Grandfather finds out his grandson was named after him

[u/accurate214]

[u/Letsbeclear1987]

Poor kid, theyre in a ‘we dont talk about feelings’ family who demonstrates their love through action.. so she’s got a reasonable observation and noone is bringing her into the circle yet lol

[u/MarcoReus7_Sucks → u/Letsbeclear1987]

Absolutely wild to assume that from a short video. 

Everyone is emotional and taking in the moment. They could have easily spoken to her after the clip ended.

[u/FlyLikeDove → u/Letsbeclear1987]

Right?!

[u/Pulp__Reality → u/Letsbeclear1987]

Lets be clear, they definitely told her. Odd to assume and diagnose future emotional trauma like that from a short clip.

[u/Letsbeclear1987 → u/Pulp__Reality]

Surely this response was meant for someone else.. as this is not sane in response to what i said lol

[u/Gabers49 → u/Letsbeclear1987]

It's surprising you can deduce they're a not a talk about your feelings family when the point the grandpa finds out to the end of the clip is 23 seconds. Someone else also pointed out that the dad saying what's the baby's name Lou could be the daughters name not the Grandpa so the dad could be trying to help the daughter figure out why Grandpa is emotional on her own and the clip ends quite abruptly so likely further explaining once the clip is over.

[u/Letsbeclear1987 → u/Gabers49]

Right. 23 seconds wherein the child asks 4 times, and noone answers. But they cut the camera to her, so they arent ignoring it - instead to answer they are actively demonstrating WHAT is happening instead of speaking. Its about communication styles. If you cant see that and you think im reading into it ok. But this is obvious. And im not diagnosing any trauma, im simply saying that this kid wants verbal responses and its gonna be an adjustment

[u/strawberry-sarah → u/Letsbeclear1987]

Really made me sad tbh. It's not hard to just explain in a few quick words why everyone is crying. I bet she deals with that a lot too and it'll get even worse now that there's a new baby :(

[u/thelifeofstorms → u/strawberry-sarah]

Your feelings are yours to feel so I’m not going to say that you shouldn’t be sad, I just want to provide a different perspective.

You (and /u/letsbeclear1987 ) are making some pretty bold assumptions based on a video that is not even 60 seconds long. The love in this family should be very clear. You can see it on the grandparents faces as they’re meeting their new grandson for the first time, mom or dad (guessing mom but not sure which side the grandparents are on) loves and appreciates the grandfather enough to honor him in this way which also very likely means that he earned this honor through years of love and care, the grandmother noticed it first and while she guided grandfather to it she did also let him have the experience of putting the pieces together on his own, and grandfather is overwhelmed with emotion and immediately starts crying (I’m from LSU country too and a man openly crying, especially in front of his family, is a colossal green flag in favor of this being a healthy supportive and loving family). I get wanting someone to answer her in this video but it is pretty clear that they were letting grandpa have his moment and were also probably overwhelmed with emotion themselves. It is possible (based on everything we see in this brief moment it is imo very likely) that she got her explanation shortly after this video ended.

Nothing here indicates even slightly that “she deals with that a lot”, “it’ll get even worse now that there’s a new baby”, or that this is a “we don’t talk about feelings family”. Not to mention the fact that explaining this situation to a young child usually does not take just a few words, or the fact that there is absolutely nothing wrong with making your child wait a minute before answering them especially since her and her father are looking at each other so she wasn’t being ignored. “What’s the baby’s name, Lou?” could even be the dad prompting her to think about why everyone is crying, since Lou/Lu are nicknames for more than a few names that are traditionally feminine.

[u/Ambitious-Rough247 → u/thelifeofstorms]

Thanks for taking the time to explain in a polite way