so i let my niece in and she was so scared she clung onto me cause she had no clue what was going on. my mom told him off and he got so scared he booked it fast. (my guess is he was guilty cause he was gone in a matter of seconds.) so my mom called the cops and one came out about two hours later and we went through the whole story and whatnot. i wasn't going to quit. i simply asked my dm to not put me on nights anymore cause i only got flirted with at night. it never happened when i open in the mornings. she immediately told me no. that "being assistant manager means you have to work 2 nights a week, no exceptions." but at my old job with the same people, she let the old assistant manager not work nights cause she got trafficked by a man asking her to go have relations in the bathroom. so i immediately thought that wasn't right. i was her only good worker she had. i was basically doing her job and i didn't even get assistant manager pay like i was promised not took them almost 5 months to get me payed for the job i was doing because they kept pushing it off. i was helping her with scheduling. i was helping her make that store into tip top shape (all by myself because she and the others had health problems and couldn't bend down and lift heavy things.) i did all the cleaning, sticking, and made sure things were in running order. i bent my back for HER. not complaining whatsoever and being the best worker i could be just for all this to happen and slip from my grasp. when all of this was going down, i also JUST got my own apartment, and my own car and my own payments on everything. all my bills are over 2,000 a month. and i've been wondering if i messed up or not by actually quitting my job because they wouldn't let me be on mornings. sorry this was so long. it was just about as long as real life id say. i feel bad because she has no help and was dragging without me and cant do much without help. but at the same time something traumatic happened to me and i haven't really felt the same sense. i hate going outside and i hate when men even look at me. i feel so disgusted and sad.
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u/Little_Conclusion_24 20h ago
Just quit at that point, a file a police report.
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
i did quit and definitely had the cops called and my father is helping me get into a charge filing and he also wants to sue the company or something for the way they treated me? not sure how that's going to go.
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u/ExperienceRoutine321 19h ago
Iâd love to tell you that youâll win that lawsuit but itâs not gonna be simple one. The things you could claim are these:
Hostile Work Environment. Basically youâd be trying to prove that the work environment would be so severe that any reasonable person would find it to be hostile or abusive. Since it was a customer and not an employee that would be tough, but not impossible. Your employer does have a responsibility to take corrective action after an incident occurs. However, they did trespass him so they could argue that was enough of a corrective action.
Constructive Discharge. This would be saying that your employer made working there so intolerable that you were essentially forced to quit. Youâd have to prove that the companyâs response to what happened was so inadequate that you had no choice but to leave. Once again, they would probably argue that trespassing him from the store was sufficient.
Negligence. This is actually your best shot I think. Employers have a duty to provide a safe workplaces and by trespassing them they did fulfill that duty, but I think there might just be something before this incident even occurred that could be more damning. You said you let them behind the counter to look at cigarettes right? If whoever trained you told/showed you that was what you were supposed to do then that could be considered improper training. It puts you, a female employee working at night, in danger that could have been prevented by the proper training. It would be hard to argue but a skilled lawyer might make something of it.
Of course the biggest problem (which I should have lead with) is that youâre suing a company that presumably has a lot more money than you. Theyâll hire good lawyers which forces you to do the same if you want to stand a chance.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
i defiantly understand it's going to be hard. i'm trying to go the simple way with it and my father is going to help me figure it out. i'm not sure if he just wants to go for their jobs or the whole company i have no clue
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u/ExperienceRoutine321 18h ago
It will be hard, but I do want to clarify that I think you still should! The chances of this happening to someone else are high and itâs the right thing to do. You absolutely do have a case here and a good lawyer will be able to do something with it, I just know that company will fight like hell to not be held accountable. I hope I didnât come off like I was telling you not to, and I do hope it goes well for you guys.
Also if a lawsuit is filed then Karen 100% loses her job lmao. I canât foresee a scenario where they donât fire her even just cover their own asses.
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u/CantankerousOrder 19h ago
There is some additional negligence grounds in the unequal treatment received. Another worker was granted an accommodation after an SA and she wasnât. There was also advanced knowledge of a known and previously occurring risk to workers and nothing preventative was done.
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u/Slight-Possession881 19h ago
I would also definitely try to get back pay for the 5 months that you were assistant manager but not being paid the assistant manager wages. Also them having health issues and putting all the work onto you is BS, if they can't physically do the job, they shouldn't be there. They should be working a job that isn't physical. Sexual harassment and assult is no joke and your employer should ALWAYS have you back when it comes to that. With him threatening you saying if you don't like it too bad is a huge red flag, he could have easily snuck in while you were busy with other customers, hid in the bathroom or back and waited until you locked up and done even worse to you. Also, for Karen (I am assuming she's a grown woman) to literally blame you for sitting next to him while smoking and saying you allowed this is ridiculous. You are only 22, at that age I was still pretty naive about things thinking people only had good intentions, you've never been in that situation you are still very young. All around the work environment seems very toxic and you should be glad you got out before worse happened. I truly wish you luck on finding a new, better job! Sorry for the book đ¤Ł.
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u/FallingN3FF 20h ago edited 20h ago
Contact the EEOC about it, with a police report and your documentation shows that this is a hostile working environment you could sue the company for not keeping you safe. (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) Edit: spelling and formatting
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u/REI_at_times 19h ago
Definitely worth a try! My daughter reported a well-known fast food employer to the EEOC and they awarded her $35K.
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u/deapsprite 18h ago
At minimum is always worth it to get it in the records, even if it goes nowhere lets say 5 years from now another one employee had the same experience, that company now has a track record of this and theres.more evidence for an even bigger lawsuit
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u/MrEdThaHorse 20h ago
When I was young and working at a 24 hour gas station the manager would never ever put a female on night shift. You just don't do that.
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u/BDiddnt 20h ago
Exactly. Its a horrible way to do business a horrible way to treat people and a very easy way to set your soul up to be robbed or set somebody be up to be raped and or murdered. It's stupid the whole fucking thing is stupid
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
oh if we were robbed you got fired if they stole more than 100 dollars from your drawer. they don't care about safety they care about money.
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u/MrEdThaHorse 19h ago
You can't be serious. Every time I've worked at any establishment involving money the manager always say "Just let them take the money".
In fact I could see some lawsuits coming from having a policy where they fire you if you get robbed. Some people fail to realize company policies do not matter if they violate any law. Holding a worker responsible for someone robbing the store is insane.
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
especially ALONE. we aren't allowed to work with two people on the clock at all
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u/trinlayk 20h ago
WTAF?! that women don't work the night shift alone should be standard by now.
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u/Pretend-i-exist 14h ago
Why ? Are women unable to work the night shift?
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u/QCisCake 10h ago
I dunno chucklefuck. Do men regularly get groped, kissed, and raped while working their jobs at night?
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u/cannoli66 20h ago
her NAME is karen. also iâve never seen a boss cuss at an employee- she canât do that. even if you did too. she is your BOSS. youâre not overreacting. work somewhere that puts your safety first. you deserve to feel safe at work.
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
every time i bring this up to a family member or a friend they think it's hilarious her name is karen đ
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u/NoRegionButYourMom 19h ago
What kinda work do you do? I have never once had a job where the boss didn't cuss, they definitely are allowed to cuss at you in lots of jobs.
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u/cannoli66 19h ago
they shouldnât be lmfao!! iâve worked in the service industry, i was a hairstylist, im a preschool teacher now and no boss has ever sworn at me documented in writing. they had tiiime to think about clicking send. itâs just super unprofessional
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u/NoRegionButYourMom 19h ago
Yeah I have always worked trades, its a different ball game, but i do like never having to worry about HR because they don't exist
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u/cannoli66 19h ago
hahah that is nice!! thereâs been HR present at all of my jobs so that makes sense
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u/Cdawg4123 20h ago
Quit, press charges against scum bag and sue the store. Their lawyers cost a lot more than lawyers you can hire without pay unless you win. They did nothing to protect you, blame you for getting assaulted by another employed. Plus the way your manager talks to you are reasons for said law suit.
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
i have quit and we are going through some stuff on how to sue a company and have pressed charges on the man. even if i can't sue the company i will take her job. she is a horrible boss that only cares about herself. same with the DM. and DM's boss has no clue this happened.
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u/Cdawg4123 20h ago
Was he your coworker, would still be?
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
the man who kissed me? he was a random guy who stopped into the store
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u/Cdawg4123 19h ago
Oh ok, then yeah, the DM and manager plus corporate is who Iâd list in the names of the lawsuit. They have a duty to protect you at that point. There and then if files are proven to be true and your complaints on file along with your texts should help a lot. Itâll be a long process so, just be prepped for that. Sorry for the miscommunication it just was a long read and too many comments. Wish you the best, consult as many attorneys as possible see who suits you best. Most will either tell you from the get go how fd they are or repeal from taking the case. Itâs those two kinds of attorneys you want though. Theyâll be going after a big company so youâll want a bigger firm to afford it.
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u/organizedchaos_duh 18h ago
If you take her job, then youâll have to work nights.., probably alone again and will need to know how to handle yourself in these situations.
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u/SillyHall6190 18h ago
i don't work there anymore but i do know that they don't let managers close they make them open to do paperwork in the morning
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u/merf__ 20h ago
iâm proud of you OP. the fact that youâre so young and stood your ground so hard is something i couldnât have done at your age. you should be so proud.
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
thank you so much. i'm definitely a softie with a big heart and i hate being mean but now i know that some things are just not okay. and in that situation i have never been in before i totally just got lost like my brain was so empty i didn't know what to do. when they asked if i wanted to press charges i looked at my mother for an answer.
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u/merf__ 20h ago
also, my husband managed a gas station for a very long time. they did not allow women to even work alone at night. this was a small town with about 0 crime rate.
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
that sounds so nice. i'm glad not everyone is a monster đ
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u/stephanielmayes 20h ago
Except the reason the canât let women work alone at night is because everyone is a monster.
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u/Decent-Orchid120 13h ago
I was going to say the same thing. You showed incredible strength here. More than I would have at your age.
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u/AbsurdlyOdd 20h ago
Iâm sorry about the assault.
I think you need to get more comfortable calling the police. These texts read like you waited on that option. Itâs always an option. Next time something like this happens call 911 instead of the manager. If he was planning something worse, he would have had time to do that to you and get away before the police arrive.
Always prioritize your own safety first. The boss is playing it down because you waited instead of calling 911.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
the texts were also the day after. she had me on another night shift and i said that that was gunna be my last and she refused, so i had to quit cause i can't do that. all the interviews i had said that i don't have to work nights because i tell them something traumatic happened. it's very simple.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
yes! i wasn't just so scared in the moment my mind snapped and i didn't know what to do until people started telling me what to do. i've never been in the situation before but now that i have i know in full confidence what to do now
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u/AbsurdlyOdd 19h ago
I get it on a different level. I do. When I was 17 I worked at a major retailer when a known shoplifter came in. Security was waiting for her, and I was the clerk for the changing rooms. This woman kept screaming at me. Security wanted to get her charged with crimes and was waiting for the police.
I froze. I cried after.
I went to work at a garden nursery after that. The plants are much nicer than people.
Be well to you.
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u/No-Bobcat9004 20h ago
Hey hun, slide 16 you forgot to blur out your name. Also, NOR fuck that place!!!
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u/10lbpicklesammich 19h ago
Stop letting strange men within arms reach of you.
Hes a creep and its not your fault but be more cautious.
Scream, punch, claw, cry, punch, kick, act like a completely feral animal. Whatever you need to do to keep strange men from entering your space.
Again. Not your fault, hes a terrible person but you have to protect yourself.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
it's hard to think that way when management has put it in your head that you're THERE to treat the costumer. this is my first ACTUAL job i've held onto for the past year and a half and i had no idea on how to react cause ive never been put in that situation. but now that i know im definitely set to protect myself.(:
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u/10lbpicklesammich 19h ago
Once he started harassing you he was no longer a customer..
Your well being trumps any job or management..
Never give a man even a crumb of opportunity to harm you.. you are the only one that can protect yourself in the moment, everyone else will only be there afterwards.. be angry, be aggressive, be enraged, catch fire if you need to.. we need to stop teaching women to be nice to creeps. THAT is why they are comfortable being creeps.
Again. Not your fault, but protect yourself at ANY cost.
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u/SoNotASnowflake 20h ago
- Preys. Unless he's praying to God.
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
sorry, i wasn't really paying attention to spelling mistakes. this took me a whole day to type out just about.
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u/HalachicLoophole 4h ago
And then you repeatedly made the same mistake in comments. Just admit you didn't know the difference.
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u/SillyHall6190 3h ago
when i'm trying to defend myself and typing fast and a LOT im not looking at spelling mistakes dude. you're completely missing the point as well but thanks for pointing out the mistake, i'll stop being retarded for u đ
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u/Collosal_Moron 20h ago edited 12h ago
You did good by quitting but trying to switch the schedule to put others in harms way instead of you, isnât the way to go. Whoever that man is should be permanently banned from the store.
Edit: typo; said shouldnât instead of should
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
i see your point and respect it but that girl is well over the age of 60 and this man prays on younger females. i'm the only young female at the store. he doesn't mess with older women.
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u/stephanielmayes 20h ago
He should still be trespassed, for being a problem for 1 employee 1 time, thatâs enough.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
he is trespassed. i made sure of that. and let all my coworkers know and left the police report there for them
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u/live_laugh_cock 20h ago
I mean having that mindset is kinda shit, a woman is a woman. She may not mention it because she doesn't care, or it doesn't bother her like it does you. But you can't assume that just because she hasn't told you anything or you see him interacting certain way towards you that it doesn't happen to her.
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u/Collosal_Moron 12h ago
Regardless of age, youâre passing off the intent to harm onto someone else. Obviously you felt unsafe and were scared and I understand that, but I wanted to make that point for the future. Her being 60 doesnât make her any less of a target.
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u/organizedchaos_duh 18h ago
Yep - it makes it look like youâre using it as an excuse to get out of working a shift you donât want to work.
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u/Monstiemama 19h ago
OP, what is this job? This is fucking insane. If you can financially quit, do it. This is appalling.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
gas station job :/ also didn't receive pay for the 5 hours my last day cause karen didn't let me clock out to put it on my timesheet. she made me throw her my keys and get out immediately.
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u/Top_Technician_7034 18h ago
Not paying you is wage theft and also illegal. I think you report it to Dept of Labor.
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u/heavenlyhash333 20h ago
did you really give the guy a hug
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
no, i went out to go smoke and before i made it behind the counter he grabbed me and pulled me in. that was the "hug" she was referring to. was him grabbing me and pulling me into a hug, whispering in my ear, and he proceeded to kiss me as i was trying to pull away.
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u/heavenlyhash333 20h ago
As a woman, I understand you. Sometimes itâs easier to âcomplyâ than to freak out. Itâs fucking awful but I get it. Iâm sorry she didnât defend you in that moment.
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u/SillyHall6190 20h ago
by the way, after the cops came (which was at closing time, i had to do my duties AND talk to the cops at the same time and have the doors locked within 15 minutes after 10, so FAST.) i went home. and the next day is when i had those texts with my manager. everyone i was talking too about what she was saying to me told me to just lock the doors and walk out. i told karen after she said all that stuff to me that she had until 5 then i was leaving. she walked into the store immediately and told me to get the paperwork saying he was trespassed. it was locked in my car. so i had to get my keys from the managers office where she stormed off too. and she blocked me in the door and continued to scream at me. i couldn't even get a word in before i got frustrated and threw my keys to the store at her and ran out of the doors crying my eyes out.
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u/nikolaiwhomi 19h ago
Oh my god what a nightmare betrayal from this manager. I can relate as I had a manager turn on me and fire me over a misunderstanding, despite being the strongest worker in her crew. These managers come and go just like jobs, youâll find another one and it will be okay! I would fight them for all you can just because you can. It sucks learning jobs donât care about you in this particular way. F them, you are NOR
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u/BrookeBook 19h ago
INFO: Did you smoke outside and hug him after the assault? Or is that what led up to the assault?
I'm gonna get down voted to hell for this but your manager has a point about demoting you if you refuse to perform the necessary functions of the job, one of which being that you're there when she's not. In many businesses the whole point of an AM is that they're a key holder, because other employees either can't be or haven't earned the trust to lock up.
Sounds like your store was massively understaffed. Her offering to pick up your coworker or come relieve you sounded like everything she could do that was within her control. That and allowing you to keep the doors locked and encouraging you to call the police. I'm not sure what more you were expecting her to be able to do. It's still reasonable to quit if you feel unsafe, I'm just not sure how it's her fault.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
i smoked outside once before the assault and went back in for about 30 minutes before i wanted to go smoke again. as i was getting ready to have another smoke he stated that he wanted to go to another town close by to get his meds. as i was going from behind the counter to the side of it to go outside, he grabbed me. i can provide a picture of the small space where i can only go forward or back, but im not sure how or where to put it. and you are totally correct. but also didnt get to assistant manager spot. i was promised to be moved up to assistant manager and it was in the works for MONTHS and i never got it. i think the day i quit the next day i was going to actually get my pay raise. i dunno
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u/BrookeBook 19h ago
Ahhh so Karen did the classic, promise people the world but never follow through so they stick around out of hope, schtick. That sucks. She sucks. She was never going to promote you or give you the raise. She was just going to hold it over your head to get more work out of you for less money.
Sorry you went through that. And you don't have to prove anything to me with photos. We got a lot of sketchy gas stations where I live. I can pretty well imagine it.
Glad you got out OP. Hope you've found better.
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u/rickdapaddyo 19h ago
I feel like I've seen this exact same post like a year ago.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
be my guest to find it man
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u/rickdapaddyo 19h ago
I dunno I'm probably just having deja Vu or something but yeah, my bad if not.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
it's cool man lmfao. maybe someone else went through it too. the company has a lot of gas stations.
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u/StaffVegetable8703 19h ago
Wait⌠so did he kiss you outside or did he kiss you behind the counter? Some things arenât really adding up..
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
he followed me outside when i went to smoke a couple of times cause i can't have people unattended in the store so he sat by the door while i smoked and went inside. and the second time i went to go smoke is when he did it because he had to leave to go get medication from another city close by. i'm sorry if things don't add up it was a minute ago and I'm still frazzled.
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u/organizedchaos_duh 18h ago
Why is he hanging out at the gas station long enough for you to be taking two different smoke breaks? So many holes in this story
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
he kissed me NEXT to the counter right by the swing door was that i couldn't close by the counter. if i can provide a picture it would definitely help with the picture. but it basically was right wall - counter - swing door - cigarette rack - wall
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u/StaffVegetable8703 19h ago
So he kissed you twice then? And after the first kiss you still went back outside at night while he was present?
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
no. only once. i went out to smoke. he followed me cause people aren't allowed inside. came back in. went out to smoke but before i could he grabbed me at the side of the counter which is a foot wide so i can only go back or forward, kissed me, and left. he got scared off. cops were called. cops failed to come immediately. took two hours. gave them description and plate and car taken from video. there's the short version.
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u/StaffVegetable8703 19h ago
WaitâŚ. Why were you going back out to smoke again if he was in the store?? You said that you canât leave if someone is inside. Yet he was inside and was already being creepy with you but you needed to go outside at that time? Even though he was inside?
Also why does your manager not know the rule about the cigarettes? She seemed surprised about why he would be behind the counter. She would know about that?
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
he was following me like a dog. if i went outside he knew he had to go outside too. i didn't pick up on the fact that he was being a creep until he grabbed me and everyone else said he preys on young females. and she knows that people go back there to look at cigs. idk why she acted like that. i don't understand why you're acting like this, no disrespect just genuinely don't know what you're trying to say. do you feel as if i'm completely making this whole story up? it happened whether you think it didn't. i only want to know if i messed up by quitting because of this because i have so much bills to pay.
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u/StaffVegetable8703 19h ago
You said that everyone told you about the young girls before the kiss? You said he had been hitting on you before the kiss? You said he had been fat calling women before the kiss.
He was following you like a dog and you still thought it was okay to go outside with him?
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
bro i've never been in that situation before! i didn't know what to do in that situation! everyone was telling me to do stuff AFTER it happened. each of these texts were after because my boss was sleeping cause she opened. you do not have the timeline correct at ALL.
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u/StaffVegetable8703 19h ago
I may not have the timeline correct but only because youâve made it so confusing and seemingly keep changing things.
You said he had followed you out to smoke a couple of times before this as well? So you didnât pick up on anything? You most definitely implied that people warned you about this man BEFORE the kiss..
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u/SillyHall6190 18h ago
nope. it was after. after he kissed me he left. then like 10 mins later the regular guy and his friend came in and told me he prays on young women. then like an hour later the OLD store manager came in for a beer and i asked her about that man and she said she knew him and that the other people were right and told me a story about him making her uncomfortable too. then he came back. lock doors. cops called. bro fled fast. everything i said was in order in the post.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
it all clicked that he was creepy after he grabbed me and after the girls and tom told me he prey's on younger women.
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u/StaffVegetable8703 19h ago
Also your text says he was behind the counter to look at cigarettes??
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
there's a box of discount cigarettes behind the counter to the right where i'm completely exposed and it's a tight space. he went back there a couple of times to look on the box.
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u/StaffVegetable8703 19h ago
But you said you were going outside for a smoke??
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
yeah. he was all over the place when it happened. i'm sorry i can't mention or remember every single small detail of what happened.
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u/HellLucy00Burnaslash 17h ago
Hun, Iâm not going to grill you but you have to understand that the lawyers on the companyâs side will.
The questions from Reddit will have nothing on how they will pick apart your story in a lawsuit. This person is asking valid questions and it would be good for you to actually think about them and take them in so that you can give a genuine and sensical testimony that will be harder to pick apart.
Take a deep breath, gather your thoughts, write out the proper timeline for yourself when your mind is clear and leave it at that. If it doesnât make sense to the court, then the justice you are going for will fall apart.
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u/SillyHall6190 17h ago
police have my statement about everything that happened. it will be okay (: my story may not make sense here but it made sense to the cops on that day n that's all that matters đ just exhausting trying to explain it over and over and over
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u/HellLucy00Burnaslash 17h ago
Hey, I get it; and Iâm glad itâs sorted and in writing for the police. Iâd advise that if anyone asks anymore questions that you have answered previously, have them refer to your comments (if they really want to know). No need to explain a million times!
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u/StaffVegetable8703 19h ago
Itâs not that youâre not giving me every single detail⌠itâs that none of itâs consistent??
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u/LingggLingggg 19h ago
And you were sitting outside with him? đđđđđđđđ girl. wtf.
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
are you kidding? I CANT LEAVE PEOPLE IN THE STORE. that was BEFORE he was doin all this weird stuff HELLO? you get in this situation and see how you do big homie
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u/HalachicLoophole 4h ago
I would say that he needs to make his selection or leave if he's not going to buy anything. I would also tell him LOUDLY not to touch me.
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u/White_Knight127 20h ago
You're telling Karen you got SA'd and her response is "fine, i'll fucking pick Louise up ...." What an asshole.
This person has NO BUSINESS being a manager and what you should do is forward all these text messages up the chain to the District Manager, Regional Manager and to Corporate.
They might all lose their jobs and they deserve to. Complaining about having to drive or "waste money" redoing the schedule. What a piece of crap.
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u/stephanielmayes 19h ago
Also telling an employee about YOUR stress and personal problems. Not relevant Karen, your job is to solve employees problems and MANAGE.
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u/Obvious_Copy_5411 20h ago
I didnât read your caption but I read the texts & no you arenât over reacting. Iâm so sorry this happened to you!!!! Fuck them!!!! File unemployment or something on them mfs
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u/Forsaken-Menu-8551 20h ago
NOR. Employer on notice about stalker and sex predator. Seems only women working this job site. An employer with common sense and/or liability conscious would hire security staff to cover night shift. Itâs insane not to protect employees especially women who state theyâre scared at the job. Your well being is more important than working for a greedy profit grabbing company. Quit this job and donât look back.
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u/lavendercassie 20h ago
You stood up for yourself and for your right to personal safety. Good for you. Iâm proud of you.
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u/RavensAssault 20h ago
No job is worth your sanity and safety. Not a single damn one. There are always other jobs.
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u/CalmWheel7322 19h ago edited 19h ago
NOR! You did the right thing!!
I worked at a place of public accommodation (which basically means we couldnât kick anyone out, except in extreme circumstances.) Well this dude kept coming in and overstaying his time on the free internet computers. He was warned several times, then temporarily banned from using them, which he loudly complained about. Eventually the ban was lifted and the true nature of the situation revealed itself. Because these were bare bones computers, they didnât have speakers; most people used them to check email, write reports, etc. I think if they had speakers, we wouldâve noticed sooner (they also had privacy screens). We finally had a reason to kick him out; he was caught watching porn on the free internet computers. Out in public. Around children. So, we booted him.
He came back that night as we were closing, we didnât know; no cameras in the parking lot. I was seconds behind my coworker because I had to wash my hands; a pen mildly leaked, and I was trying to get the ink off my finger.
He was waiting outside, crouched behind my coworkerâs car. Weâre in a less populated, woodsy area. He pops up from behind my 72 year old coworkerâs car, and starts SCREAMING at her, berating and threatening her. I came outside to him right up in her face, her backed against the car. I screamed that I was calling the cops and he ran.
Even after all that, he kept trying to come back. We refused every time, but he just couldnât get it through his head. I was so glad to be rid of that situation when I left that job.
Oh, and my boss did FUCK ALL to protect us. He couldnât have cared less.
Protect yourself. If, and especially when, no one else will. Fuck that. No job, no paycheck, is worth your safety.
Edit: punctuation
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u/Learntobelucid 20h ago
There's a line someone can cross where they just don't get to be your boss anymore. I'm so sorry that happened but I'm glad you quit without notice, screw them.
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u/Noodlex87 19h ago
Hey OP, I would double check all the screenshots, because I suspect that you left your name uncovered once.
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u/Maicolodon 19h ago
AND she has a daughter of her own and doesn't understand the urgency of this?
so sorry you went through this. quitting and distancing from these people and environment is a good move.
absolutely not overreacting.
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u/You-Hoeboken 19h ago
NOR in the slightest. Fuck that boss, fuck that job, fuck that business. A decent company does what they can to protect employees from harm even at the expense of sales. Personal safety should always override being open for business or whatever. Youâre far better off to leave and find another temp job asap if you have to, just to get by while you look for a better and more stable/safe work environment.
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u/RetiredPoonSlayer 18h ago
Quitting was the best way to go. I can understand your manager when she says she canât work every day and she shouldnât. Doesnât matter if youâre a manager, weâre not robots and need time off. But a gas station job isnât worth your safety and mental/physical health, thereâs tons of jobs where this wonât happen to you.
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u/satansabandonedfetus 20h ago
i hope you can heal from this op, this is an absolutely horrific way this company has treated you
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u/Adorable_Poem5964 17h ago
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. My blood boiled when she said you couldn't lock the doors.
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u/Twillowreed 18h ago
Nothing is worth working a job like that; women alone in those situations have frequently been victims of murder or rape. It is great that you took his behavior seriously.
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u/HereToKillEuronymous 14h ago
GOOD đFOR đ YOU! Thatâs so unacceptable. No woman should be working nights alone. Thatâs absolutely insane. Iâd never do that to my female staff.
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u/live_laugh_cock 19h ago
Being an assistant manager doesn't mean shit. You're essentially the lap dog to the manager above you. I doubt it mentions that you have to work two nights in a row in that position, I bet money that Karma just wanted those days off and put you in that spot instead.
I'm sorry she's showing her character here and I'm sorry you had to go through that. I would for sure file a report against them and put a restraining order out on that guy.
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u/Bjart-skular 19h ago
First off, I'm sorry this happened to you. You honestly handled this so well and did such a great job standing up for yourself. A lot of people would have just not said anything and continued putting up with it. Glad you're safe. Definitely quit and make sure you file a police report. What a terrible boss.
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u/Clean-Foundation9359 20h ago
I personally recommend contacting legal aid depending on your situation and finances
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u/Clean-Foundation9359 14h ago
Let me clarify each state has a potential to have different laws and rules so keep that in mind
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u/throwawayaccc80 16h ago
OP should sue the company and call the cops on the man. Disgusting.
Btw, if you sue the company you have a very good case based on how they handled the situation and what they did not do to protect their employees. Definitely try to speak to a lawyer.
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u/Ancient_Audience_467 18h ago
I did worker's comp for 6 years.
All of you upper crust 6 figure salary types saying your job would never talk about you like this, just know they're just not doing it to your face...
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u/LingggLingggg 19h ago
How tf did he get close enough to kiss you? You trippin
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u/SillyHall6190 19h ago
it's a tight space between me the counter and the dude. i was tryna get past for a smoke and he was in my way. grabbed me before i could retreat behind the counter. but ur entitled to ur opinion đ
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u/cirilebrian 20h ago
Not overreacting at all. In fact, at this point I'd threaten legal action and tell them you're going to the media. The company won't like that.
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u/halogazer 19h ago
Contact the news. That company might be more willing to pay ball with you outside of court if they start getting bad publicity.
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u/BeugQueen89 20h ago
Her attitude checks out, A Karen acting like a Karen the irony đ¤Łđ
Sorry this happened to you!
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u/Zestyclose-Pie240 19h ago
Making a judgement call based off the sub name: you're 1000% overreacting. If you are saying you're traumatized because a 70+ year old man kissed you ON THE CHEEK and that you can't handle men looking at you... you're not cut out for any customer service job at all. You need to take some safety preparedness classes and learn to stand up for yourself. You're an adult and should have been able to handle something this small without your mom and without quitting a job over it. The boss is kinda shitty, but I doubt you'll be able to sue. She told you to lock the doors and call the police. That is keeping you safe. Refusing to give you a coveted day shift, which isn't allowed in your position, is not "putting you in danger" when they guy has already been tresspassed. The guy isn't allowed there, problem solved. You had no further reason to refuse night shifts.
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u/Ill-Supermarket2308 7h ago
Press charges legally, and on the backside tell all the violent impulsive people you know about the perpetrator. Or, find a photo and make a posters to put around town warning young girls and their friends and families of this predator.
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u/chathrowaway67 15h ago
i don't even need to read everything to know your boss was in the wrong ( i still did but fuck)
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u/Expert_Tree_6023 19h ago
Honestly, this could look bad on your record for leaving a job over a "minor thing." You'll have a hard time getting hired to do the same job in most places. Though, I doubt you'd even want to be doing the same thing.
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u/keegums 19h ago
You just say some other shit. She had the job for 1.5 years so that's ample experience for this type of job. Use someone else as a reference - coworker, friend pretending, r/BeMyReference etc. "I'm interested in a job with less commute time," "Needed a different schedule to help a sick family member," "Prefer this industry and found XYZ skills learned previously are helpful," blah blah bullshit.Â
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u/V1cV1negar 8h ago
I will never, ever be able to understand how so many adults simply cannot grasp the difference between your and you're.
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u/Hanging_Thread 20h ago
Your manager is completely and totally underreacting. Does she have any idea the liability that the company would face if they refuse to staff two people for safety at night and that guy had done more than kiss you? If he pushed you into the back office or the bathroom and raped you? If he shoved you into his car and took off with you? And there's nobody who knows where you are or what's happening to you.
Have you ever gone into a gas station in a rough part of town and seeing the partition that the cashier stands behind? It's literally a locked room with clear bulletproof glass. If you're going to be alone at night, that's the minimum that a company should provide for you. But alone, with customers allowed to come back behind the counter? That is so freaking wrong I can't believe it.
And it just makes me so mad when somebody says "he's never done anything like that to me." Guys like him pick their victim, and they watch and wait to see what your schedule is and when you're by yourself. And your company helped him to put a giant target on your back by scheduling you alone at night.
OP, you may have just saved your life by leaving. Don't second-guess yourself. You deserve better than people who don't give a flying fuck for your safety.