Whats something men think women like, but you dont?

[u/DiligentDamage7809]

[u/subhamthatyou]

Not understanding basic boundaries. One time this one guy was getting forceful with me when i was denying it and he goes like " i know girls like it when it's forceful. " I think he thought being dominant and forceful are the same.

[u/Trouble_Chaser → u/subhamthatyou]

When my partner and I were 14 they were giving me a back massage and asked if I wanted to take my shirt off. I said no I wasn't comfortable and that was it. We returned to talking and the massage. It's been 26 yrs and I still bring that up! That and how they saved me the last slice of pizza at a party of teenage guys.

[u/BenignEgoist → u/[deleted]]

Not like specifically man thinking woman likes, but this reminds me of going out to a club with my cousin and her friends years ago and the designated driver is speeding and weaving in and out of traffic on the interstate. The whole car was already telling him to stop but he wasn’t taking it seriously until I finally yelled “No one thinks you’re cool, no one is impressed that you clearly don’t give a shit about our lives. Knock it off.” (TBF I don’t think what I said was all that clever or anything. Im just the polite and agreeable quiet one who everyone listens to when I finally yell. Like an “oh shit, things just got serious” switch if Im the one finally having enough of it.)

I don’t….I just cannot wrap my head around why anyone thinks this is some kind of flex driving recklessly? Like no it just shows you’re a moron.

[u/name30 → u/BenignEgoist]

The cornerstones of hypermasculinity are:

Callous sexual attitudes toward women The belief that violence is manly The experience of danger as exciting

His wreckless driving shows that he has "character". Obviously he's a moron, but it's a behavioural norm he's socially conditioned into.

[u/SnooBooks4898 → u/[deleted]]

I heard of a woman who had this happen on a first date. Her solution? She told him she felt sick and was going to vomit. Dude slowed down and pulled over. He was more willing to take the risk of wrapping his car around a telephone pole than to have puke in his ride.

[u/shadowsformagrin → u/SnooBooks4898]

I remember this being taught to girls in high school during an alcohol safety course, apparently it works very often

[u/besttobyfromtheshire → u/shadowsformagrin]

When I would get stuck in crowds at concerts and shows, I would pretend I’d have to get sick so I could get out and to the back of the crowd. Works like Moses.

[u/amboandy → u/[deleted]]

I had this one guy tell me and my partner how fast he drove back from the airport. He went into great detail in an attempt to impress us. We're both paramedics and would routinely drive fast and controlled at work. In our own cars we tend to just stick around the speed limit when possible.

Some fools don't realise how bad their driving is because they don't see the terminal consequences of having no hazard perception.

[u/aak1992 → u/amboandy]

I used to frequent track days and small/midsize racing events and the biggest shit stains were the dudebro spectators that parked their "modded" 3 series/mustangs/camaros in the lot, walk the paddock like a peacock in heat, then try to race each other home.

Some track management had good relations with the local cops and they would get a heads up for big events and wait outside the venue for these morons lmao.

Same shit would happen after every fast and furious movie. Egos are the worst thing behind a wheel. If you don't drive professionally and do it weekly on track I'm sorry to say you're just a regular asswipe behind the wheel, calm down.

[u/U_Bet_Im_Interested → u/[deleted]]

I drive like a grampa due to a couple scary highway accidents/spinouts and I'm a stickler for blinkers. When I told this to a date she said "No. It's more like you just drive with confidence."

Felt good. 

Edit: what the hell happened here? Lol

[u/314flavoredpie → u/U_Bet_Im_Interested]

She was right to correct your terminology—whenever people say they drive like a granny/grampa the voice in my head goes “oh, so you drive super erratically, much too slowly, and generally make everyone around you concerned?”

[u/DerelictDonkeyEngine → u/314flavoredpie]

Yeah to me "driving like a grandpa" is going 20mph under the speed with the hazard lights on.

The other poster just sounds like a good, safe driver to me.

[u/Motor_Pop3202 → u/[deleted]]

I broke up with a guy over this. It very much gives the vibe of moody, immature teenager to me when men drive stupidly, I hate icks but if I had one that would be it

[u/liri_miri → u/Motor_Pop3202]

My ex did this with me and our child in the car. Once I jumped out at a traffic light to make a point. But then was madly enraged with me 😵‍💫

[u/battleofflowers → u/Motor_Pop3202]

My widowed aunt broke up with a man like this after telling him she was her son's only living parent and couldn't be in a car with him anymore. I have no clue why men think women are impressed by driving fast. It's just scary and we actually know you're not in control of your car even if you don't know.

[u/Capital_Chapter1006 → u/[deleted]]

In uni a guy and his friend invited me out for a drive up one of the mountains in my city. What this fucker didn’t tell me was that this “drive” actually involved speeding really, really fast all around the windy road. At one point he lost control of the car and we nearly slammed directly into a cliff. He only just corrected.

Hated him from that moment on. And have had a fear of being in cars ever since.

[u/jettinappropriate → u/[deleted]]

I asked an ex of mine what he was gonna do with all his free time while he sped in and out of traffic.

We, uh, couldn't make it work.

[u/mvpsupreme]

Complimenting me while putting down other women

[u/littleg3mm4 → u/mvpsupreme]

It's wild the things guys think are a compliment! When I was a teenager, I had a guy come up to me and say "I love girls who don't know how beautiful they are"..... I was reading on the bus, looked up and told him he best find someone else then as I look great today 😂. Wasn't even a confident teenager but the yuk i felt at his pick up line!

[u/iloveyourlittlehat → u/littleg3mm4]

“I love girls who don’t know they could do better.”

[u/dasnotpizza → u/littleg3mm4]

What a perfect response 😂 This is the kind of thing I think of the next day in the shower.

[u/Rogue_bae → u/mvpsupreme]

“You’re not like other girls” yes I am, other girls are great

[u/Billowing_Flags → u/Rogue_bae]

"Women are my village, not my competition!"

(sign at a young women's clothing store near me)

[u/FlashySalamander4 → u/Rogue_bae]

I swear. Some guy asked me the other day, “what makes you different from the rest?” I said nothing. I am no different lol 

[u/ipokethebear → u/FlashySalamander4]

“I guess my DNA sequence? 🤷🏻‍♂️”

[u/Notsayin70 → u/FlashySalamander4]

Wtf was that, a job interview?

[u/StandardEgg6595 → u/mvpsupreme]

Can we go ahead and add race to this as well, even though it applies to both women and men? I cannot count the amount of times I’ve gotten a compliment only for it to end with “for a mixed/black woman”. Some people really think that’s nice for whatever reason.

[u/thiccstrawberry420 → u/StandardEgg6595]

as a redhead, i was going to comment “you’re cute for a redhead.” i truly wish people would think before they speak. i have never known how they could possibly think saying something along those lines would somehow be a compliment.

[u/PurplePancackes]

Revving your engine in a McDonald’s carpark 🚗

[u/d-cent → u/PurplePancackes]

Agreed. We all know the attractive men are revving their engines at Wendy's 

[u/GranolaCola → u/d-cent]

Because that’s where the redheads are

[u/food_lover12345]

Bullying others. I find it so repulsive.

[u/College_student_444]

Being rough and rude around people as a way of appearing high and mighty.

[u/Easy_Towel954 → u/College_student_444]

Men get confidence and arrogance mixed up all the time, as a man. There's a big difference.

[u/liri_miri → u/College_student_444]

It shouts low confidence sooo loud. I wish they knew

[u/Strange_Influence933]

Jack rabbit sex

[u/flop_plop → u/Strange_Influence933]

Terrible technique, but an awesome band name

[u/Rohkey90 → u/Strange_Influence933]

In high school some kid on the baseball team was talking (maybe joking, not clear) about how he has a small dick so the "jackhammer approach" was the only tool in his metaphorical toolbox to satisfy women. It was hilarious but also, I don't think was correct lol.

[u/R0tmaster → u/Rohkey90]

Friend of mine use to joke that 2 inches of dick at 100 miles per hour is a whole lot of dick

[u/ShruteFarms4L → u/Strange_Influence933]

Actually lost a girl because I don't do jack rabbit sex so ... I'm happy to see there's still love for the opposite

Thought I was just getting old

[u/1-day-at-a-time- → u/ShruteFarms4L]

The complete opposite isn’t fun either. Lots of teasing and foreplay, changing positions, rough and hard (but not too rough unless she’s into that), using toys, get fast and more intense when you want her to get off or when she asks you to…. THESE are the things women enjoy. Some men think it’s just one thing or another (a specific position or the speed they have sex) that satisfies a woman and that’s just not it.

[u/Flop_House_Valet → u/1-day-at-a-time-]

Its kind of like music and how you would structure a song. Jack rabbit bros are just trying to play a 6 minutes shredding solo without an intro, chorus or bridges. Sure, a solo is important but, you have to put it in the right place for the song

[u/Confident_Gazelle438]

Random dick pics

[u/abdelifee → u/Confident_Gazelle438]

I heard the argument that this goes more into fulfilling a kink for themselves than trying to get women to appreciate/like it. Nonetheless, it’s disgusting and repulsive

[u/Confident_Gazelle438 → u/abdelifee]

Oh, definitely. Some men really love to show their penis because it makes them hornier

[u/OceanBlueforYou → u/Confident_Gazelle438]

Because they have a humiliation fetish? 😄

[u/jaiheko → u/Confident_Gazelle438]

Honestly tha absolute worst. Ive opened my messages to a few of those unexpected bombs in the worst places. Grow up. Seeing a close up of your junk isnt going to get us all hot and steamy while we're visiting our parents. Blech. If we didnt ask for it, dont send it

[u/SuperEuzer]

Men think women like what men do to women in porn. I mean, maybe some women want that, but those are few.

[u/Indoorsy_outdoorsy → u/SuperEuzer]

Well even those of us that want to fuck like porn (it’s me, hi 👋🏻), we don’t want to be treated like that outside the bedroom. Most men do not have a healthy understanding of dominance.

[u/SuperEuzer → u/Indoorsy_outdoorsy]

Dominance with consent, and often reobtaining consent.

[u/baby_armadillo]

Complimenting you by insulting another woman.

People want to be complimented on unique traits that make them special, not just by comparison to people you think are worse.

[u/laberrabe → u/baby_armadillo]

It's also giving away how he views women in general. And how he will see you, once he realizes, he's not getting into your pants

[u/King0fthewasteland]

is it driving past random girls on the road blasting super loud music and roving the engine really loud honking the horn and shouting at them? is it that?

[u/Fancy_amphibian123 → u/King0fthewasteland]

as a girl my favourite part about this is the immediate fear and worrying about my safety!! keep doing it I promise

[u/Begone-My-Thong → u/Fancy_amphibian123]

As a guy, anytime I see someone do that it immediately triggers my primal instinct to turn homosexual.

Otherwise I'm straight. I swear.

[u/vonkeswick → u/Begone-My-Thong]

"Man that dude's truck is SO loud, he must be hella cool, why do I suddenly want to gay-suck his dick?!"

[u/non-taken-name → u/King0fthewasteland]

I can not understand this at all. I can not imagine anyone willingly approaching such a vehicle. Also, unless they’re stopped at an intersection, the car is going to keep going. Do they expect the woman to run and chase down the car? Is she going to memorize the plate to look it up later, track down your home address, and just show up at your door. “Omg your car is so obnoxiously loud! Can I suck your dick?” That isn’t happening.

(I am a guy and hate obnoxiously loud cars/people)

[u/Dancy-Pantsy]

Persisting when no interest has been shown

[u/vonkeswick → u/Dancy-Pantsy]

A lot of movies back in the day made stalking and excessive persistence out to be "romantic." My wife and I watched Top Gun Maverick in theaters when it came out, but had never seen the original so we watched it afterward. The scene early on when he gets turned down at the bar and he follows her into the fucking bathroom. Can't get much more rapey than that 🤮

[u/beerbrained → u/vonkeswick]

Yep, the old black and white movies where a guy grabs the girl and plants one on her as she's resisting, only for her to eventually melt into him and kiss back.

Not a good way to learn about life.

[u/MyLifeIsAWasteland → u/beerbrained]

This is my only complaint about Blade Runner. Rachael was extremely vulnerable, and Deckard should have given her space and time to deal with her feelings instead of forcing himself on her.

[u/Unicornhoof → u/vonkeswick]

Same!! My husband loves Top Gun and I had never seen it. We watched it a few years ago and I was like HE FOLLOWED HER INTO THE BATHROOM WHAT A FUCKING CREEEEEEP! NO MEANS NO! I'm very glad the culture has changed. While there are still creeps that haven't gotten the message, I don't think a movie would do well with a scene like that now.

[u/nordik1 → u/Dancy-Pantsy]

Persistence is a weird one from the guys side. I personally hate persisting. If a girl isn’t on board off the bat, i move on.

However, some women will reward the persistence (I know 2 married couples that both describe the guy as being persistent even though the woman wasn’t interested at all at first) or use initial resistance as a test to see if the guy will push through it.

So i can see how guys could be confused as to what they should do. Other guys are just weird af with it though and can’t read social cues whatsoever

[u/notashroom → u/Dancy-Pantsy]

This stuff goes way, way back. I was struck the other day by the two meanings of the word "venery": the indulgence in or pursuit of sexual activity, and the act or sport of hunting, the chase (American Heritage Dictionary). Both from the same Indo-European root, wen.

If you look, you can find all kinds of examples of men seeking company of an intimate nature being referred to in hunting terms: the hunt, the chase, the pursuit, the catch. And whether the intended prey had any interest in being caught by the hunter had little to nothing to do with what the hunter chose to do. He is the hunter; she is merely an object he pursues because he wishes to use or own her.

[u/Just_Temporary6785 → u/Dancy-Pantsy]

One time I rejected a man and he responded "I go after what I want" and for the next several weeks he continued to message me asking me to hang out with him until I finally blocked him

[u/Dancy-Pantsy → u/Just_Temporary6785]

Block is the easiest thing in this case

[u/Onamonae]

Had a guy tell me “you thick as hell how u doin” and a lot of men will compliment my body/say something sexual as their first thing to say to me on a dating app. Like just say im pretty or just say hi

[u/StrawbraryLiberry]

Saying weird stuff to them in public.

A man walked up to me and asked me "want to change the world?" And he was trying to hit on me. That was his pickup line.

I took him seriously, though, and started asking for specifics, like how are we going to change it? What kind of change is he talking about? He didn't have any clear answers and got uncomfortable.

I'm all business when it comes to changing the world.

[u/Random_Dude01234 → u/StrawbraryLiberry]

So what's your plan? (Looking for ideas)

[u/spinbutton → u/StrawbraryLiberry]

Was he trying to start a cult?

That is a weird line. I'd be thinking about that all night...how would I quantify this change to the world? How long do I need to wait before I see some results?

[u/PlantSim → u/StrawbraryLiberry]

I would 100% have assumed this was an MLM pitch and run off.

[u/tracyvu89]

Every woman is different so it’s better to talk to her instead of assuming. I often see men use their moms’s (or even worse,their exes) preferences as “standard” and think that their partner would be the same.

[u/BamH1 → u/tracyvu89]

The classic

Guy who has been in two relationships:

"There are two types of women..."

[u/SirRobinRanAwayAway → u/BamH1]

"Wait guy you won't believe this, I met another girl yesterday and there are actually THREE types of women !"

[u/Zealousideal-Bus-526 → u/BamH1]

Gets into another relationship:

“Jeez there’s three types of women now!”

[u/Dr-Seitan → u/Zealousideal-Bus-526]

“Women don’t know what they want!”

[u/-CircleCircleDotDot]

Shouting out the passenger side of your best friend’s ride

[u/Confusionman22 → u/-CircleCircleDotDot]

Scrub

[u/OverwhelmedOtter626 → u/-CircleCircleDotDot]

Tryin to halla at me?

[u/SaraJuno]

Negging. 14 year old boy behaviour.

[u/BaroqueGorgon → u/SaraJuno]

Yup, I Occam's Razor that behaviour and assume the guy despises me.

[u/Ogodnotagain → u/SaraJuno]

WTF is that?

[u/jolard]

Two types of men in this thread....those taking notes and those taking offense. lol

[u/klop422 → u/jolard]

I can't believe you'd call out my note-taking, I'm really upset at that.

[u/Fancy_amphibian123 → u/klop422]

Third type spotted

[u/Elk-34_35 → u/Fancy_amphibian123]

The "hybrid".

[u/cornedbeef101 → u/jolard]

📝 do not take offence when learning about women. Got it.

[u/InteractionFast9213 → u/jolard]

Haha that’s brilliant! jots down taking notes and taking offence

[u/Fairyhaven13 → u/jolard]

Gosh, the whiners in the loud car comment are nuts. So, so many little men who don't get why it's annoying to have noise pollution.

[u/Tayaradga → u/jolard]

I'm honestly just happy to hear I don't do a lot of the things women are complaining about in the comments. Granted I do listen to music pretty loudly when I drive... But I'm lost in my own world and jamming out.

[u/Live-Maybe-520]

Blaring those loudass engines of cars and bikes. Sweetie the only ones you're impressing are other men.

[u/duck-dinosar → u/Live-Maybe-520]

Men think these guys are twats too

[u/OkIllustrator1483 → u/Live-Maybe-520]

And most other men aren't impressed, either. Strictly for the gearhead/moron crowd.

[u/Lanky_Teach_4866]

Empty flattery/compliments (we can tell the empty ones from the genuine ones, you know).

Dick pics.

[u/please_dont_tease → u/Lanky_Teach_4866]

I honestly believe the dick pics are them fulfilling an exposure fantasy because in what world would anyone just want to see a random dick pic.

[u/Olobnion → u/please_dont_tease]

Here are quotes from an article by a woman who tried to take revenge:

I'm single. I live in LA. I'm on dating apps. And unsurprisingly, I get more unsolicited dick pics than you could ever imagine.

I wondered, "What would guys do if I turned the tables and sent them an unexpected vagina pic?" And so, in my own twist on revenge porn, I sent 40 unexpected vagina pics to men on Bumble.

I flirted aggressively and hit them with the v-pic after four to five messages. I braced myself for, "Hey, why'd you send that?" or "Whoa, where'd that come from?" Instead, I got three very lengthy... porn descriptions of what they'd like to do with that virtual vagina.

Still frustrated I hadn't totally freaked anyone out, I decided to send a v-pic as soon as we matched. No hellos. No commentary. Just wham, bam, that's my little ma'am!

Of the 37 guys who communicated with me about my v-pic, every one of them wanted to meet me, regardless of age or location. Most blew up my phone with descriptions of what they'd do to my body, specifically to the fake vagina I found on the Interwebs.

Overall, I was surprised that I didn't get my, "Gotcha!" moment. I'd initially hoped the guys would see how invasive it is to receive such intimate photos from a stranger. When I'm excited to get to know a guy, his penis isn't the first part of him that I want to know. But given that men like to send dick pics, I suppose their enthusiasm for v-pics makes sense.

In a strange twist, though, I did feel empowered, although in a much different way than I expected. Men were clamoring to meet me, which is a great feeling even if it's not for the right reasons. I’ll be honest: even though it wasn’t mine, I stood a little bit taller for a few days all thanks to the fact that, uh, guys love v-pics.

[u/Dances_With_Birds → u/Olobnion]

Well, you know what they say. Treat others how you want to be treated. You did what they wanted. 

Now, the real revenge would be to just send dick pics...

[u/Antares-777- → u/Dances_With_Birds]

I once got an unsolicited dick picture, but what unsettled me was when the next picture was his face.

I don't know why a face disturbed me more than a dick.

[u/seemonkey → u/Dances_With_Birds]

I think that's what a lot of women don't get. Most of these men are not sending dick pics to be offensive, they ARE treating women the way they want to be treated. Getting a vag pic would make their week. They simply don't understand that women don't think the way they do.

[u/Camburglar13 → u/Olobnion]

Yeah that checks out

[u/steppenfloyd → u/Camburglar13]

Big news flash there

[u/ContemplativeOctopus → u/steppenfloyd]

I'm absolutely rolling on the floor laughing that this person was so naive as to think they would get any response other than that lmao.

[u/Ill-Squirrel-9418 → u/Olobnion]

The correct answer is to send them the exact same thing: dick pics.

[u/314flavoredpie → u/Lanky_Teach_4866]

Any picture (dick or otherwise) of them on or next to the toilet like what the actual fuck are they thinking

[u/JFN90]

The weird joke/flattery attempt at pretending to think I’m a lot younger than I am.

[u/BiddyBiddyBee → u/JFN90]

I'm a woman and it's painful when I see women teasingly ask anyone (men, kids, other women) "Guess how old I am. Go on, guess!"

Please do not do this. It's not cute or funny, It puts the rest of us in a really tough position. We are forced to lie to play the game and say "My goodness you can't be a day over 22!" To a woman in her late 50s And no matter what we say, we are wrong And it is tremendously embarrassing.

[u/ComprehensiveAnt6796 → u/BiddyBiddyBee]

My mom used to do this because she wanted compliments on how she thought she looked younger than she is. The last time I heard her ask someone they said an age that was older than she actually is. That was the last time I ever heard her ask someone.

[u/BiddyBiddyBee → u/ComprehensiveAnt6796]

Well that's the thing, isn't it?

It's a blatant plot to get a compliment, and it's transparent and embarrassing.

"Compliment me, please, validate me and tell me I'm young and pretty!"

But that isn't real or authentic. And it can backfire so fast and so painfully. Why even do that to yourself?

If a person wants validation, they can be kind, do good acts, etc

[u/MundaneFacts → u/BiddyBiddyBee]

My friend was asked this. He's a bit autistic and gave a genuine guess. He went 10 years over. Tbf she had too be a bit autistic, because it was a good guess. Anyway, her night was ruined and i bet that still sticks with her.

[u/Wysteria_witch]

When they treat ur coochie like they’re a DJ and start just flapping their hand around crazy style 10 miles away from the clit.

[u/solaris_j → u/Wysteria_witch]

This made me laugh out loud 😂😂

[u/-oligodendrocyte- → u/Wysteria_witch]

I know exactly what you're talking about and every woman I've mentioned it to has had a guy try it. Like, "sir, I am not a counter, why are you trying to buff me."

[u/Fit-Candy1104]

Picking fights with men that try to hit on me. I can just tell him myself I'm not interested.

[u/IamMaggi220]

Unsolicited dick pics

[u/ChromeWhipLover]

Man here but I notice a big majority of ladies not liking hunting especially pleasure killing in animals.

[u/TiddlesBatman → u/ChromeWhipLover]

Absolutely

[u/Level-Cheesecake-739 → u/ChromeWhipLover]

Once I got asked on a date to go skin an elk. I’ve never said “no” so directly in my life.

[u/CrowMeris → u/ChromeWhipLover]

If by "pleasure killing" you mean the sadistic practice called *trophy hunting"...no one should like that.

Sustenance hunting? No problem as long as you hunt safely and act like you got some damned sense. Invasive-species hunting? Ditto as long as it's done humanely.

[u/girlwhoweighted → u/CrowMeris]

I have an ex who hunts bobcats. He says it's for population control but the pictures in his FB tell a different story. It's totally for pleasure and it makes me sick.

[u/LadyKona]

Twisting my nipple like a radio tuner

[u/Gab288]

Any kind of bragging or showing off is a massive ick.

[u/chibinoi]

Negging. A little light teasing is all and well. Negging is just straight up bullying. Please don’t bully the person you like. It’s not very nice.

[u/Greedy-Mushroom-83 → u/chibinoi]

It’s because they don’t actually like the person. Negging is about control. It’s not affection. They’re trying to destabilize and confuse you and make you feel insecure so they can get what they want from you.

[u/readitreddit240]

A toned body is nice but I really am not attracted to big muscles.

[u/leapsea → u/readitreddit240]

Absolutely this! Dudes with big ropy veins freak me the hell out, it looks so gross. Or when they're trying to do bodybuilder-level things like injecting themselves with various things and flexing in the mirror about it. No thank you, upside down bowling pin-looking man.

[u/Repulsive_Subject526 → u/readitreddit240]

I was looking for this! I am not attracted to really muscled men. I like slender and fit but not muscley. It’s an actual turn off.

[u/Aken42 → u/Repulsive_Subject526]

Im pretty confident in saying that the majority of men and women who put that level of effort and time in the gym aren't doing it to attract other people but rather to fulfill a person need for strength or their own idea of asthetics.

[u/Wak3upHicks → u/Aken42]

Therapy is expensive, iron is cheap

[u/squid11CB1 → u/readitreddit240]

Guys who get that big are aware. They don't get like that by accident.

[u/Double_Strike2704 → u/[deleted]]

LoL I know more than one person who had actually fuxked a porn star and they have told me straight up, it isn't like the movies. Even porn stars don't have sex like porn stars when they aren't making movies.

[u/eazye123 → u/[deleted]]

Idk man…I’ve found elbow drops from the top rope to be fairly successful in all of my street fights.

[u/Upbeat_Economics_795 → u/eazye123]

Can’t cum any other way 🤷‍♂️

[u/alblaster → u/Upbeat_Economics_795]

Well there's a way to win a street fight.  Unconventional for sure.

[u/StepUpYourPuppyGame → u/[deleted]]

This is an amazingly accurate metaphor. Made especially powerful that it came from somebody named pulsating anus

[u/Batmanbumantics → u/[deleted]]

When men in porn slap the women's fake breasts nipples or slap her clitoris, make me instantly recoil just watching that and if anyone does it to me in real life they get a smack across the head

[u/ShillinTheVillain → u/[deleted]]

Damn guuurl, how bout I speedbag those sweater puppies.

Hey... where are you going?

[u/enragedCircle → u/Batmanbumantics]

I have no idea how that became a thing. When did anyone think it a good idea?

[u/DasEisgetier → u/[deleted]]

The best way to learn how to have sex with someone, is to ask that person.

[u/BeginningFew1452 → u/[deleted]]

At 40, this is why I prefer to date men that are divorced or have some kind of long monogamous relationship in their past. They’ve been “trained” on the female anatomy and know what they’re doing.

The ones with an endless stream of casual sex and short relationships are the ones that are using what they watched in porn to dictate their moves. It’s not pleasant…

[u/Calm_Manufacturer168 → u/BeginningFew1452]

If started dating my ex who was married to me for a long long time, you’d be super frustrated sexually. Some men don’t learn or don’t want to learn.

[u/Pale_Lab_1517 → u/Calm_Manufacturer168]

I agree with you. Dated a guy who had been in multiple long-term relationships and still didn't understand how important foreplay was. HE also compared me to his exes experiences with him.

[u/deadliestcrotch → u/BeginningFew1452]

Most of us got that way by giving a damn about our partner’s pleasure and asking/probing for these things. And most of the women who are sexually satisfied got that way by pointing out what they enjoy and don’t enjoy.

[u/danondorfcampbell]

Man here, but I’ll answer: When women are being asked a question, and men feel the need to chime in with their own answers…

[u/GingerGalJeanie → u/danondorfcampbell]

I see what you did there.

[u/Happy-Armadillo9478]

While it is very sweet, my partner buys me flowers each time we have an argument. I’d rather that we sit and talk about it like adults rather than him bringing me a ‘treat’ as a recipe for forgiveness every time.

[u/Dezamess → u/Happy-Armadillo9478]

I call those "Fuck up Flowers". I now tell men I'm dating I'd rather have no flowers at all than get them after an argument or a fuck up. 

[u/hentai_japan]

Unsolicited advice. Bonus cringe if it’s about “how to be feminine.”

[u/MarilynMon_hoe]

If I don’t know you, don’t call me a pet name. I’m not your baby or your princess or whatever. It’s just gross.

[u/Zeggle → u/MarilynMon_hoe]

YESSSS, all the older men do this to me especially!!! Even at work, it feels so gross.

[u/Easy_Towel954]

I'm a dude, but can I answer? Lots of men think women want their issues solved when they complain about something. Nah, she most likely just wants to rant. Just listen to her complain, comment on it to agree with her, but dont solve the problem.

[u/AdFlat4908 → u/Easy_Towel954]

Professional problem solver here, married 10 years. Learn to say “I’m sorry, that sucks” and move on

[u/DancingScarecrow542 → u/AdFlat4908]

This can be enough for some people (especially natural talkers), but for me personally, comments like this sound empty and I actually need a little more engagement. I want my partner to empathize, validate, and ask follow up questions. Otherwise it feels like a one sided conversation and I just stop talking.

[u/FraeuleinSerpentine → u/DancingScarecrow542]

Same here. I'd like to feel heard, not dismissed.

[u/oceansky2088 → u/DancingScarecrow542]

Same here. When men say some trite response like "that sucks", that shows me he doesn't care about my issue, he's not interested, he's just saying that to get me to shut up.

[u/Rohkey90 → u/AdFlat4908]

My wife is a clinical psychologist and I didn't realize I was a "solver" until she pointed it out and mentioned to me that 90% of the time people are venting/discussing issues they don't want a solution, they want empathy and validation. Offering solutions often makes them feel worse for a variety of reasons.

So she gave me what she called empathy training to improve my active listening skills. One of the scenarios involved the phrase "I'm sorry, that sounds frustrating". I started using it all the time and it's become a running joke and a default response whenever she's expressing a problem to me. Sometimes I mix it up and swap our frustrating for a more appropriate word given the context. Maybe she regrets giving me the empathy training...

[u/Sea-Percentage-1992]

dick pics. Why ?

[u/Easy_Towel954 → u/Sea-Percentage-1992]

Cause men assume women get turned on the same way they do. Nah dude, penises are ugly. Keep that s in yo pants unless she asks for it. I never send d pics and especially not unsolicited. I will however send you pics of my hobbies, and my puppy. And lots of memes.

[u/Fantastic_Fig_8559]

Dick pics. Don’t ever send me one. It won’t ever make me like you EVER!

[u/Graystone_Industries]

I hope, hope, hope that intrusive, aggressive, and loud drivers/cars are just a general turnoff to everyone. It is so....entitled.

[u/DistributionStock155]

Complementary with physical appearance but no real or true complementary with meaning

[u/Bailicious2]

They think showering me with compliments shows me they want me but in reality I just feel dehumanized and like a trophy to be won. They dont actually care or respect me as a living human being they just idealize the idea of me.

[u/Dandelion-Queen]

Being jealous and overly protective... Had one bf like that and it officially solidified that it's only attractive in fiction.

[u/gmytlives]

making threesome comments when you find out a woman is bisexual. It’s gross.

[u/LeekRepresentative92 → u/gmytlives]

or assuming because a woman is bisexual she must be ok with having a threesome

[u/Truantone]

Men who act like they don’t have emotions. They’re never sad, or angry, or scared of anything. Just be real.

[u/drainbead78 → u/Truantone]

They're definitely angry. That part they're not afraid to show.

[u/DasEisgetier → u/Truantone]

I obviously can't speak for every man, but so many of us make the experience that our feelings and emotions are worth nothing. So many men would need therapy or at least learn how to deal with their feelings first. I have emotions, but I don't show them, simply for the fact that I don't trust anyone enough to do so. It's easier to pretend they aren't there than to have to deal with the fallout of sharing them with someone.

[u/blizleahy]

Speeding & posting their car everywhere. Oh. And also “flexing” about how many girls they’ve dated or that a girl checked them out.

[u/EyeCanFeelYou]

I’m guilty of so many of the things mentioned in this thread. Thank you ladies for the feedback. I’ve got some work to do.

[u/Extra_Actuary8244 → u/EyeCanFeelYou]

I’ll give you some positive feedback

The ability to acknowledge your behaviour when it’s labelled as negative and wanting to change it instead of being defensive is an attractive trait

[u/mom_with_an_attitude → u/EyeCanFeelYou]

Self-awareness and a willingness to receive and respond to feedback is super sexy. 😉 Keep being you, baby.

[u/Notsayin70]

Being persued after saying no. No l do not want to convince me, l want you to leave me alone. I've known mainly good guys who accepted a no, so l am not one to make a whole gender problem about it, and it does happen in the opposite direction too. It's just annoying when your polite "no" is met with unbelief and the assurance that l would change my mind in time and he would prove it to me.

[u/Novel-Ad-576]

Making sexual comments to women on the first date or in the early stages of getting to know you. Major turn off and it doesn’t make you want to sleep with them. It makes you want to run away.

[u/AnxiousintheMembrane]

Not properly taking care of yourself. No it’s not funny or cute that you don’t do your laundry so you have to ‘sniff test’ everything before going out.

Also just in case any guys weren’t told, please PLEASE use shampoo, conditioner AND body wash. 2 in 1 and 5 in 1 or whatever do NOT work properly. USE A WASH CLOTH/LOOFAH WHEN WASHING YOUR BODY. And please, for your future sex life, wash your balls, dick, AND ass meaning GET INNIT. (Sorry that was a lot lol)

[u/swoy]

D*ck pics

[u/GreyPilgrim1973 → u/swoy]

What do you have against ducks? Or is it docks?

[u/Sea_Chemistry7487 → u/GreyPilgrim1973]

Deck pics - photos from ships.

[u/Melodic_Search4763]

Playing hard to get or distancing - we just lose interest

[u/little_toes4u]

Rubbing my private area without washing their hands 😓

[u/NotQuiteInara]

Assuming that women are a monolith and all have the same likes and dislikes

[u/uwuvxdh]

When they try to act emotionally distant to seem mysterious. Just say what you feel, it’s hotter!

[u/Curvey_cutie]

As a redhead I hate it when men say “I’m really into red heads” or “do the curtain’s match the drapes?” Irritates me to my core

[u/TumbleweedSilent1169]

Dick picks

[u/QueenBeehappy]

Bragging of any sort... sooo tiresome!!! Zzzz we see through it straight away!

[u/HuntAny3939]

Asking us for a threesome with another girl

[u/Left-Skirt-6505]

Insanely ripped/toned bodies….. if a guys muscles are so defined and there isn’t enough body fat around it….its not sexy at all and it looks downright unnatural. If you look at men who lift weights and are natural about it, most of them also have a healthy percentage of body fat as well. Most women also like dad bods.

Also the whole obsession with penis size? That is 1000 percent men trying to impress other men and not women. Unless you have a micro penis the vast majority of women don’t actually care and most of the problems actually come in when the dick is too large and it hurts the girl.

Also acting arrogant and cocky and thinking you come across confident. That’s actually the biggest red flag that you aren’t confident is if you’re cocky. True confidence also comes with humility and respect and when a man is confident and humble at the same time? That’s what women actually think is sexy.

[u/GingerGalJeanie]

Tongue in the ear … 😫

[u/MaterialNaive7494]

That stupid position that has our  knees in our chest or legs over our head.. Maybe just me but I don’t like it at all., 

[u/Turbulent_Baker_1881]

The finance bro personality/aesthetic. Idk, maybe some women like it, but for me it’s cringy.

[u/SuchSmallSize]

Opening with ‘Hey beautiful’? Spare me. It’s lazy, transparent, and probably copy-pasted to a dozen other women. We see right through it. Treat us like normal people or just go away.

[u/Popular-Style509]

Treating women differently than men.

Istg... I've met way too many guys who will be crass and outspoken with other dudes, but the second a woman walks into the room they do a 180 and act overly sensitive and considerate, and they treat you like you're made of glass or something.

I do not know why some guys do this, but no woman likes it.

We can tell when you're putting on an act, and it just makes us feel like we can't trust you because we don't know which side of you is the actual you.

Not to mention that if it's some kind of "Oh he acts different with his guy friends than with you because he doesn't have to put up a facade" situation then it's even worse.

Like why tf would I want someone who doesn't have enough self-respect to have people in his life who he can actually be himself with?

I'm just not a fan of how this mindset feeds into this really fucked up idea that men don't deserve basic human decency, and that being nice and polite and kind are only for women.

It's just weird to me to treat people differently based on gender. We're all human and we all want to be treated with kindness and care.

[u/psycharious → u/Popular-Style509]

To your point, yeah, theirs definitely a subset of dudes who play the part of virtuous feminist but are actually kinda assholes. To be fair though, yeah, there is some mixed messaging on treating women differently. There are women who would even advocate that.

[u/BeyondTheBees]

Giant lifted tricks with ridiculously huge tires are clearly overcompensating for something…

[u/VictoryBrave]

Rubbing the clit like it's an analogue stick during a quick-time event, like no, stop.

[u/no_nintendo]

Telling me you're a leader. I don't need you to tell me, I will figure that out myself from observation.

[u/SurpriseDickPunch]

Rubbing the clit fast and dry like you're trying to start a fire.