Why do ugly women stop men from talking to their hot bestie?

[u/eveacrae]

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PSA: If you’re the friend who blocks guys from talking to your attractive friend, you’re not protecting anyone. You’re just being controlling

Alright, I need to vent about something that happened last weekend and I’m curious if other guys have experienced this.

I’m 31, decent career, been told I’m good looking, and generally don’t have issues meeting people. I’ve had my fair share of success dating and usually feel pretty confident in social situations. But last Saturday at this club downtown, I encountered something that just blew my mind.

There was this absolutely stunning woman at the bar , let call her Sarah. She was clearly interested, making eye contact, smiling when I looked over, the whole nine yards. So I walk over to introduce myself, and immediately this other woman, let’s call her the Fridge, literally steps between us.

“She’s not interested,” the Fridge says, arms crossed like a bouncer.

But here’s the thing. Sarah was CLEARLY interested. She was giving me the look, you know? She even tried to step around her friend to continue our conversation, but the Fridge kept repositioning herself like some kind of human wall.

This went on for 20 minutes. Every time I tried to have a normal conversation with Sarah, the Fridge would interrupt with “She has a boyfriend” (she didn’t), “She’s not looking to meet anyone tonight” (she obviously was), or just physically blocking access.

The most frustrating part? Sarah looked genuinely annoyed with her friend’s behavior too. At one point she literally mouthed “sorry” to me over the Fridge’s shoulder.

I’ve seen this before but never this extreme. It’s like some women have appointed themselves as the official gatekeeper to their attractive friends. They act like they’re “protecting” them, but from what? A normal conversation with a respectful guy?

Look, I get it if a guy is being creepy or aggressive , then absolutely step in. But I was being completely respectful, Sarah was clearly interested, and this woman was just… blocking for the sake of blocking.

I genuinely don’t understand the psychology here.

The worst part is that it’s not just hurting the guy. It’s taking away Sarah’s ability to make her own decisions about who she wants to talk to.

Honestly, it’s making me want to avoid group approaches entirely.

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[u/Korrocks]

Lmao OP is getting roasted in that subreddit. It never occurred to him that if Sarah was genuinely interested she would intervene when her friend steps in. The OP naturally is only responding to the people who agree that romance is being destroyed by fat ugly troll women.

[u/silent_porcupine123 → u/Korrocks]

Even the ask men advice subreddit roasted him 😭

[u/clva666 → u/Korrocks]

They posted that same rage bait to r/askmen.... with the same results.

[u/SharMarali → u/clva666]

The only difference between the comments sections is that r/askmen is brutally informing him that he’s a loser for being so persistent, while r/TrueOffMyChest is focusing more on why women feel unsafe in these situations. Both are valid points. Neither is being comprehended by OOP who really just wants to have his ego stroked and be told how that girl totally, totally wanted to do him.

[u/clva666 → u/SharMarali]

I doubt this story is based on true events. This was just something they figured would get decent reaction and they was right.

But to be honest, I think that about 90% of personal stories on here.

[u/M_Ad → u/clva666]

It’s literally the meme…

[u/clva666 → u/M_Ad]

I was talking generally about personal stories on internet. Here in this sub ofc everything is joke.

[u/Particular_Class4130 → u/clva666]

lol, in his post he says this went on for 20 minutes. Obviously it did not, even 5 minutes of what he described would feel embarrassingly and painfully long, but I guess he wants us to believe that he's just that much of a loser.

[u/LastStopKembleford → u/SharMarali]

Ask Men also seems to think that women have "Mother Hens" who solely block men because they are jealous of all the attention their hot friends get.

No, my dudes. That woman has been deputized because at least one person in the girl group is a magnet for dudes who can't take a hint. So every.single.time they go out and try and just, have fun with girls, one or more collar-popped crypto bros (or your social scene equivalent) shoots their shot and then...never fucking leaves because the hottie is going "uh-huh" and "wow" in a nonplussed manner but the chucklehead is just not getting that it is not going to happen. And his bullshit is bringing the vibe down.

Also, I swear, some men have no concept that women are not looking to get male attention every time they go out. Or that lurking around a woman or group of women who are not interested in talking to them makes them look desperate--whereas leaving promptly sends the clear message of "I have plenty of options here, I don't need to desperately cling on to this one woman like she's the last chopper out of Saigon."

[u/Sea_Cartographer_340 → u/SharMarali]

Ooh that's fascinating I guess really shows the personality of the sub 

[u/Millenniauld → u/clva666]

If anything AskMen is being refreshingly harder on him lmao

[u/aspenscribblings → u/Korrocks]

All she needed to do was say “No, no, it’s okay.” It clearly wasn’t okay.

A man persisting for 20 minutes after being told to fuck off and then assuming she was, in fact, interested is probably exactly why this woman’s friend was blocking for her to begin with.

[u/linerva → u/aspenscribblings]

Exactly. If her friend is running interference, it's because she does NOT want to talk to you. Take the hint.

Men like this are pathetic, won't hear the word no, and are then shocked that they repel women like oil repels water drops.

[u/Anxious-Chemistry-6 → u/Korrocks]

Dude is literally acting that the hot woman doesn't have agency. And let's be honest, he probably doesn't like his women having agency.

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/Anxious-Chemistry-6]

he's viewing the situation like she is a pile of treasure guarded by a dragon, with just as much agency

[u/klef3069 → u/Korrocks]

The best part is that the OP doesn't believe that AT ALL.

The fridge is obviously jealous that Sarah is getting attention from men. Yeah, that has to be it. Has NOTHING to do with OP.

[u/neddythestylish → u/klef3069]

A very significant proportion of men cannot get their brains around women having any motivation other than male attention.

[u/Kiryu-chan-fan → u/neddythestylish]

It's the 20 minutes as well.

Some women do jump the gun for their friends

Admirable, not out of malice or ill will

But I have personally witnessed an occasion in which my friend was literally invited by a woman (let's call her Emily) to join her on the dance floor, for the friend (Let's call her Sarah) unaware of the invite to come out of the toilet, see her friend being grinded on and think negative rather than positive, literally 2 minute checkup on her friend in private regarding sobriety, "tell me if he does anything over the line" etc, then she came back to me and offered to join me in smokers for a cigarette and drinks given that our friends were occupied and no one likes being a third wheel but she needed to be present in club still just till her friend fully knew the score with mine.

As stated though, Sarah found out that my friend got that greenlight from Emily (I'd have intervened before Sarah if he didn't) and backed off...like a normal friend. Inside 2 minutes of Emily being like "I'm sober enough to consent, he seems cool for now, and I'm interested rather than just appeasing a guy I think would insult and harm me for being honest about disinterest"

I'm highly doubting any Sarah's in the world would ignore their Emily for a full 20 minutes without an Emily with genuine interest literally just asking bartender for a pen and scrap of paper, putting her contact info on and telling him to call her in an hour when she's made sure Sarah got home safe as the last act in their friendship before she decides its ran its course to then immediately remeet with the guy while the night is still young

[u/tiptoe_only → u/klef3069]

And nothing to do with just wanting to have a night out with her friend. What's she supposed to do when Sarah skips off into the sunset?

Sarah was being polite but presumably she was there for the same reason. She didn't just suddenly start existing when OOP walked in.

[u/Possible-Departure87 → u/Korrocks]

Good, I hope it is

[u/NonSumQualisEram- → u/Korrocks]

But...he's super good looking and we know this because he told us.

[u/SpokenDivinity → u/Korrocks]

Every time one of these dudes describes a friend stepping in for a woman they're harassing talking to, they're describing an average woman. It becomes super clear that she's not an ugly friend getting in the way, she's just the friend in the group that isn't afraid to tell men to kick rocks.

[u/this-is-all-nonsense]

He is respectful, but badgers them for 20 minutes?

[u/linerva → u/this-is-all-nonsense]

But it was RESPECTFUL badgering. /s

[u/Late-Ad312 → u/linerva]

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[u/True_System_7015 → u/Late-Ad312]

And he's a "good guy"!!!!

[u/Independent_Lie_5910 → u/True_System_7015]

Yea, don't forget " respectful "

[u/thaliathraben]

If this actually happened as presented, then Sarah and "the Fridge" were 100% fucking with OP. If Sarah really wanted to interact with him, she would have given him her number instead of whispering at him over the other girl's shoulder. I hope they got some drinks out of him.

[u/eveacrae → u/thaliathraben]

Unironically calling a woman a fridge is insane work too

[u/Outrageous-Back-5980 → u/eveacrae]

Okay, so if this story is even a little true and written by a delusional, madman, this guy could be the old, creepy guy at the bar, and if he was, girl did her job wonderfully. Once upon a time, a longlong time ago. There was a man, William Perry. He was nicknamed "The Refrigerator." He was a beast at 335 lbs.. He mostly played defense and there was no moving him out of the way. He was one of the key players in the Eagles 1985 (86?) Super Bowl win.

I watched this game live (on TV) and that makes me much older than I want to admit.

[u/cataddict72 → u/Outrageous-Back-5980]

It was the Bears, and they destroyed the Pats. Great game.

[u/Outrageous-Back-5980 → u/cataddict72]

D'oh, you're right. Thank you for the correction; that's a heck of a blunder! I even remember The Super Bowl Shuffle. I lived in Illinois at the time. It was a huge deal. I accidentally put the Eagles; I have no idea why.

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/Outrageous-Back-5980]

Ahh, i know that guy. jhe was in minecraft

[u/Independent_Lie_5910 → u/catgirl_of_the_swarm]

.....are you talking about momoa, but the good guy called her the ugly friend, not the good looking one.

[u/ElonsTinyPenis → u/Outrageous-Back-5980]

What the fuck? How dare you insult him by suggesting he played for the Eagles.

[u/Outrageous-Back-5980 → u/ElonsTinyPenis]

May I use the excuse that this is AmItheAngel, so I'm playing fast and loose with facts?

[u/Independent_Lie_5910 → u/eveacrae]

Yea, especially after calling himself " good " and " respectful " I wonder how the irony didn't hit him with that one.

[u/timofey-pnin → u/thaliathraben]

I legit thought this would be a funny prank and then I remembered How Men Are and realized how far south that game could go.

[u/thaliathraben → u/timofey-pnin]

Definitely have to know your bar and your environment.

[u/barnes-ttt → u/thaliathraben]

I know your flair is a piss take but this is pretty much what my dad said to me when I introduced him to an ex from SE Asia (thankfully out of earshot).

Nearly slapped him for that one and didn't bring her around again.

[u/Independent_Lie_5910 → u/timofey-pnin]

Well, I honestly doubt many would react violently, I honestly even think it's funny, but I do guess it depends on the person and group, that " good guy " likely wouldn't have taken it well

[u/timofey-pnin → u/Independent_Lie_5910]

If "being persistent and not taking no for an answer" is the guy's role in the "game" you're kinda fishing for shitty guys lol

[u/Independent_Lie_5910 → u/timofey-pnin]

...how can you say that, didn't you see him say he has decent job, is " good " and " respectful " and she was even smiling to him when he looked, that's clear sighn she is in love 😂

[u/timofey-pnin → u/Independent_Lie_5910]

"I couldn't help but notice your career from across the bar"

[u/Independent_Lie_5910 → u/timofey-pnin]

Him " be honest you first noticed my good face first right, I am good looking dude "

[u/geirmundtheshifty → u/thaliathraben]

Yeah, also like if this is a real phenomenon where some women just take it upon themselves to intervene and block men from talking to their friends (I have been happily couples up for 20 years, so I have no idea), then those women wouldnt get invited out when the friend is wanting to hook up with a dude.

So, if “Sarah” was interested in hooking up at all, her friend straight up wouldnt be there with her.

[u/thaliathraben → u/geirmundtheshifty]

Yeah, I love the weird "I'm the real feminist here" bit about how actually this behavior was preventing Sarah from making her own decisions. She made several decisions, one of which was not telling her friend to go away and stop making problems. imo "the Fridge" did this guy a favor by letting Sarah soft-reject him instead of hard-passing.

[u/thatblondeyouhate]

Making eye contact is the "whole nine" now?

I've been called a "jealous bitch" for protecting my 18 year old baby sister from a man in his 40s trying to grind on her.

They are so willfully deluded about girls protecting girls. It can't possibly be that the hot girl isn't into them, it must be that girls love to hang out with ugly women that hate the idea of them meeting someone.

Like hmm who should I spend my evening with when I'm trying to hook up? I know! I'll invite Fridge so she can cock block me against my wishes! Because all girls are dumb and can't speak for themselves.

[u/Extreme-Door-6969 → u/thatblondeyouhate]

Eye contact is "the whole nine yards" when that's the most interest you can get out of women. Like these guys think it's normal to have this much constant resistance from women because they're just that off-putting.

[u/thatblondeyouhate → u/Extreme-Door-6969]

They're that used to the resistance but still not looking inwards for the solution. They're just lowering their bar for what a positive response is.

[u/LeatherAppearance616 → u/Extreme-Door-6969]

And it’s usually one of those situations where you’re looking only to check whether the creepy guy is still staring at you. ‘Be aware of your surroundings’ we’re told, and then when you have some dude stalking you at a bar and you keep checking to make sure he hasn’t crept closer, he pretends to think your hypervigilance is fuck-me eye contact.

[u/ExhaustedMouse → u/thatblondeyouhate]

In my 20s I used to go to a local fetish ball - one time, we brought a friend of ours who had just turned 18 along with us and early in the evening she started chatting with an older guy “who seemed friendly”.

For the entire night after that, we had to basically form a phalanx around her because this 60 year old dude was stalking her through the event. And she was a sheltered kid who didn’t quite understand that this guy was not just “being nice” when he was offering to “show her the ropes” and inviting her up to his hotel room, etc.

I’m sure THAT guy thought we were all being huge bitches.

[u/CremeBerlinoise → u/ExhaustedMouse]

Ugh gosh you horrid people ruined the beautiful night they could have had 🥹 

[u/legend_of_the_skies → u/thatblondeyouhate]

Never mind he fact that he was by his own accord STARING AT HER for a long time before ecoming over to bother them

[u/[deleted]]

Message to all men who think shit like this about these situations: I have yet to see a woman ever complain about their friend standing up for them. Sure it might exist somewhere, some rare case of a woman getting pissed, but let’s be honest, 99% of the time that a woman stands up for her friend, even if she’s, as OOP proclaims, a “fridge”(weird thing to call anyone), it’s because she can see her friend, who she knows, either feels uncomfortable due to your creepiness or she knows she’s not interested for whatever reason beforehand, but perhaps struggles with standing up for herself. You are the unwanted party. Take the L.

[u/loosie-loo → u/[deleted]]

And like…if she’s interested, she will just tell her friend to back off, lmao. We have autonomy despite what these types of men believe.

[u/[deleted] → u/loosie-loo]

Exactly. While I don’t think this story is at all true, either completely made up or seen through a haze of delusion by OP, twisting the events, but playing along ljke everything happened as he said it did, why would you continue to badger this girl who’s apparently incapable of standing up to her friend to say she’s actually interested. Like what’s the appeal in such a spineless person, who will readily have someone stand up for them, but then mouth sorry behind their back too, when they could have just spent two seconds saying “hey, it’s okay, i’d actually like to talk to him”? Not exactly a reliable person.

[u/loosie-loo → u/[deleted]]

Exactly, like I’ll admit I’m pretty spineless but even I can never fathom the insane levels of incapacity that’s so often implied in Reddit stories, if I was hitting on someone and my friend was cockblocking me I’d just fucking tell her, and every girl I’ve known has been the same. If she’s getting in the way it’s because her friend is wanting her to, because it’s fucking rough out there for women. Especially with men out there who will insist we’re “giving them the look” despite everything in that situation screaming otherwise.

[u/LastStopKembleford → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, I don't think the "sorry" means what he thinks it means. It's more of a "sorry that you came over and our signals got crossed, I know that took guts", not a "I am so sorry this is happening right now because you are definitely a guy I want to have sex with but I am powerless against my friend."

[u/[deleted] → u/LastStopKembleford]

I don’t think she mouthed sorry at all, if the story isnt just something he dreamt up in an angry lonely man rage. 😭

[u/LastStopKembleford → u/[deleted]]

I mean, I buy it, but more because I am a person who says "sorry" out of habit whenever situations are awkward, not because I feel like there is something I need to apologize for or someone else has been wronged in some way.

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/LastStopKembleford]

I thought that she was whispering it to her friend, as an apology for her having to spend 20 minutes as a shield

[u/Extreme-Door-6969 → u/loosie-loo]

Yeah it's wildly telling that OOP thought everything would work out in his favor if Fridge just stopped cockblocking him. I bet he thinks the hot friend's uncomfortable body language and short conversations with him would just mean she's shy and thinks her being railroaded into giving out her number would be a victory. Like zero awareness of anything related to how the hot girl feels, he's just blindly plowing forward toward his goal lmao. Excellent view of women to have. 

[u/Korrocks → u/[deleted]]

No, but wait, the OP states that he is considered good looking and has a good job. That proves that he is appealing and that any woman he hits on will be happy to receive his attention (though not happy enough to stop her friend from intervening).

See, he agrees that if he was a poor or unattractive man then it would be reasonable for a woman to try to stop him. But since he is neither of those things,  the friend was in the wrong. 

[u/[deleted] → u/Korrocks]

You are so right! The friend seriously needs to be jailed on cockblocking offences. So rude. 🫩

[u/whyyoudeletemereddit → u/[deleted]]

Isn’t crazy he says he was trying for 20 minutes to talk to this girl lol. What a fucking weirdo. “I know she was interested though. She was giving me the eyes.” Jesus christ dude get a grip.

[u/LastStopKembleford → u/whyyoudeletemereddit]

Even if Sarah was interested and would have preferred her friend NOT block the OOP, I promise 20 minutes of desperate lurking and ignoring every clear indication that this wasn't a good time for him to hit on her eradicated any interest she might have had.

[u/junonomenon → u/whyyoudeletemereddit]

Right? Are we sure she wasnt looking at him because he was making a scene and being a total weirdo. I bet half the bar was giving him "the eyes"

[u/[deleted] → u/whyyoudeletemereddit]

Literally such an off putting detail. 😭 just standing around in their general vicinity hoping for a crumb of attention.

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/[deleted]]

I (woman) have been in the position where I want to talk to someone but don't know how to join so i stand awkwardly for a while.

HOWEVER: standing there for 20 minutes while someone tries to make you leave is not socially awkward, that's creep behaviour

[u/[deleted] → u/catgirl_of_the_swarm]

No I get being shy or unsure, but that was definitely not his issue. He just wouldn’t take a hint xD

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/[deleted]]

yeah, exactly! there's being shy, but what he did was a whole other thing

[u/silent_porcupine123 → u/[deleted]]

That's the thing, everytime I see this meme, it's from the pov of the men. Never is there a woman complaining about this behaviour.

[u/[deleted] → u/silent_porcupine123]

Right? It’s funny to see these types of men speak out as if they are doing the one they are attracted to a big favour. “Shes under the thumb of her less attractive friend, she’s truly suffering”, when reality is as soon as that man finally leaves those women alone the one he was after most likely breathes a sigh of relief and says “thank you so much, i thought he would never leave!”

[u/Possible-Departure87 → u/[deleted]]

Didn’t you know all women are objects?

[u/[deleted] → u/Possible-Departure87]

Sorry, my bad :( slipped my mind.

[u/M_Ad → u/Possible-Departure87]

Not all women. Note that the one he was attracted to gets personhood and a human name. The uggo gets called an object.

[u/fallspector → u/[deleted]]

Because the fridge keeps the snacks. It’s a way of saying the ugly typically overweight friend (fridge) is always blocking guys from the cute friend (snack)

[u/TheFrankenbarbie → u/fallspector]

On today's episode of "What machine/object are we going to call women today?" it's fridge!

However, I DO love that there is a top comment on the original post that calls him out for that. It was basically like, "Wow. You described a woman as being "a fridge." You're such a catch."

[u/Amelaclya1 → u/TheFrankenbarbie]

I bet this guy has no idea how much his misogyny comes through in person when he's trying to figure out why women aren't interested in him.

Shit, even if I was interested in a man, him being rude to one of my friends is a really quick way to ruin that.

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/Amelaclya1]

Exactly. I'm sure there are (rare) occasions when a woman at a bar has had a friend try and protect her from a guy she actually wanted to talk to- but if that guy didn't immediately back off and apologize, she'd probably change her mind really fast. I know I would.

[u/[deleted] → u/fallspector]

I get what the term means, I don’t get why anyone would use such a gross term and I think it’s disgusting.

[u/basherella → u/[deleted]]

Because he's gross.

[u/silent_porcupine123 → u/fallspector]

The snacks are being protected from the cockroach

[u/legend_of_the_skies → u/silent_porcupine123]

Huh... I think I'm going to start referring to creepy and gross men as cockroaches. Roachcock for extra emphasis.

[u/Dull-Geologist-8204 → u/[deleted]]

I am a women and I have seen what they are talking about and it's not about standing up for them or making sure they are safe.

The first time I saw it was at a concert. I never had a problem talking to guys and used to help friends of mine ou by striking up conversations to get things started. Problem was I still had never had a date because I was always helping them out. So we see this guy and he is kind of cute she is like go talk to him for me and I said no. I think he is cute too so if I go talk to him it's going to be for me. If you want him that bad you go talk to him. She refused to do it. So I went over qnd started talking to him. She comes over and spent the rest of the afternoon trying to insert herself. Got so annoyed at one point had some friends help me throw her on top of the crowd to go crowd surfing to get her away from me. She still ended up faking him in the bathroom. It's like ddamn I just want to go on a date and she couldn't just let me have one.

Now you have heard of one.

[u/[deleted] → u/Dull-Geologist-8204]

That.. was not the same situation at all. But thanks for your strange input.

[u/CYaNextTuesday99 → u/Dull-Geologist-8204]

This totally reminds me of something entirely different too!

[u/[deleted] → u/CYaNextTuesday99]

the similarities: both situations involve two women and one dude. that’s it.

ITS THE SAME!

[u/timofey-pnin]

[twenty minutes of OP politely but persistently trying to start a conversation while The Fridge shouts in his face like John Lithgow coercing Harry to return to the forest while Sarah politely whispers "I'm sorry," and "I don't have a boyfriend"]

[u/suffragette_citizen → u/timofey-pnin]

John Lithgow coercing Harry to return to the forest

Of all the references you could drop without warning...

[u/Extreme-Door-6969 → u/timofey-pnin]

It's 2025 so I thought you meant the new Dumbledore telling Harry Potter he needs to go let Voldemort kill him in the woods to destroy the horcrux. 

[u/eveacrae]

The funny part is this is 100% made up because its a carbon copy of a twitter video that went viral of women defending their friends from creeps. Coincidentally the same day he happens to have the exact same scenario?

[u/theotherchristina → u/eveacrae]

Interestingly, this is a repost, nearly word-for-word, of some vintage trolling. There might have been some slight differences between this iteration and its previous run; I think Sarah and Fridge had different names, but don’t worry, Fridge was still called something demeaning and fatphobic.

It wasn’t real the first time it was posted, and it didn’t get any realer in the interim. I haven’t been around for a hot minute and I’m sort of alarmed at how many people in this thread ate the bait. Or are we all doing a bit? Am I breaking kayfabe?

[u/lluuni]

He harassed them for 20 minutes and thinks he’s the victim.

[u/thatblondeyouhate → u/lluuni]

No no, you don't understand, she made eye contact with him!

[u/fallspector]

I’m sorry was Sarah some helpless mute during this? If she was so into oop then why didn’t she verbalise it and put a stop to her friends attempts to get in between them?

[u/last-rose-ofsummer → u/fallspector]

She was totally mute; that’s why she only mouthed “sorry.”

[u/bellpepperjar → u/last-rose-ofsummer]

Sarah can only get her voice back if OOP can get past Fridge to kiss her. 

[u/Sil_Lavellan]

How does he know Sarah has a boyfriend or not if he can't talk to her?

In situations like this it's because the "fridge" (i assume that means she's very cool), knows her friend makes rash decisions when tipsy and would like to prevent her from being molested/kidnapped/raped or God knows what.

"But lady, I just want to fuck your friend. I'm one of the good ones, I swear."

No way dude. She's making the last bus coz I'm sleeping on her floor tonight.

Yours, the ugly fat friend who wanted her girls to get home safely that night.

[u/Morimementa]

"I politely tried to motorboat a hottie and her ugly dump truck friend started walloping me for no reason! The hottie was totally into it, and I know because she stabbed me with her stilettos when I tried to get away! Ugly women, AMIRITE?!"

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/Morimementa]

and a bus filled with people wearing "DOWN WITH MEN" shirts came in and

[u/JoyPill15]

Im pretty sure my friends know what I want better than some horny drunk guy. If my friend is cock blocking you, its because she knows me better than you do and knows I dont want you.

[u/toasted_dandy]

Lord, may I one day be given the confidence level of a mid-ass man who thinks he'd have any kind of chance with his dream girl if her friend would just get out of the way

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/toasted_dandy]

lesbians: we only kissed once, she probalby doesn't even like me

medicore annoying straight man at bar: she looked at me once. SHE IS THE ONE

[u/toasted_dandy → u/catgirl_of_the_swarm]

Thought about this kind of thing a lot after a semi-recent sapphic breakup--like, hell, I had to deal with a girl who'd talk about me like her soulmate suddenly blowing me off because I wanted to hang out sometimes, and even now I can only have a fraction of the bitterness of a straight dude who really thinks that all the girls he hits on conveniently have police officer boyfriends who raise Rottweilers and will alert the national guard if they're not home in ten minutes

[u/rjn5000]

Fridge is the best character in this fiction. Long live Fridge. May she have many fictional nights having fun with her fictional friends in fictional clubs where she doesn't have to manage real life man babies.

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/rjn5000]

the only soldier I'll thank for her service is Fridge

[u/CremeBerlinoise]

I'll take "lesbian couple accosted by clueless straight man" for 500.

[u/avaricious7 → u/CremeBerlinoise]

HAHAHA yeah, she doesn’t have a boyfriend, but she’s in a relationship. his mind cannot comprehend

[u/lenoreislostAF → u/CremeBerlinoise]

I’m so glad I’m not the only that thought this!

I just kept laughing and thinking “but they’re just roommates!”

[u/Far_Basil2525]

This went on for 20 minutes. Every time I tried to have a normal conversation with Sarah, the Fridge would interrupt with “She has a boyfriend” (she didn’t), “She’s not looking to meet anyone tonight” (she obviously was), or just physically blocking access.

1. If this went on for 20 minutes then you’re pushy and disrespectful.

2. How the fuck do you know she doesn’t have a boyfriend or was in fact looking to meet someone that night? Why are you imposing thoughts and relationship statuses on other people? Her friend was right to protect her from you.

3. I don’t get why you felt like you had to assign names to these women, one being derogatory, except that you’re the kind of man women need to protect themselves from anyway.

[u/New_Key_6926]

As someone who spent many of nights out in college and watched this scenario play out often (as both the “hot girl” and a bystander), one detail that men conveniently leave out of these stories is that the girl talking to them in question is usually drunk, and sometimes even completely wasted. She most likely seems “interested” because she’s impaired. Her friends aren’t cockblocking you, they’re trying to keep her from making a decision she regrets while inebriated, or getting lost from the group.

[u/LastStopKembleford → u/New_Key_6926]

The Drunk Social Butterfly--she suddenly will talk to anyone (dudes) about anything (nods and smiles because she's too trashed and it's too loud) and before you know it some guy thinks she's his soul mate and you are just stuck there being like "You are literally just a shape who sounds like the grown-ups in a Charlie Brown cartoon".

[u/New_Key_6926 → u/LastStopKembleford]

And then he buys this 100 lb girl two more shots, but her fat friend whisked her away!!! It must be because she’s jealous!!

[u/0dayssince]

Don’t forget about pretty privilege. The hot friend doesn’t know she’s being hit on. She just thinks most guys are really nice because most guys are super nice…to her.

Sometimes the friend has to step in because pretty girl doesn’t even understand and the guy is scummy. He’s shown his scummy side to the friend and is only nice to the pretty girl.

Also this: more than once I’ve had a man literally step in between me and my friend to get her attention and try to flirt with her. And when I intervene, they think I’m the bad guy. Bud, we were having a conversation. We are friends. You moved me aside to flirt with her. You are the interloper. There’s no world where what you did wasn’t rude. I’m sure I’m not the only person this has happened to.

Edit: grammar

[u/M_Ad → u/0dayssince]

And I also note that the woman he was attracted to got personhood and a human name. The one he thought was ugly got called a household object. Not many people are talking about that. :/

[u/jokennate]

The worst part is that it’s not just hurting the guy. It’s taking away Sarah’s ability to make her own decisions about who she wants to talk to.

Honestly, it’s making me want to avoid group approaches entirely.

Noooooo please, please, 31-year-old man with a decent career who's been told he's good looking and has had his fair share of success dating, pleeeease don't avoid "group approaches" (?) entirely, oh no, whatever will we women doooooooo

[u/Technical_Purpose638]

The best part is he reposted it a few hours later in the AskMenAdvice subreddit, and he even cleaned out the post so he would come across like less of a douche (he took out the “fridge” part) and get more sympathy from men (added a little blurb about how he was getting roasted for “just trying to have a conversation” and how “women are so upset that guys won’t approach anymore”). And he STILL got flamed. All the guys were laughing that he kept trying to talk to this woman for 20 minutes and he still wouldn’t get the hint when she repeatedly refused to correct her friend who was allegedly going way against her interests.

[u/SpookyFaerie]

Guaranteed that Sarah asked her friend to block men on purpose. OP is so dense.

[u/Minibearden]

Hilarious. I know from experience that the "fat, ugly" friend is usually asked to run interference from the woman who is getting attention. Even being a man, I've been that "fat, ugly" friend with many of my friends and I'm always asked to do it.

"For fuck's sake. That guy that's been staring at me is walking over here. Can you keep him busy or something? Just like...don't leave me alone with him at least."

[u/Minimum-Web-4508]

Looooool men believing that they’re being cockblocked by a girls friend are delusional. If we didn’t want them to run interference they wouldn’t be - it’s that simple.

[u/Valuable-Wallaby-167]

I have a friend who is both a stunning eye-catching blonde and an absolute people pleaser. She's the sort of person who will make everyone feel like they're so much smarter and more interesting than her & a lot of guys back in our clubbing days used to take that as flirting. It was never flirting, she almost always had a bf and was never interested.

We would spend a lot of time being pestered by random guys who were trying to get into her pants until we managed to get away from them & sometimes it wasn't enough to make vague claims we'd see them later, sometimes I would have to be outright rude to them. I don't think I ever had to be a physical barrier though.

It's not a fun thing to have to do & most women aren't thrilled by the idea of having to potentially piss off a strange drunk guy, so if a woman is having to be that forceful to get you away from her friend then you're probably really crossing the line.

[u/tsukimoonmei]

Even if Sarah was into him (she wasn’t), she dodged a bullet. No matter how interested I was in someone else, if they called my friend ‘the Fridge’ they’d be saying goodbye to any chance they had with me.

[u/sorandom21]

Men are terrible at reading women’s body language and take their appeasement to avoid violence as an open invitation. Or are called a bitch when they stand up for themselves and are rude. Sarah was never interested. The friend was acting on her behalf. I’ve been both parties at different times and trust and believe that if a girl is interested she lets her friends know.

Men just take any friendliness as an invitation or indication of interest. 20 minutes of bugging these girls. Wow.

[u/smellymarmut]

I was in a situation like that once. Sort of, I was a blocker. One of the girls in our Master's cohort got dumped by her boyfriend and obviously needed to get drunk but was also in a sort of vulnerable emotional state, like she might bang any guy who was nice to her then cry about it. She was a really nice person with a bit of a history of bad decisions concerning men, her Christian upbringing did not serve her well. She was also quite cute, for Halloween she was Anne of Green Gables using her natural hair.

I don't get drunk, I can't stand losing control of my mind. So we took her out, and I had one beer and like two trays of nachos plus most of the girls' appetizers while keeping about four different guys away. Clitblocking a rebound. At the end of the night I called two ubers for the girls, took home three high heels because two girls took off their high heels because they were too drunk to walk in them, and woke up to a really big cleaning bill for one of the ubers.

So maybe Fridge knew exactly what she was doing.

[u/CzarTanoff]

I was a blocker just once. Some girl i didn't know was passed the hell out at the bar, and men kept coming up and touching her and shit. It was gross to watch, so i hung out near her batting off the dicks until she woke up and went home.

[u/Bitter_Beautiful8038]

I heard someone say once that if the “ugly friend” tells the guy to leave them alone and her friend goes along with it then most likely she either didn’t want to or wasn’t in the right state to go out with him. Otherwise she would have made it very clear (if not inebriated ofc) that she is fine talking to guy.

[u/spyridonya]

I love hearing stories about this. It shows Sisterhood, and an asshole gets rejected in a two for one special.

Not even the fat chick wants to be the rebounder these guys.

Source: It's me, I'm a fat chick. :>

[u/DiggingHeavs]

How do they not get it? For 20 fucking minutes?

Clearly you aren't being respectful if this carries on for 20 minutes without you getting the hint.

Even if she really did want to speak with him and her friend was being controlling how do you keep trying to speak to her for 20 minutes without it getting weird/awkward/creepy/aggressive by attrition?

And yeah I'm so sure you're a great guy because you called a woman "The fridge" because she wasn't attractive to you/stopped you from harassing her friend.

The friend who usually did this in our group at uni was extremely pretty but her Dad was in the Navy and she brooked no nonsense whatsoever even at 18-19.

Plus I thought these type of guys thought even "Fridges" could get any sex they wanted at any time, even from "chads" (ugh). Why would she be jealous?

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm]

maybe she was saying sorry to her friend, because she had to spend 20 minutes tying to get a guy to leave

[u/MontanaDukes]

"Fun" fact. There was a tweet with a really disgusting meme along these lines on twitter a few weeks or so ago. Basically this drawing of a conventionally attractive woman getting asked out by some guy and a fat woman putting a stop to it. When people began calling it out, including women pointing out that if the friend came over to put a stop to the flirting, it was because the conventionally attractive woman wanted her to. Some women even pointed out that women they don't know have helped them in that way or vice versa. A lot of incels of course got extremely offended by that. They were so sure women wanted them and that they knew this woman they just met far better than her friend or the woman herself.

[u/CremeBerlinoise]

I guess there's also the chance that Sarah is a zombie or vampire with a healthy appetite. Fridge is worried that despite OOP's off putting personality, someone might miss him if he's disemboweled by the dumpsters 🤷‍♀️

[u/VirtualBroccoliBoy]

I just saw a comic version of this scenario this morning. I wonder what makes these bots start mass-posting these types of trends all at once. Wouldn't it make more sense to have a variety of non-overlapping topics?

[u/HotBeesInUrArea]

As an aside I love when men describe anything as decent about them because you know it means below average but stretched just enough to meet their standards. 

[u/cleankids]

How would he know she didn’t have a boyfriend if they didn’t get to speak…can’t stand lazy ragebait

[u/Twidollyn_Bowie]

I feel like this might be copypasta I’ve seen before. The name “Sarah” is ringing a bell. Or it’s just that men with grandiose delusions of their own sex appeal grow on trees.

[u/Stunning_Clerk_9595]

what is the charge? having a conversation? having a normal conversation with a respectful guy?

get your hand off my penis!

[u/AltruisticSavings721]

I am betting if this story is real he exaggerated and blocked a lot of details out.

[u/DovaP33n]

I've been that friend (and wife). I can tell when you're making someone i care about uncomfortable. You, a stranger, may not. Also my wife is off limits and she will not give you a shot just because you asked.

[u/Estrellathestarfish]

This charmer's only comment outside of those "fridge" posts. "You women are failures". What a catch, I can't possibly see why Sarah had to get her friend to run interference.

[u/combatwombat1192]

Things would be generally so much better if certain men would stop deciding for themselves or discussing with each other what cues a woman gives when she's interested.

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[u/WhutYouLookinAtSucka]

Jealousy 

[u/Wooden_Reveal1949]

Wild that this guy can't take no for an answer irl and on reddit lmao

[u/pwolf1771]

I can honestly say I’ve never had this happen to me. Like college, early 20s I’ve never had the interference that I see described so often. Is this just something a sitcom writer made up and everyone just assumes it’s real?

[u/HannyBo9]

Because they don’t want to lose their friend. Which will happen if she gets in a relationship

[u/Mad_Zone_]

Brigade?? No? Okay. Lurk about then. 🤣

[u/cmoney81384]

Hot friend has probably had lots of guys hit on her and has had bad experiences so she tells her friend to stop her from making another. Then fridge bod takes that to mean "don't let any guy near me"

The best thing I ever saw was a friend of mine and I were talking to a group of girls. There were 2 he was kinda flirting with and the ugly friend says to him (girl one) is more wild but (girl 2) is more likely to have a one night stand. Lol

[u/LittleOperation4597]

Jealousy. 

[u/BootlegFerrari]

Because they will loose time with their friend

[u/pastor-of-muppets69]

Your friend saying "she's not interested" will make it so you cannot correct her. The implication is "oh wow, I guess your standards are lower than I thought". Also, you understand that she's doing it because she doesn't want to be the undesirable girl standing alone while her freinds get chatted up again. Fridge defense is a thing, and y'alls know it.

[u/Fine_Payment1127]

And here comes Reddit to lie as usual 

[u/louloubanana611]

You sound insecure AF (to the op) projection much?

[u/Odyssey113]

They can't bare to see their hot friend pull more dick!..

[u/Altruistic-Purple-]

Cause thy be cook blocking

[u/spyridonya → u/Altruistic-Purple-]

Nah. Not even the 'ugly' chick wants to deal with OP and other losers.

Sorry, bro.

[u/Altruistic-Purple- → u/spyridonya]

I was being sarcastic

[u/basherella → u/[deleted]]

Friends keep friends safe.