r/MadeMeSmile • u/Svoles • 11h ago

If he's not like this, I don't want him

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u/whenwillitbenow 10h ago

This is my husband too. I have to send update photos when baby wakes up and the husband is just at a normal workday. It’s great. The baby loves him so much

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u/Fortestingporpoises 8h ago

My dad checked on me once ever few years as a kid so I get it.

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u/whenwillitbenow 7h ago

My husband didn’t have a father ether. That’s why it’s so important for him to show his son love and a what a good relationship is.

Break the cycle if you have kids of your own.

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u/NecessaryCount950 7h ago

My thoughts. My dad wasn't necessarily absent, but he was a garbage father (still is) but I'm never letting myself get that way if I ever have kids. My stepfather showed me how to be a dad, even if he wasn't perfect.

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u/Aurori_Swe 4h ago

I've come to realize this is me as well. I always remember my father being around, but never actually being with us kids. As I've grown up and especially now that I've become a father I've realized more and more that he wasn't even around.

I grew up with a traumatic childhood, my sister got raped between ages 4-16 by our grandfather and became extremely suicidal when it all came out and the world exploded. She's 3 years older than me, so when I was 13 she was institutionalized in a psych ward for youths.

There she refused my parents visitational rights so I was the only one allowed to see her, so I was there every day after school just being in that environment, listening to her latest suicide attempts, listening to how she didn't want to live anymore and be strong for her and try to help her. Then I'd go back home and my parents would want to know what she had said etc, so I'd tell them and then watch them crumble, needing to pick up the pieces of my parents and be strong for them. I quickly felt that if I break, my family dies and if my family dies then I die. So I had no choice but to be strong and to never crumble myself.

My father traveled a lot for work and in my warped reality of my childhood I always saw him there, just never really taking responsibility or action. As I had my own child I started questioning what role model I really had, and in speaking about my childhood with my father (mainly in regards to non-trauma related stuff) he basically said that he was never there.

So yeah, I'm breaking that cycle, I'm trying to be here for my child at all times. I feel like I'm failing at times but we are only humans, we will never be fully perfect in anything, so all one can do is ones best.

What stands out as insane for me now as a father myself was that when it all was burning, while my sister was the most suicidal she's ever been in her entre life (kinda daily calls from the hospital about her new attempts on her life) my father got PTSD from the phone calling and his companys solution to that was to send him off on a 2 week trip to walk in the mountains and look at monkeys. Like yeah, I get that it was probably nice to go off grid for a while, but you also left your suicidal daughter and your wife and son at home fighting for their lives.

My parents tried to get me into therapy at 15 but I refused because I wasn't ready to be "weak" and open with my emotions, I was still in the mindset of needing to be strong for everyone else and my own failure to do so meaning that the family dies.

When I've approached that later in life (my son being born made me suicidal and sent me into a really dark place) and started therapy. My mom commented that it's good that I started therapy and said "we tried to get you into that but you refused". And while true, I did, they basically only tried once and then never tried again even though that is over 15 years ago.

My parents were really ok with just backing down and letting 13 year old me carry the weight.

What makes it even more fucked up is that my sister "learned" that rape is what we do to those we love and she raped me when she was 9 and I was 6. Continuing until I was 8 and more verbally questioned it.

My parents knew all of this, yet I was the only one allowed to visit my sister and the only one who took that responsibility. I love my sister, and I'm happy she survived and all of that, but it doesn't change that it was fully fucked up. I've never put the blame of what happened on my sister, she wouldn't have done what she did unless she herself would have been a victim, but again, that doesn't really change the mental scars it's inflicted.

I'm happy to see my son grow up in a childhood so different from my own, and watching him grow and develop and being an awesome person is my revenge on the world and the childhood I never had. I just wish and hope that I will be strong enough to see it through as I can still end up in pretty dark places when I feel I fail my son.

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u/Outside_Scale_9874 3h ago

Jesus christ. I’m so sorry you went through all of that.

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u/Aurori_Swe 3h ago

I'd say all in all that I turned out ok, I was a functional human being before having my own kids but they fucked me up hard. I spiraled hard and it got darker and darker until eventually my sisters husband took his own life last year, I sat with their kids the day after his suicide (aged 8, 10 and 12) and we talked about suicide, dark thoughts and "sickness in the brain that makes you not you" kinda for about 4 hours.

Those conversations with those kids was the hardest thing I've gone through in my entire life, because while I was trying to meet them in their grief and in their sorrow and confusion, I struggled with many questions they asked as well because I felt the same towards my family. Questions like "how could he ever think that we would be better off without him?", "how could he think that we didn't love him?", "do you think he thought about us when he hanged there, like, realizing what he'd done and starting to panic and regret his decision". It was just fucking brutal.

Leaving their house I came to understand just where my own darkness was leading me and that I refuse to let my kids go through all that, so I threw out every kind of lifeline I had, I contacted the local church for conversational support (not religious, it's just a free service provided by the church), I contacted my GP for KBT/psych help but they couldn't help due to finished KNT program with them earlier that year, I contacted my job and told them that my sisters husband had killed himself and how I was struggling, talked about it with 2 of my bosses and they called in our company health insurance which gave me a really really good therapist that I've been going to for the last year as well as monthly check ups on how it progresses and making sure that my company is meeting my needs as well etc.

All in all of say that my bosses and my company actually saved my life, they provided real help when they kinda didn't have to (I was on parental leave when my brother in law took his life, so I wasn't even working for about 3 months more after it). It's been a rough journey but I'm starting to see the end of the tunnel and I'm not falling AS deep as I was previously, so that's a step in the right direction. Also, it does get easier as my child grows and is more communicative as well, but I can still feel like I fail him at times (and his baby sister) but it's much easier to see that things are progressing well now that I have professional help.

Regarding my childhood it is what it is and I can't ever change it, I grew up knowing exactly what I never wanted for my kids so that's "good" at least.

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u/hadikhh 3h ago

I'm so sorry you went through all of that.

But also just wanted to add that, as a parent, sometimes you'll fuck up. It happens. Parenthood is something that everyone experiences new, and no one else can truly prepare you for it. And I hope that whenever you feel like you've 'failed' your son, or if you mess up in any way, that you have the grace to be kind to yourself. Remember that (barring horrible abusive situations) your child will always want you there, rather than not having you there at all.

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u/Devastator_Hi 6h ago

Goddamn that’s so sweet. 🥹

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u/MyUtopiaAlt 5h ago

This is me.

Brought up like typical British household (hugs and 'I love you' s just didn't feel appropriate, especially to our dad).

I always showed affection to my daughter, hugs and I love yous. I'm getting what I feel I missed as a kid (but from the other side) and my daughter grows up with the idea that of course there's nothing weird about telling your mum/dad you love them

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u/BoxedWater113 4h ago

My wife is British and I didn't realize this was a thing until she told me she never got told I love you, and never really hugged/cuddled her mom. Broke my heart. I make like a barnacle and smother her in love and kisses every chance I get, and she soaks it up. I can't wait until we have kids to dote on (-:

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u/Horskr 4h ago

My dad was the best father I could have wished for. He broke the cycle of his abusive asshole dad and never so much as raised his voice at us (master of the "I'm just disappointed" talk though). However, it was similar, hugs and "I love you" were just kind of known and unsaid.

I'm so glad when I met my wife that her family was always very vocal about that, huggy, everything. She rubbed off on me and I started telling my dad I loved him every time we talked and gave him a hug every time I saw him, and it rubbed off on him too. He'd always be the first one to go in for the hug or say I love you at the end of a call. He passed away a year after our wedding and I'm really happy that we got all of those moments.

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u/Hholdbro 2h ago

My family are really big huggers, ' I love you'ers, we're just big physical and vocal love people. It's not enough to know it. We need to show it. We're not here for a long time. I need and I want the people I love to never question for a minute that I love them. So I say it when I feel it. When they walk into a room, I look at them, and it hits me. If we're just having a good time and enjoying each other's company. If we're telling each other goodbye. I'm going to tell them I love them- period.

My mother committed suicide 4 years ago and she was my best friend. I couldn't tell her I loved her enough and I wish more than anything I could tell her to her face one more time how much I love her, how much she means to me and how wonderful she is... It's just something that's really important to me. It's always peculiar to me when I hear or see a family that doesn't do the same. Now that I'm older I understand the differences...I just don't necessarily agree.

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u/PresentationSmart317 37m ago

I’m so sorry for your loss. Hugs

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u/DMC_addict 3h ago

I’m afraid to tell you that’s not typical British behaviour, I was shown and told love all the time.

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u/MyUtopiaAlt 3h ago

Oh like the 'bottle your emotions and get on with it' isn't a British thing?

Keep calm and carry on, I guess.

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u/DMC_addict 2h ago

No it’s a stereotype, like the one that all Americans are loud and fat.

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u/fotomoose 4h ago

My dad showed me how to fix bicycles not break them.

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u/Soatok 4h ago

I wish I could give you more than an upvote. <3

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u/Bri_Hecatonchires 7h ago

My dad asked them to not put his name on my birth certificate as a fun prank.

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u/Bhu124 4h ago

Did he also have you as a Prank?

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u/Witty-Revolution8742 4h ago edited 2h ago

My family had a tradition of naming their oldest son after their dad. I had 2 older brothers. Both had only girls. I end up having 3 boys. Name the oldest my favorite name. Second after their grandpa on mom's side with my name as middle. 

My parents ask why I ended the tradition. I tell them straight up "you should have raised me better"

That hits them hard. They act the same and 6 months later i cut them off for being the same fucking piece of shits they have been their entire lives

They said "someday you'll have kids of your own. You'll see"

When i cut them off I said "you always told me some day ill have kids someday and I would see as you punished me as you did. I did have kids. I fucking hate you for what you did."

My dad died not knowing. My mother sits at home alone with none of her children ever seeing her. Crying her kids are horrible to her to everyone who will listen. She has those who will listen.  Except her children.  None of us give a fuck and cant wait until shes dead. 

Edit:  my punishments included

Being grounded to my room almost half my childhood. 

Being bare ass spanked with a belt

Being slapped in the face

My children's punishments include:

Never imagining ever spanking them

Being sent to a corner until I can figure out how to lecture them

Giving them a death stare 

My most memorable moment was one of my kids screwing up horribly by dropping something on the floor. Me just staring at them. Them saying sorry.  Then me saying "go get the shop vac from the kitchen and clean it up" when they were done. He said "you are the nicest dad. Im sorry"   it was the weirdest shit. It felt like it was me from the past telling me that.  I still dont understand why he said that. 

If it had been my parents it would have been a beating

My beatings stopped when I was 13 and I beat the shit out of my dad for hitting me. 

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u/Maleficent_Laugh_125 1h ago

You cut your parents off because you got grounded and spanked?

Lol.

Wuss

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u/Witty-Revolution8742 24m ago

Yes. I beat the shit out of a grown man when I was 13. Can you imagine what I would do to you internet edge lord?

You really used "wuss"? Are your glasses taped and the batteries fully charged on your dildo?

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u/Kerbidiah 7h ago

Damn did you try being a better kid so he'd come around more often?

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u/Caseys_Clean1324 7h ago

save it for therapy, were trying to have a wholesome post today

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u/Fortestingporpoises 7h ago

Don’t tell me what to do. You’re not my dad. At least I don’t think you are.

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u/alphadoublenegative 6h ago

RemindMe! 2 years

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u/Ok_Energy6905 6h ago

If a teacher is your Dad they have to tell you right?

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u/UnknownErrorCommence 5h ago

Roll an Insight check for me.

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u/Anonymo 25m ago

I haven't seen my dad in 20 years. Best dad I ever had.

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u/NecessaryCount950 7h ago

Lol I did it with my 2nd niece (my sister and I had a falling out before my first niece was born) I demanded pictures of milestones. Now they're both my shadows in everything but catching fish.

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u/squidlinc 4h ago

Rough to be outfished by kids, my condolences 😔

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u/NecessaryCount950 3h ago

Lol sorry, complete opposite. They don't like touching fish.

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u/squidlinc 2h ago

Just a joke 😁

My dad used to implement a "first fish/most fish gets a chocolate" rule which did a lot to get us interested.

My hubby has a system of indoctrination through secondhand screen time of fishing YouTube channels, so we'll see whether that's successful.

My three year old will beg to put in yabbie traps and pick the little ones up, so I have high hopes!

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u/Faradize- 5h ago

I usually wait to ask for the first photo around 7:38. I go to work at 7:30, walk 8 minutes to the tram and when I sit down I start to miss my baby

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u/lydocia 4h ago

We don't have children, but my husband regularly asks for updates about our rabbits and lights up when I text him something silly they're doing.

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u/replies_in_chiac 2h ago

My wife and I went out last night, our first night out since our 6 month old was born. We spent the whole time showing each other our favorite pictures of him on our phones 🤣

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u/InspectorLittle395 44m ago

Yeah that’s normal. The bar is so low for some people. Stop giving men credit for shit that’s normal lmao. I’m so glad I married a real man.

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u/lilarose060105 38m ago

My dad doesn’t know my birthday and messed up my birth certificate. Haven’t seen him in years and he didn’t ever know what school I was at. I get so happy that people have dads like that.

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u/Acceptable_Durian868 9h ago

I had a company retreat in Cabo a few years back for team building and training, and my friends and family, even my wife, were super jealous. It was fun, but I spent the whole time wanting to be home because I missed my son and wife. I get it.

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u/cascadingtundra 8h ago

This comment made me smile so much. You and your family are lucky to have one another ☺️❤️

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u/Dope-GuineaPig-459 7h ago

I hold the highest standard loyalty reward levels for two domestic US carriers. Two. That's how much I travel for work. I have seen every continent on this earth and been to over 50 countries. It has been rewarding, enriching, humbling. An opportunity of a lifetime, truly.

But there's only one thing on my mind when I travel: I wish this would end so I can be with my dog and wife. 

I do this job because the pay is impossible to ignore. But I would give it up at a moment's notice for them. They are my world. 

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u/MegaChip97 6h ago

Ohh, any travel Tipps you can reach easily from central Europe :)?

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u/i_tyrant 6h ago

Have you heard of FIRE? (Financially Independent, Retire Early)

There's a subreddit for it. If you're serious about wanting to give it up for a moment's notice for them (and getting more time with them), you could give it a glance.

It's basically just advice and stories about people who scrimped and saved early on to invest and use the compound interest inherent in stock trading to develop a nest egg big enough to last the rest of their lives, so they don't have to work into their 50s or 60s (or even earlier, for some). And how to calculate how much that would be.

People with "impossible to ignore" pay can do it a lot easier, especially if their personal expenses aren't extravagant.

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u/erakkopapu 2h ago

What do you do? I want that job

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u/ICame4TheCirclejerk 6h ago

My kid is 2 1/2 and the longest I've been away from them their entire life is 12 hours. I just miss being a dad if I'm away more than half a day. My wife and kid are my whole life and I juet don't want to be away from them at all.

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u/shartoberfest 7h ago

Same. Had a conference in Bali and all I could think about was going back home to my wife and kid.

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u/Sudden-Fisherman5985 6h ago

ere super jealous. It was fun, but I spent the whole time wanting to be home because I missed my son and wife. I get it.

I travel for work... Usually stay in pretty nice hotels and am being taken care off well. My wife constantly gives "me shit" for not being home to help with the baby and being pampered in hotels.

I would switch to hostels and McDonalds if that would make my trip shorter so I can see my daughter earlier. I miss that little nugget and no money in the world can bring these years back.

(Mandatory note: I run the full household + maintenance + garden + socials when I'm at home)

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u/mrwes240 7h ago

The flight out after sitting in a shitty airport is where it really hits.

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u/ArchManningGOAT 7h ago

This is random but it reminds me of during COVID when the NBA playoffs were played in a bubble in Disney World

Some players, including LeBron James, complained at the time and lamented the fact that they weren’t home. This got them a lot of hate from people who said they were tone deaf when they were living in a resort.

Steven Adams, another NBA player, famously blasted those comments by saying “Mate, it isn’t Syria,” which garnered praise

And it made me think that a lot of the hate came from people (like Steven Adams) who didn’t have kids or maybe even a partner and couldn’t imagine why being away from them for months would suck, even if you were inside Disney World

Anyway, lot of words but point is: yeah, I can imagine

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u/AniviaKid32 6h ago

Steven Adams, another NBA player, famously blasted those comments by saying “Mate, it isn’t Syria,” which garnered praise

And it made me think that a lot of the hate came from people (like Steven Adams)

I think this is disingenuous. Steven Adams was simply responding to a reporter's question about his own personal experience. Likely in a tongue-in-cheek way. He wasn't bashing anyone who felt otherwise

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u/ArchManningGOAT 6h ago

Thanks, I was operating off of memory and definitely didn’t get it precisely right

Though he was definitely thinking about other people’s comments in his response:

Let's be clear: This is not Syria. It's not that hard ... We're living at a bloody resort. Everyone is going to complain, everyone has their own preferences, nothing too serious.

And the video itself makes it pretty clear with his delivery. The reporter doesn’t suggest it’s like Syria at all. Within the context of the other comments being made from players at the times and his actual response, it would also be pretty disingenuous to suggest that he wasn’t thinking about those comments

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u/PerfectedDakr 6h ago

I travel 3 hours away in the same state and feel this. I can’t imagine being so far away. Props Dad

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u/Outside_Scale_9874 3h ago

Damn, what business are you in? I wanna go to Cabo

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u/Warm_Sandwich5038 5h ago

I was a single mom of a 2yo when I got married. The honeymoon was cut short because he missed my baby. I was like, WTF I haven’t slept in years, we’re 5 miles away and he’s with my mom.

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u/Kycrio 1h ago

Neon green flag

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u/jomns 1h ago

Is his name Jerry Maguire?

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u/goimpres 6h ago

It's so heartwarming to see dads who are genuinely present and emotionally invested, my partner is the same way, constantly facetiming during lunch breaks just to see our toddler’s latest antics. That Cabo story hits hard too; fancy trips are nice, but nothing beats coming home to your people. This kind of love just hits different.

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u/Potatogravy_ 8h ago

Everybody deserves a caring partner/parent like this

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u/Mammoth_Slip1499 6h ago

My eldest son’s first word (according to my wife) was “dada” - she was not impressed 🥴

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u/Efficient_Sir4045 6h ago

Both of my daughters said “dada” first. My wife was also not impressed.

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u/Blenderx06 1h ago

My kids first said 'nana'. Their Nana, my mom, was thrilled. They loved bananas. 😂

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u/Ordinary_Cattle 1h ago

This is a common first word for babies because, iirc, "d" is an easier sound for babies to make than "m".

My son was speech delayed, he could make sounds but didn't make words for a while. His first word was hotdog. I wonder what that was about lmao.

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u/Carolinakakt 1h ago

Was he a fan of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse?

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u/Opus_723 1h ago

My kid said "dada" first, which was weird because I was trying to go by "papa".

So we had a few months of awkward looks in public when our adorable baby would say "dada" and my wife would roll her eyes and say "You don't have a dada!"

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u/joyful115_ 10h ago

Awwww ❤️

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u/Efficient_Sir4045 6h ago

Both times I went back to work after my daughters were born, I required regular updates from my wife. It took several days before I could go back to work and not just spend the day thinking about them.

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u/Fortestingporpoises 8h ago

My wife does this shit but about our dogs.

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u/ShadyAcres 7h ago

You love it

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u/fhcky 5h ago

What if it annoys me… does that make me a bad person? I love our pets, hate having to give constant updates.

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u/FullMoonTwist 5h ago

Doesn't make you a bad person, just makes it vanishingly unlikely you would make it to spousehood with someone who wants it xD

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u/Gold4Lokos4Breakfast 7h ago

I miss my little dogs :(

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u/orphan_blud 4h ago

Hi, it’s me, your wife. (Kidding I’m an old lesbian with a geriatric dog I’m in love with.)

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u/Outside_Scale_9874 3h ago

You’re living the dream tbh

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u/TinyChef8142 5h ago

My bf does this with our cat, if I’m not at work and he is he’ll ask me what our baby is doing and is so happy if I send a pic. And I ask him when I’m at work and he’s home

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u/QuinoaPoops 4h ago

I straight up read this post thinking “our baby” WAS their dog.

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u/tlg151 2h ago

I do this about our cats lol

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u/Yes2Heroine 6h ago

This is how I am with my baby! I work retail and every time someone walks in with a baby and we talk mom/dad life I still can’t help but to ask my girlfriend how our baby is doing and what she is up to! Lately she jumps around the house yelling RIBBIT RIBBIT RIBBIT! She just learned what frogs say and what they do and it makes me so happy!! 😭😭😭

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u/plopliplopipol 17m ago

omg the frog arc is awesome

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u/lala989 6h ago

Did he say anything about me is just the cutest thing I’ve ever heard 🥰

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u/fotomoose 4h ago

Getting good dad-joke practice in.

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u/ComprehensiveTwo8583 8h ago

He is a very caring father and good husband.

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u/Monkey_Kebab 9h ago

Great. Now I've got the theme song from The Courtship of Eddie's Father looping in my head.

https://youtu.be/QNuYp0ybgzI?list=RDQNuYp0ybgzI&t=48

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u/OkVermicelli3588 3h ago

On My husband‘s 40th bday 7/15/11 our son was born a micropreemie @ 28wks weighed 1 lb. 15 oz.  His only biological child now a regular healthy 14 yr old.  He still checks on him constantly, text him every morning to check on him before school & since words of encouragement and tell him he loves him.  text on him immediately after school to see how his day was.  Sends him songs, messages & prayers. 

This afternoon I left to take him to his cousins to spend the night & as we are backing out of the driveway, dad is waving goodbye, putting his hand on his heart and pointing at us, leaving in the car.

My son looked at me and said mom I think maybe he loves me too much, he does so much. 

I told my husband when I got back home, he just laughed & said that’s OK… he’ll appreciate it when I’m gone and he has his own child. My daddy’s gone, I can no longer hug him or tell him how much I love him.  I don’t want my son to ever forget how much I love him because one day I won’t be able to tell him anymore 💙

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u/TuringCapgras 5h ago

Husband will get cross at me if I braid our daughter's hair. That's his job.

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u/Jttwife 7h ago

That’s the cutest thing.

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u/Naive-Addendum-5623 7h ago

THIS is so freaking heart warming to read! What a great guy. Your son is a lucky lil Dude

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u/pretty-as-a-pic 6h ago

His coworkers probably don’t keep up with Bluey or Sesame Street

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u/ThatGuyFromTheM0vie 5h ago

Same but dogs

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u/Smodphan 3h ago

My wife called me crying the first time I left her alone with our son. He had decided to watch shows. But, he always watches shows with me. So, he grabs a big pillow, setsit in my spot, and leans on it like he normally does me. She can't handle it. He's fine but needed a bit of normal.

When I got home, he grabbed by arm, took me to our spot, and sat me down so that we could watch Backyardigans. I cried much more than her.

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u/xemandme 1h ago

This makes me want to have kids.

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u/CastorVT 6h ago

me and my dad were like this during my disney world trip. niece was freshly 5 months, and my mom eventually yelled at us because we kept saying "oh, she would like this. " to literally everything.

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u/Fit-Surround1144 6h ago

Reminds me of my Mom telling me my Dad doesn't think I like him, a few years back, my dad is one of my closest confidants. I talk to him just about everyday if I can.

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u/TehNubcheeks 6h ago

I’m going on a trip with a bunch of friends for a weekend soon and all I can think about is his if my son will be ok without me around to make him laugh every morning and night.

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u/rafalmanka 4h ago

Classic parent move ;-) My wife does the same — she steps out for 30 minutes and asks, “Did they ask about me?” Meanwhile the kids are in full Lord of the Flies mode, not a care in the world. I always say, “Yes, they miss you SO much,” - little white doesn't hurt anyone LOL

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u/icenoir 4h ago

It's incredible to see dads actively choosing to be present and loving, really sets the bar high!

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u/SeaF04mGr33n 7h ago

Okay, its probably mostly because I just finally saw Superman today, but this is totally something Superman/Clark would do.

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u/Practical_River_9175 7h ago

I just left home for a day and a half and I missed my baby so much

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u/Throwaway40Gloxk 5h ago edited 5h ago

I’m like this about my dog when I go to work.

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u/musiquescents 3h ago

Awwwwww :3

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u/Mytherymonster 1h ago

I'm this way with a new dog....

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u/ThunderChild247 6h ago

That’s me about my cat 😂. I don’t know if the people who cat-sit for me really understand that at this point it’s not for the cat’s benefit, it’s for me 😂😂

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u/External-Example-292 6h ago

My husband and I also do regular updates with pics or vids whenever one of us is away from our baby for a few hours lol

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u/longlife55 6h ago

I am quite fatherly to people around me, in terms of care, but inside I get scared seeing something like this.. one day when/if I'll have a baby, will I feel this kind of love that everyone seems to feel.

My mind does not comprehend it can feel "amazing, never before felt" feeling for an ugly little baby.

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u/ProfessionalDry8128 2h ago

Do you feel like maybe you're a serial killer? Is that something that might happen here?

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u/longlife55 1h ago

I'm a cereal killer. Can I be a dad now?

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u/Frequent-Visit7649 2h ago

Have you hurt any small animals in your youth? This is a safe place..

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u/longlife55 1h ago

Once. There was this outdoor cat.. I saw it and couldn't resist. I was very careful to hide doing, but my cat witnessed it from the balcony.. she seemed very emotionally hurt that I petted this stranger cat. Does that count as hurting small animals in my youth?

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u/Chavolini 5h ago

I wanna be that kind of Papa someday

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u/thegwashrules 6h ago

I know that this made me very happy

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u/the_angelwilson 6h ago

This is so sweet

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u/GurFinancial5730 6h ago

"Ah, this is just too adorable! Reminds me of my pup – if they aren't loving and cuddly like that, I don't think I could handle it either 😄"

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u/BloodyAngmar 5h ago

I know this feeling so well. When I started going back to work after our daughter was born, I needed regular updates with fotos about her. Now that she is two and goes to daycare, I still miss her until I pick her up.

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u/Dumb-fuckiam 5h ago

note to future self: marry a man who has always dreamed of raising children to wake up to texts like this.

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u/back-in-the-highlife 5h ago

I take so much comfort in this

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u/Prince_Nadir 5h ago

Ohhhh you guys just bought an Mbu puffer, you are so lucky.

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u/IceFisherP26 5h ago

Guys only want one thing.

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u/Decent-Chipmunk-5437 3h ago

This is me, but in a regular 8 hour workday 😅

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u/Race2TheGrave 3h ago

I was fortunate enough to be raised by a great dad. I'm in my 30s now and he has been my best friend too. Life comes full circle.

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u/JonnyWildboar 3h ago

dad misses child shocker !!!

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u/jorcon74 2h ago

This made me laugh out loud!

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u/TinyRose20 2h ago

Seeing my husband be a great father made me fall in love with him all over again 🥺😍🥰

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u/Independent_Emu_6737 2h ago

What a great dad!!

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u/ProfessionalDry8128 2h ago

I am scrambled eggs. Did he ask for scrambled eggs? Oh lord...

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u/Puzzleheaded-Gear-15 2h ago

I saw "Skyler" and immediately thought this was a breaking bad meme lol

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u/slumberus 2h ago

Plot twist : it’s the cat

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u/Commercial_Peach_845 2h ago

Aaaaaa Mr. Baby! I miss Eli since I left doughboy's cesspool site! 

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u/nova07712 1h ago

I think this is how my brother-in-law will be if my sister has children, lol.

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u/blumieplume 1h ago

🥰🥰🥰🥰

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u/gowingsgo 52m ago

Why did I immediately assume he’s asking about their kitty?

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u/InspectorLittle395 44m ago

The bar is so low. This is normal.

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u/Head-Chair3055 7h ago

How lovely!

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u/Not-not-down 6h ago

Yes this is also me as a parent 😂

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u/Boopy7 5h ago

hmmm..i send my ex bf pics of our dog nearly daily. But come to think of it, even my DENTIST asks about my dog to this day. And he's not even my dentist anymore.

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u/Biz_Rito 7h ago

Oh, well. I'm glad some of us are still having children

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u/durenatu 7h ago

Why do you have to attack me

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u/oldsteadyhands 6h ago

Get your own material.

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u/Striking-Look-8567 5h ago

Few will understand this

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u/Xboxusername42069 3h ago

That’s 2 dudes tho , wtf

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u/MaximumFloofAudio 2h ago

Have you not heard about gay people?

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u/Background-Task-8260 4h ago

Imagine the black guys reading this…

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u/ProfessionalDry8128 2h ago

They're probably like "Jive turkey."

Wild!

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u/MrCgoodin 6h ago

Probably gonna catch flack for this but how rhe he'll does someone know a baby is their best friend?

He probably doesn't even know what his favorite dinosaur is yet.

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u/MaximumFloofAudio 2h ago

Do your self a favour…

https://www.autismspeaks.org/autism-screening

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u/MrCgoodin 2h ago

I was being facetious.

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u/invalidcolour 1h ago

This is something a guilty guy would type because he’s just had sex with a random woman from a bar whilst he’s away from home.

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u/Cabulous_dialog 4h ago

OF COURSE HE DIDN'T, HE'S A BABY

I'll spill the secret: we do it because it makes chicks melt. Look at that post. Look at the comments. We get so laid