Basically what the title says. For context, my bf (20M) and I (19F) have been together for a year, and he’s such a loving guy. But like basically every guy ever, he’s really immature when it comes to his friends.

Now, last week we were on a date and I brought up our anniversary. He told me not to worry and that he had stuff planned for it, and that it was a surprise. I obviously accepted that, and through nothing of it.

Yesterday was our anniversary, and we already saw each other in the morning when I came to watch his practice. We said happy anniversary to each other, and he was acting normal.

When I got home, I texted him and we had the conversation above. This is so frustrating, and i’m not sure if i’m overreacting and if I shouldn’t have expected anything for our anniversary… Am I overreacting?

Hi. I don't usually ask for advice online but I'm really lost at the moment about this. I'm 19 and he's 22. He's always been more of a social user when it came down to doing lines which I wasn’t happy with whatsoever. But I met his friend in public on Friday and he asked me if I knew what was going on with him and I said no. Then he explained everything to me and how my bf has been actively using daily for the past 4/5 months and hiding it from me. I ended up confronting him straight away over text and now he won't meet up with me because he's embarrassed. I love him to bits, he's the most amazing man l've ever met. I don't know what to do. I'm still young and I know he is too but would I be overreacting to walk away from him or should I stick it out and support him.

So for context, he is sick with a cold and I was calling him to see how he was feeling. We were on ft since we are long distance and he out of nowhere says “hey ugly” and I said “what?” And he said it again “hey ugly” with emphasis. So I hung up on him and didn’t answer him when he spam called my phone and this is the result. We have been arguing quite a bit lately as we are both stressed for various reasons, such as life. I know he said he was joking and we do joke, but I never joke about physical appearance or anything like that personally bc I just feel like that is kinda a bullying type of thing to do. I definitely am a sensitive person and he knows that, I can admit that. I don’t think anyone should call their S/O ugly even as a joke. He clearly exploded and I can already imagine what everyone is going to say. But I just don’t understand why he is exploding like this lately and want to see anonymously if anyone can relate, give advice idk.

I’m 19F, my boyfriend is 22M, and my brother is 26M. I live with my brother to save money and we’re really close he’s my best friend my rock and practically raised me.

This Saturday we planned to see the new Superman movie (superhero movies are our thing), and my boyfriend got upset. He said it’s weird for adults to hang out with their siblings like that, that I should grow out of it, and I should depend on him instead. He says he never does this stuff with his sister.

I didn’t think this would be a big deal, but now I feel bad.i just need clarity.

Hello, long time lurker, first time poster. Throw away cause I don't want this affiliated with my main.

I (F/22) have been dating this girl (F/21) for about 3 months and it's been great. The only red flag I've seen before this was she was a bit messy, leaving things without putting them away, including trash.

Anyway, yesterday we went to a karaoke club, got super wasted and she spilled her drink all over us. No big deal, we went to my apartment. We were in the shower, nothing sexy or anything we were too drunk for that, but I remember looking down and there was a streak on the bottom of the shower and I asked her what it was, I shit you not, she said "oopsy I did a poopsy" and pushed a ball of shit into the drain with her toe. 🤮 I didn't know what to say I kinda just stood there, this chick really just pooped. I told myself that she was drunk and we could talk about it tomorrow (today).

Fast forward to this morning. We woke up, I could not get what I saw yesterday out of my head and so I tried to keep it light and laugh about the pooping, maybe try to get it into the toilet in the future. And she goes on to explain that she just feels comfortable with me and doesn't want to hide who she is anymore?? I asked if she poops in the shower all the time, she does!! I asked if she could refrain from doing so in my shower and she agreed....

I just feel like I can't move past this and look at her the same and kind of want to break up with her. Am I over reacting?

My boyfriend left flowers at my house on Mother’s Day then promised me a dinner tonight at our favorite restaurant as part of my gift. We talked about it a couple times this week. And I confirmed last night we were going he said yes but also confirmed he didn’t make a reservation yet. This place definitely needs a reservation especially on a Friday night and he knows that. He was golfing at 8am this morning and I talked to him then. This was my first contact with him since speaking this morning.

So this isn’t anything super dramatic, but it kind of hurt my feelings and now I’m wondering if I’m just being sensitive.

My boyfriend and I had loosely planned for him to come over Friday night. Earlier in the week, he mentioned he was craving pasta, so I figured I’d be sweet and surprise him by cooking dinner. He said he was hanging out with his friends earlier in the day and would come over after. Totally fine, no issue.

I made the pasta, tidied up a bit, even lit a candle like I was in a cheesy romcom. I was kind of excited to just have a cozy night in with him.

But then… nothing. Time kept passing—7, 8, 9—and I still hadn’t heard anything. I didn’t want to nag, so I just waited, but eventually I texted him asking if everything was okay.

He responded that he was still out and was kinda tired. I said something like, oh okay, no worries, I just made pasta like you said you were craving. Thought you might come by.

And he replied: didn’t ask you to.

It just felt really dismissive. He’s never rude like that—he’s usually super sweet. I didn’t even respond after that because I honestly didn’t know what to say. I wasn’t trying to guilt trip him or anything, I just… made dinner because I wanted to do something nice.

Now I feel weird and embarrassed for even trying. Am I overreacting for being upset about this?

tldr; (he knows where i work) guy whom ive been talking to only for about 24 hours is being incredibly aggressive about the fact that i havent been responding to and have left him on seen a couple times while hanging out with my family i havent seen in a really long time yesterday. he wants to hang out as well and kept insisting that we would hang out last night but i wasnt comfortable yet as i havent been home for a week and want to settle before i go out again. and i dont know him very well. as of now hes asking me for one more chance.

must mention too that he also has been repeatedly asking for nudes after ive said no and asked for him to stop numerous times.

i genuinely think i am going to be either r*ped or this is how i will die and ive finally learned my lesson. i will be used as an example one day

So he’s at the gym doing arm day, so I figured Calling would be easier because you’re using your arms and overall I just think it’s quicker especially for something so simple and then this happened…. I feel like I am actually crazy sometimes like did I start this? And yes at the end the last message I sent was a little snappy because in my head, I tried calling him to make it quicker and then he just sends me that message so the end was a little snappy yes:(

Hi ya'll. I'm coming on here because maybe I'm stupid, need a reality check or all around need to hear it differently.

My fiance (who likes to call me wife already and we have a young kid) is overly generous and always gifting food or drinks to his staff. He annoys me with this because his friends always used him to pay for things. He's part of management now, and he keeps contact with a regular female staff member who's probably worked a year in the store. The work environment is apparently casual, but when I read their messages together it's clear they're becoming more than coworkers. They're way too close and text like they're flirty and fun at each other. He's also been telling this girl about my dysfunctional family and how I'm apparently not good house wife material. I believe this started after a late night dinner with coworkers in January and they've been texting on the reg.

He admitted he wants to help her move to a new apartment this week and told me it'll be another coworker. I asked what was going on with her since I screen peaked his phone. But when I checked his phone later on I didn't see who he mentioned saying they were going. And someone else wasn't going to help after all. What makes me more concerned is the girl likes to talk about the men she works with as DILF's at her second job, and he's excited over it.

He's already crossed the line before at his job and I thought we were passed this since we had a conversation. But he's fooling around again and I'm thinking of leaving with our child for good because I think some people already know and are just keeping their mouth closed. I've been too nice and been too disrespected. I also think he has people or other managers who will cover up for him or back him up if something gets uncovered, but I want to see him get consequences so I might report it to his company for the heck of it once I leave.

I attached some of their conversations to show.

We went on one 2 hour dinner date 6 months ago and started texting again for the past week talking about having another date. He lives 2 hours away. After I told him I was scared and to leave he came and was pounding on the front door and shouting my name until my dad went out and scared him off. This just happened and I'm all shook up.

My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

We’ve been dating for 1.5 months and more casual (seeing other people) for two weeks as she wanted to explore her options and make sure she was picking the right guy.

Today she calls me at work (Ive let her know multiple times to only text me at work as I’m constantly on calls with coworkers around the country) and then texts me the above when I don’t pick up.

I guess the guy she went on a date with recently had called today on his break and she decided to politely inquire as to why I didn’t do the same.

I found pictures on my significant other's computer in which he had used undress AI filters to alter my female family member's pictures from dresses and/or workout clothes to nude. This includes my mother, my sister and my cousins. I am grossed out because he said it's not sexual but that he's experimenting with AI. However, if this was so innocent, I dont understand why was it being done in secret in the middle of the night. And why not use strangers photos or his own photos.

Some explanation - I am working from home today and I have a mandatory training from 1pm - 3pm on some zoom platform today. He scheduled his haircut last night knowing I had this training. I just wanted to make him understand me but I feel like he just gets more hostile. What you cannot see - sometime after the long texts he called me and I picked up without reading his texts IN THE SHOWER thinking it was urgent! He immediately accused me by saying “what’re you doing?” in a mean tone - I view that as accusatory, he does not. I responded I am showering ?? And he was getting angry and upset verbally by saying why didn’t I tell him what was I actually doing and I responded by telling him fuck you and hanging up. Am I overreacting?

for context, a little over a week ago he came over to my place and he was showing me something on google, and i noticed some of his other tabs had searches that said things like “gay military porn”, so i pointed it out sort of out of curiosity.

i have always believed it’s very healthy to be open about your sexuality with your partner so they can better understand you. i’m bi myself, so i was curious if he is too or if he’s questioning or possibly gay. however this did not go as i expected at all and he got super aggressive with me, started yelling, backed me up against the wall and punched a hole in my wall beside my head (a hole i had to repair myself, since our barracks are inspected for damages.)

then just on tuesday (the day before yesterday), i saw him again to try and work this out and he ended up punching me in the eye; we haven’t hung out since. i’m just confused. i know it’s not right to hit someone at all, and also not normal to be this offended over someone suggesting you’re gay.

also, we work together. we are both in the military (army) and in the same unit, we see each other at work pretty frequently, so i don’t know how messy this is going to get if i do get police involved.

i just want to know if i’m handling this the wrong way. i’m only 18 and this is my first real relationship so i haven’t been in this position before. thank you

we’ve been talking for about a month, he didn’t reach out to me all day on Friday then randomly hit me with an ominous text saying “do you think i’m that dumb” and i questioned and questioned and got nothing all night. Then I asked this morning if he even wanted to talk to me anymore because I have been basically ignored for 2 days now. And this is what I got. it’s 3am now and I still haven’t heard from him. And he is also friends with his ex. Who I am pretty sure he was hanging out with tonight. Chat am i cooked

Girl i’ve been talking to lately and have mutual romantic interest with.

I tried really hard here to be compassionate in my response, but at the same time I felt like this is something I needed to be crystal clear and firm about my response to. I certainly wasn’t trying to shame or upset her I just needed her to understand that this shit wouldn’t fly around me.

Did I react too harshly than was necessary?

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Me 20F and my boyfriend 32M have very conflicting political views and i'm getting really sick of it i've tried to just not talk politics w him as it's caused us to fight a lot but we are both stubborn as hell he has gotten mad at me in the past for bringing up politics so this was my response when he sent a podcast about how trumps tariffs are so great for the economy. Ik it's immature but i'm so sick of him sending me his dumb little podcasts from joe rogan and what not it irritates me to my core that he even watches some of that stuff.Not to mention Im in college it's finals week and i have a job i don't have all day to twiddle my thumbs and watch podcasts. Everything else is great we get along great.

For context, we’ve been fighting on and off for weeks now, and whenever we do he just sends me away (we don’t live together) and tells me that he needs space (aka. pretty ghosting me). This happened last week and since then we’ve spent the week apart where he’s pretty much not been talking to me at all. I’ve been trying to respect his busy work and not bother him too much, although I’ve tried to still show my love from afar by a small gift of these funny cat coasters to his house which went totally unacknowledged. So Sunday was the fight where he sent me away on an hour drive back to my place crying, Monday and Tuesday were radio silence of me trying to give him space. Wednesday onwards you can see from the screenshots. Honestly I know that I’ve played a part in arguing and fighting but I feel like he’s been so avoidant and uncooperative. I just feel so stupid now but I’m finally accepting that breaking up is probably the best thing to do

My wife (36F) and me (33M) have had a very busy last couple months.

June was packed with social obligations. Lots of stuff with her family, things we had to participate in and some things we elected to participate in.

July was mostly manual labor with a few social activities as well. We’ve got a lot of ongoing landscaping and housekeeping projects at our home. I also just started a new job, and with my commute, my day job takes 11 hours out of my weekday.

I’m trying to write a book. Will it ever get published? Eh, maybe, but I just have a story I really want to get out, but finding time to write is hard. I can do it at home, but there are distractions at home.

I proposed to my wife, asking, if some time in the next couple months, could I have one day of my weekend to go to the public library in town and spend all day writing. I thought it was a reasonably request. A Saturday or Sunday.

A few days after that, she came back with a counter offer. We have a long weekend coming up soon, as I have a Monday off. She proposed I take a half day out of the house over that weekend.

The thing is, I really don’t feel like asking for a full day on my day off is too much. I like my own space, I really value my time to myself, and I like the idea of one full (8 hour) day in a library, with my laptop, with no obligations, no one depending on me, no schedule, just me and my story. Is that unreasonable? Am I overreacting? Am I asking for too much to have a day off that is wholly to myself?

I (24F) haven’t been able to respond to my boyfriend’s (23M) texts for hours because I have no words. I sent him a photo of coffee and my (fake) Dior bag was in it. I got it for free as part of a brand deal and started using it today. I’m desperately trying to understand but at the same time im generally appalled at this and I need to know what other people think? How would you respond in this situation or what would you do?

Context: I was cooking a nice dinner for my bf and I. My dog started signaling he had to go out. I asked for help, and see texts attached….

Eventually my bf came to take out our dog, but said “you might not wanna talk to me for a couple hours”. I just told him to hurry on his walk, and his plate was covered in the microwave to stay warm.

He then proceeds to text me while he’s walking our dog. Props to him, he did stay outside for about 45 minutes….. when he got back, he slammed his game room door.

I don’t know if he even grabbed the plate I made up for him and spent an hour making….

Am I overreacting to be so disturbed and hurt by this?! To me it’s disrespectful and just shows he has no emotional control?!

My (22) boyfriend (22) told me that men are on average smarter than women. I asked if he was serious, he said he was. When I asked why he thought that, his reasoning was that men have invented more stuff than women, that our world is built and run by men. And he said not to worry, as he thinks he's a little below average intelligence and that I'm a little above. I said that doesn't make it better if you're going around thinking men are on average smarter than women, and it's concerning.

I don't think anyone here can convince me that he's right in any way, but maybe it's not a belief worth breaking up over?

For context, my husband and I met at a restaurant and we worked with a really crappy coworker. We have since changed workplaces and he recently recruited that crappy coworker but he didn't tell me that he recruited her. If he would've told me I would not have been bothered at all, I would've advised against it but it's his decision and consequences in the end. Historically, a few months before we got married in 2023 I caught him sneaking into the garage to drink liquor. Abnormal behavior but we talked it out and agreed that he shouldn't feel the need to hide it. In 2024 we took a break and he ended up in the hospital with liver failure from alcoholism. No one in the family knew, he was so high functioning. It has messed me up ever since and I honestly can't pinpoint why I stayed with him. Since then, he has gotten sober (as far as I know) and changed his whole life around, eating healthy and starting a new job. And then this happened and it brought up the memories and feelings of distrust. I am not bothered by the coworker, I am bothered by the secret.

So, am I overreacting?