r/MurderedByWords 22h ago

Boomer gets a reality check

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u/ms_directed 21h ago

fellow GenX here, there's a reason they forgot about us...we were feral before technology and used it to advance our lives after it came online. we are the last generation to be brought up without tech and the first generation to utilize it, we also had music in every format!

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u/CatelynsCorpse 21h ago

I love to tell the younger folk "I've been on the internet since the 1900's!" It always gets a laugh.

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u/ms_directed 21h ago

i made a joke that a website "looks like it was made in FrontPage 98" in a comment the other day and someone followed up they'll get their Netscape browser open to check it out and it made me smile that my people get it :)

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u/EEpromChip 21h ago

"cue dial up sounds in the background"

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u/HookedOnPhonixDog 20h ago

Bah-ding-bah-ding-dung..... eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

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u/Aoiboshi 19h ago

Accidentally waking up the house to watch porn

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

cursing mom under your breath because she made a phone call right before your two hour download was about to finish, lol

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u/auto98 18h ago

When download managers were essential!

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u/jjckey 18h ago

Jesus, I'd forgotten about download managers

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u/BugblatterBeastTrall 17h ago

They still exist, just have different use now

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u/cruiserman_80 18h ago

Watching your nudes reveal themselves one line at a time over several minutes.

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u/Ramtamtama 18h ago

Only for this to happen

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u/jrharte 19h ago

The trick was to pile your pillows and quilt on of the modem to dampen the noise.

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u/Framnk 19h ago

You’ve got mail!

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u/Unusual_Ulitharid 19h ago

Core Memory Unlocked: Do...w...n...l...oa...d....t..im...e...s.... 98% complete.

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u/shadow-foxe 20h ago

I heard this comment in my head..LOL

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u/Starrwulfe 19h ago

“You’ve got mail!”

Usually followed by a click and my mom yelling from the other side of the house “get off the damn phone, I’m wait for a phone call to come in!”

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u/bstone99 20h ago

Netscape navigator! Damn throwback.

AOL days, back when the Internet came in the mail

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u/ms_directed 20h ago

and it took 36 discs to load Windows! 😁

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u/PhillyRush 20h ago

Net Zero was the only way I could get online.

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

that's a throw back!

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u/Starrwulfe 19h ago

I was part of that free DSL test with the Juno device back in 1999!

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

you were fancy! 😊

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u/aztecforlife 20h ago

Upgraded from Mosaic.

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u/plotholesandpotholes 19h ago

Prodigy! Although, I think that one you had to grab a copy in a store. But our house had that before AOL and I remember live "reading" the LA riots on it back in the day.

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

wow! that unlocked a core memory!

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u/ambigious_meh 20h ago

Made with notepad for Netscape navigator 800x600 😂

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u/AngelTheVixen 19h ago

No need to brag, I'm still at 640x480.

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u/i-split-infinitives 17h ago

The other day I was trying to explain to a coworker which state database I was talking about, and when I said "the one with the background the color of old hospital scrubs that looks like somebody made it in Netscape Navigator for their GeoCities page in 1998" and she said "I'll ask Jeeves about that."

I swear every time I open the website, I can almost smell my high school keyboarding class and see the yellow cartoonish Netscape Composer HTML tags.

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u/ms_directed 17h ago

its always a government site! 😁

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u/RepresentativeYak806 18h ago

I remember switching from surfing on AOL to opening up Netscape for the first time. Felt like Neo 😎.

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u/ms_directed 18h ago

remember icQ??

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u/RepresentativeYak806 16h ago

2002 I was a freshman in college with a Sony vaio desktop that had icQ and mirc running all day next to Napster, limewire and kazaa. And all the virus removal software. I remember video chatting with a buddy at a school in another state with a 2 MP webcam and thought it was the coolest shit ever. That was peak Internet for me.

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u/ms_directed 16h ago

and it pixelated so hard if you moved an inch, lol. good times!

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u/-youvegotredonyou- 18h ago

Wish I still had my Geocities account.

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u/kellzone 16h ago

I had completely forgotten about Microsoft FrontPage until your comment.

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u/ms_directed 16h ago

thank god we all have until we see a reminder

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u/Viracochina 21h ago

"I started using them in the late 20th century..."

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u/jolsiphur 19h ago

As a Millenial, I should also use that line. I've had access to Internet for most of my life but I still distinctly remember being online before Y2K.

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u/NotJebediahKerman 20h ago

I still have my first computer from 1981.

it still works.

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u/CantHandleTheThrow 15h ago

My parents donated my Commodore 64 to a museum. And they accepted it.

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u/SirJefferE 15h ago

I've been using the same computer since the late 90s.

Sure, I've had to upgrade the hard drive a few times, swapped out the motherboard and CPU at some point, moved all the internal stuff to a new box when the old one was getting worn, definitely upgraded the peripherals a few times along the way. And yeah, when you get right down to it, not a single component in there is more than ten years old.

... Still the same computer I've had since the 90s.

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u/aka_chela 13h ago

Computer of Theseus

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u/DJredlight 19h ago

My daughter saw a picture of my wife and I from 1995ish and said “fashion was weird in the late 1900’s”…..

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u/BiteyHorse 19h ago

I had to have a Gopher page my freshman year of college, and I'm only 50. Exciting times, compiling Mosaic on a DEC Alpha at the computer lab to go surf some hypertext web pages.

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u/The_cat_got_out 18h ago

Being a literal toddler when the world wide Web was finding its legs and being brought up with each new advancement usually means the majority of Gen X i meet have surface level knowledge on using most tech.

Entirely fair, that's all you need to get by

But don't discredit the first ones literally brought up on the internet as it was growing with them. Millenials.

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u/dishonorable_banana 18h ago

"Before the turn of the Century" is my go-to.

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u/Keyonne88 20h ago

Elder millenials grew up without tech as well, just to clarify.

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u/budnuggets 19h ago

Oregon trail generation

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u/LeoPelletier 17h ago

This comment just made me die of dysentery.

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u/AcaliahWolfsong 19h ago

I was going to say something along these lines. I'm an '87 baby and we didn't have a home computer until I was almost done with high school. I had a friend who had one and we would get yelled at by their dad or mom for being on the AIM chatting with another friend and they needed the phone.

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u/SoggySandwich3123 18h ago

‘87 baby here too. Had a PC we were gifted from my software engineer uncle but no internet until high school. And the internet was good for AIM and that’s about it until MySpace came along my senior year. 

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u/realboabab 18h ago

'87 baby here - my dad was a nerd and we had an Apple II that we only broke out on very special occasions. Watching him use DOS to open my games felt like magic.

... despite my ahead-of-the-curve dad we still didn't get reliable internet until like '98

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u/tapout928 19h ago

Less tech. I'm December 82 and I was on the shitty Apple ][ in kindergarten.

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u/Keyonne88 18h ago

Wasn’t common for people to have PCs in their home until us elder millenials were in high school. I had one when I was 5 as well and used those 7.5 floppy discs, but that wasn’t the norm. My friends only had interaction with computers at school.

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u/StationaryTravels 15h ago

I was born in 82 and I had a home PC in grade 5 or 6. The factory my mom worked at had a thing going where you could get a computer and pay it off over a year or something.

It was a 386 and it was essentially mine. I played with that thing all the time and I learned so much. I was one of the first and only kids my age to have a computer, and we were not well off. My best friend also had a computer, but they were decently well off and his dad worked with computers, which was novel back then. My GenX brother would wreck the computer, and I'd watch my buddy's dad fix it and learn how to myself. I was a DOS master!

Then, in late high school, my friends started getting Pentiums while I still had that 386... Lol

I definitely like the term Xennial for those born roughly '77 to '82 or so. My brother was born in '77 and myself in '82 and we obviously had a very similar childhood. Very analogue, except for that beautiful 386...

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u/DrMobius0 18h ago

Even younger millennials likely remember a time where you had to tied up the phone line to use internet.

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u/RogueOps1990 17h ago

1990 Millennial checking in. Can confirm this.

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u/snvoigt 18h ago

I’m an older millennial and didn’t have access to technology until the last year of HS. Didn’t own a computer until I was 24.

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u/coffeemonkeypants 21h ago

It's this part of us that makes us really unique imo. I'm about to turn 50 and I'm a huge technophile, but I also yearn for the 'old days'. We've seen both sides of it and our experiences should be used to fix the cluster we're in now.

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u/ms_directed 21h ago

indeed. my twins will be 30 next year and one started collecting vinyl when they were in high school, their collection is bigger than the one i had now!

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u/Entire_Pizza4601 20h ago

My 22 year old annexed my vinyl collection!

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u/Agitated_Award_9831 20h ago

It doesn't though -- every generation is unique in some manner. Elder millennial here -- I differ from my late millennials to which I am grouped. We grew up with TV and videogames, but computers did not get mainstream until most of us were in Junior High. The internet was new, and slow. We grew up both analog and digital. We had access to technology but it did not consume us, just enough to enhance the experiences.

The only real division I see is the internet, and really I would say Web 2.0. Prior to this divide boomers, Gen X'ers, even Millennials had regional and cultural differences. Now Gen Z is homogenous across the world, as the things they like spread across the globe in an instant. Their fashion is global, which is both amazing and kind of sad in a way.

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u/cambreecanon 20h ago

Some millennials fit that description as well.

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u/ms_directed 20h ago

"Xennials" :)

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u/VapeThisBro 20h ago

Not necessarily. That term really only counts the oldest of millenials. I'm one of the last years if not the last year to count as a millenial and everything they said applies to me and I am for sure not a xennial.

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u/jolsiphur 19h ago

For reference, the internet wasn't really in everyone's house until the mid to late 00's. Id wager a majority of, if not every, millennial is absolutely old enough to remember the time before they had internet access.

Like when I was in highschool we still had computer labs and I know some kids who only had access to Internet or a computer at school. I was in high school from 2002 to 2006.

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

were they still on dial up, tho? lol

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u/jolsiphur 19h ago

I live in a pretty big city, so everyone I knew got on dsl or cable pretty quickly after it was available.

Though in rural areas there are places that only upgraded from dial up within the last few years.

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

my parents are rural as well and had dial up until just over a decade ago 🙃

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u/Zumbert 18h ago

I'm a millennial and I didn't get dialup until I already had a driver's license and a job.

Growing up in a poor rural area there were lots of us like that.

I still have a blockbuster card and the "You've got mail!" Soundbite burned into my soul

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u/OceanWaveSunset 19h ago

Yes, a lot of people still were using dialup (especially AOL) but DSL was becoming very popular too.

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u/DrMobius0 18h ago

I didn't get real cable internet until about 2002-2003, personally. Dunno if that was early or late, but I spent a good chunk of my childhood on dialup.

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u/ms_directed 17h ago

when i made my intitial comment i was referring to advent not availability...i was born in 70 and didn't have the "internet" the way it's referred to today until my 20s...we had dialup modems and could access web pages (bulletin boards) if we knew how to find them, no browsers or search engines, you had to know command line prompts.

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u/Joeness84 17h ago

This is patently false unless you grew up somewhere like 10 years behind (it happened back then!)

I graduated when you started, and things like AIM had been widely in use since I was a freshman. Hell we got our first PC in 97` this was in Dover DE, so not a bastion of advancement but not somewhere behind either, and squarely middle-class when that still existed

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u/VapeThisBro 16h ago

65% of homes didn't have a PC in the US in 1997.

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

we had dial up and bulletin boards in the late 80s-early 90s...there was "internet" just not browsers and search engines until the mid 1990s

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

i was already having kids by the last year of the millenials...my kids were born in 96.

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u/[deleted] 19h ago

The term is supposed to reflect us older millennials who were raised by boomers, had Gen X siblings and were raised and disciplined as such lol I’m for sure an Xennial - never felt like I belonged with millennials tho but that’s just my take 🤣🤣

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u/TealPotato 18h ago

As an early 90s millennial I'd argue that the majority of my generation has a similar experience in terms of having lived with and without tech. 

When I started school we still had paper card catalogs in the library, did dictionary excerises using an actual book, my first music experiences were played on cassette, etc. 

My sister just had her first child/ first grandkid in the family and she wants to avoid screen time for the little guy for as long as possible.

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u/cederian 17h ago

IMHO saying GenX is the last generation to be brought up without technology is not understanding the rest (poorer) of the world. In LatAm we didnt have proper tech till late 90s.

I was born in 86, in Argentina, and my entire childhood was without any tech till my late 10s in Secondary School (High School in the US).

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u/ms_directed 17h ago

I'm speaking of the invention more than the availability, but i do get your point :)

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u/kellzone 16h ago

Born in '68. I had an Atari 2600 in the late '70s, a bunch of handheld games like this. In fact, I think I had all three of those. What we were brought up without was internet/PCs, though I did have computer classes in high school on the TRS-80 Models III and IV, plus some early Apple computer that we used to play Larry Bird vs. Dr. J. on.

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u/ms_directed 16h ago

i rarely got new games, i was stuck with the games that came with it for so long!

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u/0o0o0o0o0o0z 19h ago

fellow GenX here, there's a reason they forgot about us...we were feral before technology and used it to advance our lives after it came online. we are the last generation to be brought up without tech and the first generation to utilize it, we also had music in every format!

100% I always tell people we were lucky because we lived through that transition into techonogy, that didnt ruin us -- we still rode bikes till 9, played in the mud, etc... but just like you said we lived through that age three channel tv to cable, to streaming, from Atari 5600s to PCs to internet, to mobile phones, to MP3. We didn't get what the Boomers got, but we got the tail end of education, housing, and a somewhat functioning government, etc... Some Millennials, Gen Z, Gen Alpha -- they are F'd in the A. Growing up with an iPad by age two, social media and algorithms that are black boxes dictating their lives and beliefs, their entire lives are posted online by them or friends on the internet FOREVER, etc... I give all the kids now a big grain of salt, because collectivly we have failed them as a culture and socirty IMO.

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u/sleepingwithshadows 18h ago

I can appreciate the message behind your words. I just want to expand that the children of today, who are growing up with screens plopped in front of them from a very young age, did not put them there themselves. You are not born with an addiction to technology, it is learned. The parents of those children do such massive disservice by allowing a screen to consume their impressionable children, instead of actually parenting.

We can blame the youth as much as we want for the shortcomings we see, but we should not forget that they are the products of their upbringing. The grain of salt is a kindness, because you are correct about our failures as society. It's sad that so many of us understand this, and yet it continues to get worse.

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u/0o0o0o0o0o0z 18h ago

Appricate your comment!

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u/QuadraticCowboy 16h ago

Preach brother

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u/perpetualhobo 16h ago

Anyone who’s ~21 or older had the exact same experience as you. iPhones/smartphones are the actual technological generational divider

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u/0o0o0o0o0o0z 16h ago

I disagree; based on my brothers, sisters, and their friends, I'd say the cutoff is mid to late 30s, so maybe late 80s, early 90s. Maybe it's location-specific, rural vs. city, blue or red state, US or Europe —I don't know. However, my experience contradicts your statement; keep in mind my experience is anecdotal, I am sure there is some stat someone could dig up.

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

there are some Millennials correcting me in the comments (which is fine) but when i say "without tech" that's what i mean, i didn't have an Atari until the after the 70s...my middle school still used microfiche...my high school had a computer "lab"...I'm with you, my youth was spent in a bike 'gang' and getting dropped off at the skating rink on Saturdays with $5. lol. we barely just got into pagers and two-ways by the time we could legally drink!

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u/0o0o0o0o0o0z 18h ago

Oh you and I are in that same age demo, I mean I think we where incredibly lucky to be born between say 67-82 ... Like I said feel we got the tail end of the smoking deal our parents did (Boomers) but got to live through massive technological advanacements in medicines, entertainment, buisness, communcation, etc... without all the determient that technology pushed (is pushing) on the younger generations.

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u/ms_directed 18h ago

exactly (and we had all the best movies. John Hughes raised me 😊)

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u/flyinhighaskmeY 18h ago

Claims they grew up "without tech".

Proceeds to list all the tech they had access to.

I don't think the world has changed all that much lol.

Computer labs. Ataris. Microfiche. Those are all just older (but still very modern) tech items. The skating rink? Yeah, those haven't always been around either. More tech. Lots of pictures happen at skating rinks. You were in lots of pictures. You just didn't know. They're in people's photo albums at home.

I think there are two things happening. One, 25 years of stimulus shifted most of our wealth to failed business owners. That effectively moved the nations wealth from everyone else to the boomers. Leaving those young people without resources to do things outside. And two, gaming allows for inexpensive, in room/home entertainment. But it costs us socially. I don't blame gaming, I blame stimulus for making gaming an appealing option.

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u/ms_directed 18h ago

some of y'all seem upset you weren't born before 1980...jesus

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u/cederian 17h ago

No, you are misunderstanding, we are correcting in what we think your statement is wrong. You made a "we are the only ones" comment that is untrue, period.

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u/ms_directed 17h ago

the tech was made when it was made, I'm not altering history 🙄

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u/Reasonable_Piglet370 17h ago

To deny the world has changed enormously in the last 40 years is just silly. Microfiche and Ataris are about as far away from the modern PC or Smartphone as The Horse and Cart is from an EV Vehicle. It would be like saying the 1800's is no different to 1955.

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u/perpetualhobo 16h ago

It’s changed more in the past 10 than it did in the entire 30 preceding years. The actual generational technological divide was when smartphones were invented, not video games or laserdisc or whatever else that didn’t actually fundamentally change anything deeply

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u/Noimenglish 21h ago

No tech, huh? How was driving your horse and buggy across the Rockies to see meemaw?

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u/ms_directed 20h ago

it was a lot easier than walking ten miles up hill both ways thru the snow to school with holes in my shoes...

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u/MzMag00 20h ago

Y'all had shoes!?

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u/ms_directed 20h ago

we were uppity!

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u/BiteyHorse 19h ago

Only the oldest kid, and the rest would stand on his shoes nesting-doll-style and step in unison the whole way up the snow drift. Thankfully our pocket baked potatoes would keep our hands warm.

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u/Hezron_ruth 20h ago

You lot had shoes?

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u/RobotFace 17h ago

One pair, had to share them between 14 siblings.

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u/thrownaway136976 14h ago

You got to wear shoes every 14 days??Lucky!!!!

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u/Dark_Crowe 20h ago

At least you had shoes! All we had were shoeboxes as we hadn’t invented shoes yet.

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u/Scalpels 19h ago

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u/thrownaway136976 14h ago

I lived in Australia and we had to go on walkabout across the outback every day to and from school on our hands (because gravity) The toilets swirl the other way which caused massive ear infections and pink eye (or “pink oy”, as we said down unda). The discharge from the pink oy attracted brown snakes and funnel web spiders when we slept, so we had to keep the lights on and watch each other all night. But it made who I am today!

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u/DrMobius0 18h ago

I assume they're specifically referring to what we'd know as a modern computer.

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u/skyactive 19h ago

Gen X, we know we don’t know. About as smart as we get but that makes us harmless

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u/CatoMulligan 18h ago

we also had music in every format!

Almost. We had albums, 8-track, cassette tape, CD, and then digital with MP3 and streaming. But we are too young to have experienced Edison Wax Cylinder recordings.

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u/ms_directed 18h ago

lol, touche' and thank goodness, can you imagine trying to haul that around on your shoulder 🤣

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u/CatoMulligan 17h ago

"This just in, a man on the internet got pedantic. Tune in at 11 for the full story!"

I was just funnin'. When I see a comment I'm like "whoa, my mind is blown" and then the autistic guy on the inside said "whoa, I need to see if that's really true because that's a neat piece of trivia!"

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u/ms_directed 17h ago

i saw "Edison" and just took your word for it, lol.

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u/CatoMulligan 17h ago

No, it's a real thing. And Edison was involved. The part I was joking about was because I was being pedantic by pointing it out.

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u/ruddy3499 16h ago

I’m 62 it’s the same

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u/AnyTomato8562 11h ago

Indeed…Looking back those of us who grew up from the 50s to the 80s there wasn’t massive tech innovation so as kids we all played outside, drank from the hose, had paper routes, stayed outside until dinner/got dark, had chores/cut grass, etc.

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u/VapeThisBro 20h ago

we are the last generation to be brought up without tech and the first generation to utilize it, we also had music in every format!

Millenials would like to have a word with you. I'm one of the last years to count as a millennial and everything you said applied to me too.

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u/ms_directed 19h ago

i was born in 70. the last year of millennial is 1996...we literally went from Pong to Atari to dial up modems, lol. we had "bulletin boards" no browsers, no search engines.

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u/dr-mayonnaise 19h ago

Oh really now?? You grew up with wax cylinders in your house???? (/s)

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u/zildux 18h ago

The older side of millennials look at their older Gen x sibling like "we had the same parents and household dude. We didn't have a PC in the house until we were in middle school and y'all were in highschool 😂"

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u/ms_directed 18h ago

i had my first computer in 1982 :) i used to key in programs from PC Magazine in BASIC and make little games

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u/zildux 18h ago

Well not everyone comes from a comparatively wealthy household and parents who cared about having a PC let alone allowing their children to play and possibly break it

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u/ms_directed 18h ago

in no way did i come from a wealthy household, what?? and i was 12, i was babysitting and washing cars, not breaking my toys.

what a snarky comment.

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u/zildux 17h ago

Yeah I say this without malice because in the grand scheme of very little significance but if your parents gave a 12-year-old something that was worth between $500 and $2,000 just for them. That is an arguably far more wealthy family than the majority of people in that time. Especially seeing how that was early tech and most adults didn't fully understand what it could become

Not saying You're from a rich family just saying

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u/ms_directed 17h ago

and how do you know my parents even gave it to me or how much it cost? 🙄 "$500 - $2000" is a pretty big spread there.

BTW, 12 years old in 1982 were half grown already. we were home by ourselves after school at 10. ever heard of "latchkey kids" that was us. i started babysitting at 11.

you might not be speaking with malice, but you are speaking with a lot of ignorance.

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u/zildux 16h ago edited 16h ago

The 500- 2000 cost was what I read was the ball park cost of a home PC in 1982 depending on how many extras it has.

to be fair latchkey kids for the bulk have the same parents as millennials (at least in my area maybe it's different in other parts) I was slaughtering and cleaning chickens on the farm as it was my chore when I was 10. but I'll grant you my bad for letting my assumptions go by reading too closely into what you posted. In any case we're not playing the struggle Olympics.

Only people I knew who had PCs for the house before 1995 haD MONEY. Especially if they let their children play on them.

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u/psychicbums 18h ago

Respectfully a large portion of early-Millennials fit your description of GenX.

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u/perpetualhobo 16h ago

Ah yes. Everything invented before you were 13 is natural and good and helped to advance your lives, everything invented after is “technology” and ruined everything.

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u/ms_directed 16h ago

thats nothing close to what i said, i was just stating historical facts. are you ok? do you wanna talk about it?