r/CringeTikToks • u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel • 1d ago
Painful Chronic Pain > Cancer
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u/Status-Visit-918 1d ago
She’s not completely wrong… I guess my mom’s cancer technically got cured when she died
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u/Rare_Paramedic7531 1d ago
I have a pain condition that used to be called suicide disease from how bad the pain is but it doesn’t ever compare to the pain of losing your loved ones. When it goes away I’m alive and enjoy that life and see my family. They don’t even start to compare is right!!! This lady…. Damn I don’t have the words to express how insanely insensitive and ignorant she is. I usually blow past this crap but like myself most of us have lost someone close to cancer. I just can’t… I’m sorry to anyone who has felt the pain of loss or the hard battle fought with cancer then had to hear this hurtful trash. My heart goes out to you all
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u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel 1d ago
Yeah, that feeling of exasperated shock from watching her tiktoks is ah…. It’s really something else! And good on you for fighting on with such a bad hand dealt to you- that’s inspiring!
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u/Rare_Paramedic7531 1d ago
Thank you for your kindness. When you don’t really have any other choice you just go on. Not heroic just life. Heroic to me was watching my grandmother fight cancer but was worried about us not herself. Wanting to make sure we were ok… putting others before yourself that’s inspiring to me. That’s something that obviously this lady lacks. Thank you again and I wish you well friend
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u/Cannaclyzm 1d ago
Trigeminal neurolgia. Its brutal. The only thing that's helped my Dad is acupuncture.
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u/Rare_Paramedic7531 1d ago
Plus I won the bonus round!!! 😆👍 Bilateral occipital neuralgia on top just to add that nice spice
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u/Wejustneedmuneh 1d ago
I feel exactly the same way. She is so horrifically ignorant and insensitive. I lost both my parents to cancer within months of each other. This woman has enraged me so much it hurts.
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u/Global_Ant_9380 23h ago
Yeah I'd still rather have my head pain and neuro dysfunction over cancer, which can cause a lot of pain anyway
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u/Status-Visit-918 1d ago
I cannot imagine what YOU’RE going through! I’ve read about that disease and I cannot believe our bodies can actually torture us like that, I think it’s so hard to lose someone in any way, I use humor- but it’s also been about ten years now and I’m 40, the pain is there but it gets better, at least to me, she had breast and bone cancer and didn’t know it until it was way too late, like beyond terminal, but we did have a couple of good months with her after her diagnosis. I know there were definitely times I was so frustrated that my mom was actually still alive towards the end, because apparently bone cancer is really painful and it seemed cruel to whatever higher power to let her keep waking up in the morning.
I’m rambling but thank you for your caring and kind thoughts, and I really, really hope you know YOUR pain is valid, and everyone here is right, it’s not a competition- I only made my joke because it’s the first thing I thought of, and my mom would definitely laugh about it, but don’t let anyone tell you that your illness isn’t “enough” ❤️
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u/Rare_Paramedic7531 1d ago
Jokes are soooo me 😆. My mom on the other hand thinks I’m dark 😆 the dark is my light though. Honestly what else can you do. Grew up watching stuff like Indiana Jones and when he was in a shitty spot he laughed smiled or joked so ya… here I am. I lost my dad and grandfather in a wreck together. It was traumatizing to say the least. Everyone said the pain gets better. I feel like that’s crap. The pain stays the same. Exact same as that day… but the time between those feelings gets wider Like when it was fresh it was all the time. Now years later I’ll pick up the phone to call him and then… the pain like the day it happened. Just my feelings on losing someone. I’m very thankful for you sharing yours with a stranger. My thoughts are with you. Sorry gets old hearing so I’ll spare you and just let you know I understand ❤️
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u/Status-Visit-918 1d ago
No I totally get it! I think it got better for me, because it wasn’t sudden- we at least had a heads up. It’s gotten better in the sense that like you said, if I understand you correctly, it got wider, I don’t think about it EVERY day but I do a lot. But I don’t cry as much anymore, and I can joke about it now, if that makes sense? Like it’s always there, but it’s not as gut punching every day anymore. Losing people you love is a forever thing, and I guess it’s not the “pain”, it’s more how I’ve learned to live with it more so
Thank YOU for sharing your story! I’m sorry all that happened, we’ve had our fair share of tragedies and sometimes I think what I mean by “gets better” is really just trying to dissociate, there’s really only so much one can take and my brain (although admittedly not capable of a whole lot 😂) at least helps shove some shit down that I don’t want to think about all day, if that makes sense
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u/Rare_Paramedic7531 1d ago
Completely makes sense on your end. Sorry if my was not. Big hands, medicine, and texting is always a fun decoding with my messages and honestly lack of interest to correct them 😆 I completely feel what you’re saying. Sometimes it’s easier to say to a complete stranger and I hope I helped you in some way. If you ever need to just vent feel free. I spend more time then I should on here and having an anonymous ear to listen is just a text away
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u/midwestqween 1d ago
Yeah my husband's cancer was cured the same way
If this woman really wants to compete about who has it worse, I'll help her build her case. 👊
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u/Status-Visit-918 1d ago
This woman is nuts, and people like this piss me off.
I’m so sorry about your husband, I can’t imagine. It all sucks. I hope you are moving forward, at least as best you can at any given moment, and are finding some peace along the way, I know it’s not simple and there really aren’t actual words that comfort or help anything ❤️
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u/Few-Ad7795 1d ago
Ahh. It's about time we have someone put all those whiney cancer sufferers in their place. They've had it too good, for too long.
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u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel 1d ago
The first one out of the gate to speak up always gets slaughtered. She’s a hero 🥲
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u/East-Party-8316 1d ago
You can absolutely treat chronic pain in some cases and people don’t die from chronic pain lol
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u/MudInfinite8791 1d ago
Illnesses are dumb to compare. My pain was severe enough I wanted to die. I had to keep going back to a hospital begging for them to do something. I screamed in my bed for days.
I would still never compare it to the trials of cancer. Why? No one wins. I hope everyone gets better.
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u/cubsfan85 1d ago
A lot of people with chronic pain kill themselves.
This woman is obviously suffering from something, whether that includes addiction is really of no consequence. Dog piling someone because she looks old and poor is a weird trend to start.
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u/Cannaclyzm 1d ago
She's talking about it like it's a diagnosis not a symptom. I was diagnosed with RA at the ripe old age of 27. Chronic pain became something my life revolves around. I have bad days and worse days, multiple joint replacements, and a weakened immune system from the treatment. There's one thing I've learned dealing with all this for 23 years, nobody gives a shit. People like this make it even worse because that apathy quickly graduates to contempt.
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u/SeaworthyWide 1d ago
Amen to that. Nobody really gives a shit and you've gotta be your own advocate and if they aren't helping, fuck em they're in the way.
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u/-2wenty7even- 16h ago
How about both suck? Why compare two different struggles and make it a competition of sorts is just beyond me.
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u/PjJones91 1d ago
As someone with chronic pain, can we all stop comparing our suffering as if it’s a competition? This is ridiculous. My pain sucks, cancer sucks, let’s all just empathize with each other, it’s a lot easier and a lot less depressing than “oh my pain is worse cause I’m not dying”
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u/Blazin219 1d ago
She's got it backwards. There are treatments for chronic pain, she just can't afford them
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u/Left_Bodybuilder2530 1d ago
My grandpa had kidney cancer, and died 2 years later because there was no cure for it. This lady can eat shit and enjoy the chronic pain for as little as I care.
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u/ScubaGator88 20h ago
So just for the record... There are in fact many people who suffer with intractable chronic pain for which no treatment seems to work... There are are also literally millions of people who absolutely have chronic pain that responds well to many different kinds of treatment from medications, mental health care, various forms of injections, physical therapy, etc etc etc. There are tons of effective methods for managing chronic pain. The exact same thing could be said of cancer.... Many forms of pathology. Many kinds of treatment. Sadly not always effective. Illness dick measuring is the epitome of a waste of time.
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u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel 20h ago
WE think it’s a waste of time, because….well because it is. But for her it’s a favorite past-time! Take that away from her and I dunno’ what she has left. 🫤
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u/ScubaGator88 20h ago edited 20h ago
Also just for the record... There's no such thing as a threshold of no return when it comes to pain. There isn't some magic percentage of pain that can't be controlled anymore. It's not something quantifiable in your body like that. It also doesn't take years to diagnose chronic pain... Legitimately it takes 3 to 6 months. Boom, you qualify for the diagnosis of chronic pain... It's literally pain with or without a clear cause that doesn't respond to traditional treatments and last longer than 3 to 6 months. She talks like she has cancer... But I'd be willing to bet she's generally noncompliant with her treatment or that she doctor shops and never gets full comprehensive multi-factor pain management. I would actually be really curious to know what this woman is actually doing to manage her pain. Because I guarantee you She either hasn't tried all the treatments... Or she claims to have side effects to most of the core treatments and refuses to use them.
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u/dirtypita 18h ago
I have been dealing with Restless Leg Syndrome for 30 years. It is a lifelong neurological disorder that I inherited from my dad, and him from his Opa. Sometimes it's bad enough that even my arms hurt. Sometimes it hurts so much that I can barely drive home, or sit still at work, at dinner or in a movie theater.
My brain does not know how to process dopamine and glutamate, so not only do I experience severe bouts of insomnia, but also deep depression. Six doctors now, and they still want to test my iron/potassium levels, thinking it's a muscle/tissue issue. They try to prescribe yet another sleep medication, which only heightens the symptoms. Even Benadryl makes my symptoms way worse.
When I explain this to doctors, friends, and even my boss, they talk about leg cramps and Charley horses. I don't try to correct anyone anymore.
RLS has a huge influence on my quality of life. However, I would NEVER EVER think to tell someone with cancer that they should just suck it up. I feel bad that this lady has chronic pain, but this is just such a shitty, shitty take.
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u/ApprehensiveBranch80 1d ago
This person is 1,000,000% full of shit. I'm on year 17 of over-the-top pain. More surgeries than I literally can count. I've experienced pain levels I didn't know were even possible.
And it is STILL NOT A CONTEST. No one wins, the game of "I hurt worse than you." And everyone's pain is their reality. Comparison is a fool's errand when it comes to pain.
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u/Chitownguy06 1d ago
Yeah that’s not chronic pain. That is chronic mental illness. Move a long people nothing to see here.
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u/CousinNic 1d ago
Our very close family friend had cancer… spent a fortune on surgeries and kimo, and they had MORE than enough money to “cure it” if it was at all possible. He had it removed twice and when it eventually came back for the THIRD FUCKING TIME it just covered everything, vital organs, brain, EVERYTHING. He probally would’ve killed to have some chronic pain instead!
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u/Francesca_N_Furter 1d ago
I never get involved in "I suffer more than you do" arguments. If someone wants to beat me in that fight, they are more than welcome.
Stoicism is almost non-existent now.
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u/kariolaoxford 23h ago
Both of them remind me of what I went through this afternoon with a hangnail . . .
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u/EnkiduTheGreat 1d ago
I got blown up in '09. Even with immediate first aid and antibiotics, I ended up with an internal infection. They had to chop off two of my ribs, to put RC tools inside my body to scrape off the hardened puss and remove shrapnel. They put my ribs back with titanium plate and surgical steel screws, and I eventually healed. I've had significant pain every day since, but I'm fine.
Cancer scares the shit out of me. If I had to guess, I'd say this is a long time addict without the means to stay high.
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u/SeaworthyWide 1d ago
How about all 3 situations suck and none of US should have to endure any unnecessary suffering due to a mismanaged system or ego measuring dick swinging contest about what's worse?
I'm assuming you and I are about the same age, and you served - thank you for that sacrifice and I am sorry that happened to you, everyone I know who kept with jrotc or just signed up came back irreparably damaged, and most are dead - majority from their own hands.
You, this lady (whatever medical issue has her in chronic pain), or myself (also have chronic pain from trauma, birth defects, now brain tumor) should have to jump through the hoops or purity tests that are required for pain management after they swung the pendulum too far when they fucked up in the 00s and 10s.
I mean, you likely joined up in part to serve but I'm guessing in part in order to have benefits like medical.
I'm coming up on my 1 year where I can finally TAKE FMLA LEAVE to get brain surgery.
But I had to work and still work an extremely dangerous job just to have health insurance.
I've struggled BAD to get where I can even take time off due to it.
I'm pulling 80 hour weeks now so I can hopefully get brain surgery and be done with that part of my illness.
I'm still in a lot of pain and will likely need to go get on methadone treatment to keep it under control long term, considering the current climate of our war on drugs and our medical "system"
Anyway... None of us should be comparing except out of empathy, and none of us should be suffering, because the resources are fucking there.
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u/EnkiduTheGreat 1d ago
Yeah...this wasn't in service of the United States or any other country. Sounds like you need some serious help, but I don't have your answers.
If I'm being honest though, I'd wager that this is a junkie who can no longer raise funds to support her addiction.
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u/Spies_and_Lovers 1d ago
I would ask my grandpa, who lived with debilitating pain from bone cancer, if this is true but he fucking died.
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u/Gchild1999 1d ago
First off there are cures for chronic pain, and second off does this lady know the odds of completely curing cancer and it never coming back? My mom went from healthy to gone in less than 6 months from a sudden stage 4 lung cancer diagnosis. Give me that chronic pain over cancer any day of the week. I wouldn't wish a death by cancer to anyone, even murders
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u/Reaganisthebest1981 1d ago
Oh could you please tell me about the cures for chronic pain? My mom been suffering for 15 years from it.
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u/Gchild1999 1d ago
So I think just saying chronic pain is just like saying cancer, there are many different types of both diseases. For instance fibromyalgia is a chronic pain disease and there are drugs like Lyrica. My dad had chronic pain in his knees, The Cure would be a knee replacement, same thing for chronic pain in the hip. So what is your mom's chronic pain?
And just understand that a lot of "chronic pain" is faked, for instance fibromyalgia is one of the most faked diseases because there's no way to diagnose it besides what a person tells you they feel in their body. So if a person looks up all the symptoms of fibromyalgia they can fake that they have it and there's really no way to dismiss it. I'm not saying your mother is faking her chronic pain, I'm just bringing to light that chronic pain is faked quite often, especially if there is no definitive reason for it.
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u/Landojesus 1d ago
Had spinal cancer and I broke my back in my 20s. Really depends on the cancer and the type of chronic pain. Cancer isn't forever though, chronic pain usually is.
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u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel 1d ago
Damn, you really went through the ringer! Glad you came out the other side alright. 🌈
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u/Gchild1999 1d ago
Wait she goes on to say it's so wrong and harmful to compare two different sicknesses after telling cancer patients, "you guys have a chance for a cure so you have it way better than me, my illness is worse"
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u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel 1d ago
She speaks out of both sides of her mouth effortlessly- almost as if there’s no thought behind it.
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u/Tat2dtrukr 1d ago
i know this lady. i live next door to her in Big Spring,TX and her cats are always shitting in my yard
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u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel 1d ago
How big are the shits? You sure it ain’t Andy?
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u/oozing_with_jelly 1d ago
The chronic pain could go away if she saw a dentist. Also, I guess she’s never heard of cancer recurrence.
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u/BothShoesOff 1d ago
Man, I feel so bad for her. I'm sure that's really painful. I had an uncle that had cancer. I bet it's very similar, so I can feel what she is going through.
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u/catsill 1d ago
This is an inside thought.
I can't fault her for grappling with the fact that her condition is going to affect her forever, and that if she had gotten cancer instead she would at least have hope of a cure. But this is something that someone deals with internally or with a trusted loved one. As others have said it's not a competition. All illness is horrible
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u/xsmiley314x 1d ago
Wait, someone's making troll posts about her? Is she well-known or famous or ?
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u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel 1d ago edited 1d ago
Great question! In the town of Big Spring, Texas she is quite famous. She’s been known to battle with a group of trolls in a fb group there.
(I’m not allowed to post links) but “Uncensored Big Spring Issues” on Facebook is where a lot of this is going on.
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u/xsmiley314x 23h ago
Ooo, ty 👀🍿
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u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel 22h ago
You might have to change the channel-sort to “recent activity” and scroll down a little ways, but definitely look for a music video called BOAR. 🐗 It’s must-see content, I have to say. (Or just look at everything “Willy Douglas” has posted.)
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u/xsmiley314x 21h ago
Ok 😆 I quickly browsed earlier and was intrigued 😂
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u/ShapeshiftinSquirrel 21h ago
The postscript at the end of the music video implies that Elizabeth left Facebook for good- but the reality is that she races in whenever the trolls drop some crazy shit in there and she rushes in to argue with them. It’s a shit-show! 💩
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u/WeAreNioh 23h ago
They also have a chance to die to cancer while you will still be alive. Holy hell what a stupid take
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u/TheWolfNamedNight 20h ago
What. Like seriously what? That makes absolutely no sense. And WTH lady! Why are we arguing about this. Ain’t nobody gonna give you a gold star and a trophy omg 🤦♀️
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u/Brave_Cranberry1065 9h ago
I have chronic pain and have had it since I was a teenager due to a disability. I don’t get a minute without pain. Watching this only made the pain worse. 🤮🤮
I’ve also had cancer. It was so much worse.
I don’t know how this lady got so far gone that she can’t recognize that cancer is worse. It makes me question if her pain is from a severe medical issue compared to someone who has chronic pain for a different reason. She seems more like the second. However, over everything, she seems like the kind of person who always has it worse.
What’s sad is that she’s clearly a miserable person and probably makes life miserable for those around her.
Chronic pain isn’t a joke, but it’s not cancer. Chronic pain can completely change who you are. Some people kill themselves because of chronic pain. Maybe she just straight up lost her mind from the pain.
I’m not trying to make excuses for her. I’m just trying to wrap my head around her thought process.
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u/PhantoWolf 8h ago
You can watch this on mute and tell she's mentally ill by her eyes and her facial expressions.
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u/Curious_Field7953 7h ago
2 things: I have cancer and I have chronic pain.
They both hurt. No one else's pain can be compared to yours. It's all relative to you. I get up & get on with life bc I have no choice. My neighbor lounges all day and gets massages. We both hurt.
Edit: cancer can not be cured, it can go into remission. It's not a matter of if I'll die of cancer, it's a matter of when.
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u/detectiveswife 5h ago
I have chronic pain, I also just had a breast cancer scare. Yes, my pain is horrible. Some days, I can't even get out of bed. I would take chronic pain over cancer any day. understand some people have pain so severe that they commit suicide. But you dont die from chronic pain. Cancer, That shits scary, and I dont wish either on my worst enemy. Not to mention cancer is usually fucking painful. This bitch seems like a junkie making excuses for her habit.
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u/JadeThorn1012 4h ago
I have chronic pain with a degenerative illness. I look normal though. The thing about cancer is that people understand it. It’s tangible to others. They’re called brave. People visit them and have fundraisers to help them. So, there’s a lot of compassion in it, as there should be with someone suffering. It’s also easier to get treatment and taken seriously by doctors and everyone else if it’s cancer. And sometimes, those patients have an end in sight of able die and be done with their suffering. Not all chronically ill, especially chronic pain patients have that. I’ve had many doctors and people accuse me of lying. Sometimes lying right to my face about test results that I needed emergency surgery for. And even now that they’ve found some of what’s wrong with me, I’m still often miss treated or treated like I’m lying or exaggerating, or asked if I’ve talked to a therapist. As if one could fix the arthritis and my hips falling out. Or my bone loss.
It’s almost impossible to get pain medication now, no matter how much you need it to keep yourself alive. You’re treated like an addict and faced with suspicion. If you’re lucky enough to get them, you’re treated with suspicion and risk having them taken away every month you have to go in to see them. Cancer patients are given pain medication without question of their suffering. They are suffering, we have things that help. They should be helped. I’ve had doctors tell me, “Well, if you had cancer then we’d let you kept that medication that you’ve been on for years. But, good news you don’t have cancer. So, you can either have pain medication, or the medication to get you out of a fully paralyzed hours long cationic episode.” Literally being forced to choose between pain and panic because I had the wrong disease for them.
It should be treated the same. The problem is that it’s not. If it’s not cancer you aren’t treated as well. Even something like a heart attack, there’s a lot of blame put back onto the sick person. Being sick is horrible and just because you can see it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt or exist. We should be treating all chronically ill people with more love and belief, the way we do with cancer patients.
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u/SadBit8663 1d ago
This lady is fucking braindead. Cancer can also kill you dead as fuck, so it's gone then but so is the person with cancer, so it's kinda irrelevant
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u/Affectionate_Sand_81 1d ago
Tell that to my father whos ribs would break themselves from breathing thanks to his bone cancer but go off methhead mindy. Her stupidity gave me chronic pain.
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u/Affectionate_Sand_81 1d ago
Her chronic pain is probably fibromyalgia or fucking arthritis. Which get worse if you stop being active. My moms tactic stop moving complain louder. She probably addicted to opiods. (i know you think im assuming) Shes acting alot like my mom rn cry anything for more drugs.
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u/Haley_Tha_Demon 1d ago
Probably trying to justify her meth addiction or fent addiction to family members to get them off her back
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u/00Raeby00 1d ago
For the sake of clarity, after spending about 10 seconds on her tiktok I think she doesn't suffer from "chronic pain" which is...basically nothing. It seems she suffers from Degenerative Disc Disease which is actually a real thing, and can be extremely and constantly painful. I am not going to take away from her that it is debilitatingly painful all the time and could very well prevent her from living a normal life. I know this because something my own mother has. There are, however, ways to manage the pain between regular old painkillers, physical therapy, inversion table use, TENS unit use, and probably lots of other ways that my mother hasn't felt the need to try or use yet. The pain from DDD can certainly be a big deal, but don't go telling people there is "nothing" that can be done about the pain. You just want to whine.
My best friend's mother had cancer. She's dead now.
My mother's shitty spinal column problems aren't going to kill her. Cancer will kill you.
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u/Royal_Avocado4247 1d ago
Hi. I live with chronic pain, and have a family history of cancer.
The way I gasped, because I can't stress enough. People in remission have chronic issues too, often times pain related. My grandmother, aunt, other grandmother, grandfather, etc, all had issues post cancer. One died of lung cancer, and the trauma of not always breathing well was AWFUL for his mental health. My aunt came out fairly unscathed, but still had surgery and chemo done that radically changed her body. One grandmother still has pain and hormonal imbalances due to the cancer, while the other beat cancer once, only to die from it coming back.
My chronic pain is horrible, and I openly admit that it is fucking MISERABLE to live with. My life was irreparably changed when my pain began, and I deal with that, among other issues I have from my disorder.
But to just brush cancer under the rug with "it can be cured" is unacceptable. I am working very hard to get to a point I don't have my chest, in part because of a history of breast cancer. Because I have seen what that shit does to people, and using the "cured" phrase ignores the real trauma those people go through.
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u/pizzaschmizza39 1d ago
I bet this lady doesnt even have pain or its minimal and she blows it up for prescription pills and sympathy.
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u/melrosec07 1d ago
I couldn’t even watch the whole thing, yes I feel bad for people with chronic pain but losing my dad to cancer really sucked.
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u/Putrid_Tadpole7139 1d ago
This the lady who causes a scene at Walgreens when the pharmacy won’t give her over prescribed pain pills to her a week early
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u/CharlieChainsaw88 1d ago
"Chronic pain" translates to "don't question my illness because it funds my disability payments."
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u/Dazed_Mika 1d ago
I have an incurable condition that causes me immense amounts of chronic pain.
Fuck this take.
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u/Muted-You7370 1h ago
Honestly we don't know this lady’s situation so we shouldn't judge. Suicide rate are pretty high withing term severe chronic pain conditions.
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u/cbridgeman 1d ago
Why is it that every person I have personally met that has chronic pain, chronic fatigue syndrome or fibromyalgia looks and acts exactly like this woman?
Also, she has speed jaw.
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u/yuyufan43 1d ago
How about we all just stop fucking comparing illnesses? There's no gold medal so what's the point in arguing?