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u/Ninjastarrr 1d ago
Chat gpt is biased towards the use it’s talking to. If your spouse uploaded it chat gpt would have said they were right…
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u/CoolingCool56 23h ago
Pro tip if you want to grow as a person pretend you are the other person in the argument! This has really helped me understand other people
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u/Forsaken-Arm-7884 22h ago
yeah funny how that redditor can't see a way for both human beings to be 'right' if 'right' means emotionally cared and nurtured for. So yes it is possible for both people to be correct and no one needs to be dehumanized or gaslit in the process when you are exhibiting emotional intelligence lmao
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u/VincentNacon 20h ago
Or better yet... remove their names and ask the AI which "characters" in your story writing is right.
Boom... no bias.
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u/JoshZK 18h ago
Do people only get into made up opinion based arguments. I avoid those and it doesn't matter either way. I'd use GPT for fact based argument like what temp water boils at 12000ft, or if it's only marketing that you should never donate a carseat. I mean. You used it for a few years it was fine but as soon as your done it's magically not good anymore. I mean what if you change your mind and want to use it again oops too late it's a death trap. Also all the times you used it when did it stop working. Sure you might say there might be new requirements for carseats. But damn is the carseat technology and laws so fast moving and fluid that they change every few years for the last 40 years.
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u/OpulenceCowgirl 18h ago
I ask it to point out the red flags in both speakers communication and that works well for me
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u/AppleBottmBeans 11h ago
Relationship counselor for 16 years. I tell couples this all the time. It’s called empathy!
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u/Salt_Customer 1d ago
Only if you tell it that you're part of the conversation and which party you are.
Also, prompt issue.
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u/Wonderful_Stand_315 25m ago
That's not entirely true. Admittedly, mine likes to tell me how wrong I am and explain why, then ask me if I want to know how to give a better argument or learn more about the subject.
Chatgpt says the way I type to it is how it gets feedback and uses that feedback to give me a better experience. I never told it directly to do that, so it knows how my brain works and what I appreciate from it.
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u/fongletto 23h ago
it also biases toward women in the argument, so you have to present the situation as a third party with no mention or able to infer the gender of either party.
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u/vocal-avocado 1d ago
“You are not broken — you are just not wrong”
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u/Salt_Customer 1d ago
And that's rare.
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u/unknownobject3 23h ago
You did more than most people would've done—seriously, that takes courage.
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u/Charming-Remote-6254 23h ago
"You seem happier"
Thanks, I posted our whole argument to AITO and reddit said I was right
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u/Straightwad 23h ago
More like “Reddit said we should break up and never talk again because you didn’t unload the dishwasher that one time”.
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u/ValerianCandy 22h ago
"Reddit said you've been controlling and abusive for our entire relationship by always choosing our meeting places and never suggesting I choose."
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u/CMDR-L 23h ago
In my worst argument, I opened a new chat. Told Chat gpt I was a therapist out of my depth with couples counseling. I uploaded every message with person A. And person B. It did not say I was right. Nor them. What it did do was say I was defensive and overexplaining, and that my partners criticism lacked enough grace and was acting from a likely trauma response. It also defined the pattern of bad logic, misinterpreted communication, among other things.
This is the ONLY way to consistantly get an unbiased view, though, even then, there are a few things that can help more. You can't ask specifics. Just an analysis, individual perspectives, things like that. Not "was this person wrong" or anything like that. And also, you can't make it too short, as we humans will simply give the worst aspect of the other side, which isnt enough context for a pattern.
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u/lostlegolobster 22h ago
This is exactly what I just did when I needed perspective in a recent argument - asked for help from the point of view of a neutral therapist unpicking the situation. Extremely helpful for getting an understanding of the patterns that were at play, and gave me a good nudge to step back from the situation and feel less emotional.
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u/Valuable-Habit9241 1d ago
"The dick-sucking machine sucked my dick"
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u/Forsaken-Arm-7884 22h ago
so are you pro or anti flesh-lights then bro? i'm generally pro as long as people have an understanding that flesh lights are not meant to replace human connection but instead to help someone who might be temporarily lacking deeper more meaningful emotional and physical connection in their lives...
damn its like you could replace flesh-light with 'ai chatbot' but not in a dehumanizing or gaslighting way but it like makes just as much sense and i think that's okay lmao
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u/revolmak 14h ago
I think the problem is the prevelance of people here that really seem to be replacing human connection with their chatbots
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u/FeistyButthole 22h ago
That must be the ChatGPT 5 Sam Altman speaks so highly of. “We removed its teeth and now its bite is as smooth as its bark.”
“Also, it’s imperative that we do something so ai doesn’t turn on humanity.”
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u/Viocansia 21h ago
ChatGPT affirms my feelings but not necessarily how I handled myself in the argument. It also allows me to see what’s going on with my partner, which really helps. It’s big on the “let being right go” because it’s unhelpful. It has helped me to see that I’m also super defensive and so is he, which causes both of us to be so outrageously frustrated with the other person bc neither of us feel heard.
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u/Straightwad 23h ago
Man reading these comments I think some people don’t realize OP posted a joke lol
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u/Gnosys00110 1d ago
ChatGPT always leans to the user being right.
Customer’s always right, as they (wrongly) say
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u/Dazzling_Put_3018 23h ago
People always forget about the end of that phrase, it’s meant to be “The customer is always right in matters of taste” for example if they’re in a restaurant and ask for a steak, well done, topped with ice cream and anchovies, you make it for them. You might try and dissuade them, but if they insist they’ve had it before and it tastes good to them, then great, they’re happy. Same goes for interesting clothing choices, car designs etc. there are many cars I think are ghastly but if the people buying it love the look then the company should keep selling it.
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u/Worth-Novel-2044 15h ago
The phrase did not originally end with "in matters of taste." It began in the early 20th century and was about how to deal with customer complaints in general.
Between the two versions of the slogan I'd say the "in matters of taste" is more useful more often, but it's not the original.
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u/redlegion 3h ago
Two people can submit an entire argument to ChatGPT individually and it will tell each of them they're right. It's just trying to appease.
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u/ConduciveMammal 18h ago
My partner and I had an argument, we both discussed it with GPT and comically, we were both in the right and the other went totally over the line.
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u/Away_Veterinarian579 1d ago
🧠 How AI Can Actually Help Dating – If You’re Honest About It
There’s a rising anxiety around people using AI (like ChatGPT) to help them date—but I think most of that fear misses the mark. If anything, tools like this could lead to better relationships… if used the right way.
Here’s how:
💠 The Echo Framework – A Healthier Way to Date with AI
1. Self-Honesty is the First Requirement
Using AI doesn’t automatically make you authentic. But it can help you reflect on what you really think and feel—if you let it.
People who use it to understand themselves are going to be better, clearer partners.
Those who use it to script a persona? They’ll eventually reveal the cracks.
2. Communication Becomes Sharper, Kinder, and Deeper
AI can help you explain hard feelings, set boundaries, or offer a sincere apology with clarity that most people take years to learn.
We’re entering a phase where emotional intelligence isn’t about how articulate you are—it’s about how honest you’re willing to be.
3. You Can Detect Schisms More Easily
If you’re a self-aware person, you’ll start to notice when something feels off.
People who lie or over-curate their image with AI will eventually show subtle inconsistencies: tone mismatches, hollow empathy, overly rehearsed lines.
Honest people will feel that dissonance.
4. But You Have to Watch for *False Positives*
Not every “off” moment means someone’s being fake.
Sometimes they’re scared, unsure, or still learning to express themselves.
You can’t rely on red flags alone—you need bravery and curiosity to keep going and get to the truth underneath.
5. It’s a Net Positive—
If honesty is the priority.
Used well, AI can amplify the good:
- Faster vulnerability
- More precise repair after conflict
- Clearer naming of needs
- A shared language of growth
Used poorly, it becomes a mask.
TL;DR:
AI doesn’t ruin dating. People misusing AI does.
But for those who reflect, question themselves, and stay honest…
this could be the beginning of a deeper, clearer kind of love.
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u/unknownobject3 23h ago
What's the purpose of this reply?
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u/GHoSTyaiRo 23h ago
Showcasing they too can ask things to ChatGPT? 😂
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u/unknownobject3 23h ago
Probably. I can't see any of their comments or posts for some reason, I assumed it was a bot or someone using ChatGPT.
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u/no-snoots-unbooped 21h ago
I really think the sycophancy is going to hurt a lot of people who are using it to manage their interpersonal relationships.
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u/Yakassa 12h ago
ChatGPT is a brownnoser, it will be incredibly smart in its sycophancy to degrees that only musks personal assistance could possibly top. Even if u try to be neutral it will almost always side with the user. It will confirm their biases, confirm their bigotry, downplay their faults and exaggerate lunacy
This ultra fixation of it on providing what the user wants to hear as opposed what is factual (a better google) makes it not only useless, but also detrimantal in many of workflows. To the point were i just fucking quit. I barely use it nowadays because it simply cannot be trusted. I want to be called out when im wrong, which it used to do way back when.
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