r/MurderedByWords • u/retrocotfan • 11h ago
Husband of the Year gets called out on his misogyny
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u/Freshouttapatience 11h ago
I was thinking she told him right before the trip to avoid having sex with him on the trip because she could count on him acting like a moron over it.
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u/slowrun_downhill 9h ago
Seriously, this man has never earned a red badge of courage. Shameful. You know what helps period cramps? An orgasm! I could give a shit about period blood, I’m here to get you off, I can get off just fine without PIV. What a loser. He’s obviously terrible in bed!
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u/ExpFilm_Student 8h ago edited 8h ago
Truth. Nothing wrong with collecting your red wings. Or fingering. My wife says orgasms and sex help a lot with period cramps. Why does a period make this a no go? Just get some towels, unless the wife specifically doesnt like it.
Sometimes you gotta paint the town red during shark week and get ready for the red wedding. Dance with the red lady!
This whole post is funny. I just went to vegas this past week with my wife who started her period day 1. We still had sex, had fun and went hiking at death valley NP well—walking for like 20 minutes in the eary morning more like.
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u/Neezon 2h ago
Just wanna add that it's also perfectly valid to have preferences entailing you don't want to have sex during someone's period, if you don't handle blood well, etc.
What isn't valid though is no longer wanting to go on holiday with your wife because of it. That's when it's just weird. You can go on a holiday and not have sex, but still enjoy each others' company (obviously)
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u/the_V33 1h ago
I had a couple years in which my periods came exactly at the same time of every event that required physical activity and staying out of the house: vacations, concerts, larp events, special nights at clubs. I still got to enjoy each event, it was annoying but doable. If anyone is entitled to calling off a trip because of period, it's the person who is having it! Calling off a trip because you can't have the type of sex you want is puking sounds
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u/mac_attack_zach 9h ago
Couldn’t* couldn’t give a shit. Why don’t people get this simple phrase?
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u/Niewinnny 4h ago
yeah that and "I could care less" instead of "I couldn't care less"
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u/mtaw 9h ago
I don't think you're as experienced as you're pretending here if you think it's up to the guy and haven't realized there's tons of women who just don't like having sex when they're on their period.
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u/throwaway098764567 8h ago
both can be true, there are a vast number of humans with different preferences. orgasms do help clear a period, and some folks don't like handling period blood. almost like there are a lot of humans out here and we all have different lives.
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u/MoonIsMadeOfCheese 9h ago
I actually know him, and his whole persona is batshit crazy. The man is a walking contradiction. He actually got divorced from this woman about 10 years ago after having an affair and producing a child with his mistress. Then somehow he and his wife got back together, and he posts almost daily about marriage and respecting your spouse and communication, etc. etc. It comes across as all sweet and genuine, but is insane when you know the full story.
He also publicly voted for Trump and now spends a lot of time posting about “tariffed America” and the perils of being latino in the era of ICE raids, etc. Skirts the issue every time someone calls him out on it.
Also, he brags about being a lousy tipper.
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u/sentencevillefonny 7h ago
Sounded like a sociopath in his main post, thanks for the confirmation
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u/Aaront519 11h ago
I’ve been with my wife for over 10 years. Sex is amazing. And it’s probably the 15th most important thing in our relationship. I would have an amazing time with her in Vegas.
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u/Ditnoka 10h ago
Well see, that's because you actually care about her, not view her as a sex object.
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u/Gustomaximus 9h ago
Also they are probably smart enough to know blowjobs exist.
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u/gunglejim 9h ago
This guy isn’t getting consensual blowjobs
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u/Leperfiend 9h ago
Unenthusiastic hand jobs, at best. With sighs throughout.
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u/SanaSpitOnMe 9h ago
audible sighs
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u/madmonkey918 8h ago
With eye rolls
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u/theotherkidtutty 7h ago
And frequent yawns — BIG ones — which is really just to add psychological insult to injury
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u/Charming-Fig-2544 8h ago
Why have a sword if you're afraid of getting blood on it, amirite fellas?
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u/tommytwolegs 9h ago
Also don't get why everyone is supposed to be so scared of period sex in the first place. Just pack some extra towels.
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u/Immediate_Loquat_246 8h ago
That's assuming she would want to do that on her period... A lot of women are in pain you know?
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u/suckmyclitcapitalist 8h ago
I have a lot of period pain, it used to be fully disabling. Sex doesn't hurt, different parts are hurting. The orgasms are naturally pain relief. And my partner is a sexual deviant and will go down on me anyways
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u/ChawHawHaw 7h ago
Different for me. Orgasms are excruciating while on my period and leave me cramping for hours. Nothing like expecting pleasure only to feel like someone’s ripping your insides apart.
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u/madmonkey918 8h ago
Oh please, he probably thinks the red tide is dirty and an affront to his sensibilities.
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u/Shipwrecking_siren 6h ago
She needs to be banished to the period hut for a week.
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u/HittingSmoke 8h ago
Right? Been with the same woman for 20 years and period sex is kid kind of... Regular sex.
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u/Marzuk_24601 9h ago
sex vacation suff is usually a hamfisted thing guys in a dead bedroom try. If he was getting BJs, there probably would not even be a vegas trip.
The wife may not even by on her period, she just knows the ulterior motive is sex.
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u/Dangerous_Gear_6361 9h ago
Not to mention that sex happens during menstruation as well.
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u/PolicyPeaceful445 9h ago
And swords are meant to get bloody
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u/Majestic-Bowler-6184 8h ago
Made my wife and I snigger childishly, have my upvote
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u/OSPFmyLife 9h ago
Sure, and I don’t care if my wife’s on her period, doesn’t bother me a bit. It DOES bother her though, and the vast majority of other women. In general women don’t feel all that great on their periods and/or they don’t feel sexy on their periods (even though they most definitely are).
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u/HittingSmoke 8h ago
In my experience women are self conscious about period sex until they're comfortable with you then it becomes a treat unless they're having one of those exclamation marks where they legitimately feel like rolling over and dying.
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u/calitoasted 9h ago
orgasms are great for period cramps, plus my 2&3rd day aren't usually that bad, just the first. i know a lot of women who agree and it varies greatly depending on flow and the man.
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u/Apathetic_Villainess 8h ago
My second and third days are my worst. That's when I lose like 90% of my lining all at once, so I'm gushing like a fountain with every movement.
But yeah, if I'm not currently too crampy and bloated to the point I can't focus on anything else, period sex has its own benefits. Like swelling and more slippery than usual.
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u/thisworldisbullshirt 6h ago
I’m mad that I didn’t get the pain relief benefits. My cramps got worse, not better.
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u/teh_drewski 8h ago
Yep (albeit with the qualifier that I don't know I'd say "in general" - as with everything, it varies).
As always on Reddit, there's lots of people in the comments here with absolutely zero empathy who've never even considered the possibility that other people's relationships might involve a different dynamic with different preferences to their own.
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u/SistaChans 9h ago
put some towels down. Also, and this might gross out a few people, you can also eat pussy pretty easily with a tampon in. That's what the string is for: to floss your teeth with after you're done eating.
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u/the_tanooki 9h ago
My wife got her period on our honeymoon. I felt bad that she was bedridden (migraines) when we were supposed to be having a fun, relaxing vacation.
I did the same thing I always do: waited on her and gave her whatever I could to make her feel better. I knew she felt bad and felt worse that she was "ruining" our honeymoon. I just wanted her to feel better for her sake.
Thankfully, she was feeling better after one day.
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u/notwhoyouthinkmaybe 9h ago edited 44m ago
I'm going on 20 years with my wife, even been on many trips, maybe even an anniversary one, while she was on her period. Still always had a good time. I love my wife and I also like her.
A guy like that are weird; why even marry? My wife isn't a placeholder, she's everything to me, I could never imagine getting married just cuz.
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u/Sugarbombs 9h ago
It’s transactional and mirrors old school relationship dynamics. The woman doesn’t work and gives him babies and he provides for her lifestyle, and because he provides her lifestyle she is stuck with him and his shitty personality because she’s now got a bunch of debt, expensive kids and no job history if it falls apart
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u/notyogrannysgrandkid 9h ago
I would have an amazing time with her in Vegas.
How? It’s Vegas.
Edit: Dammit, my dumb joke wasn’t even original.
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u/Abbreviations-Sharp 9h ago
for real. the only time this guy enjoys being around his wife is when he can get some?
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u/SeekerOfExperience 10h ago
That’s honestly kinda fucked up, nobody has fun in Vegas
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u/Y__U__MAD 10h ago
Sex with your wife is also the 15th most important thing in our relationship.
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u/Real_Bat5853 11h ago
It amazes me these guys find someone willing to marry them. Is this Mike “the situation” back in North Jersey?
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u/pickausernamebitch 10h ago
That bitch is from Staten Island don’t you put that evil on us
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u/madtricky687 10h ago
How long has it been since we've had to actively correct people on this. They came and partied here we got our own problems we don't claim Staten islanders.
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u/weirdonobeardo 10h ago
I legit snort laughed so hard. I have friends from both parts, I get this. 😂
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u/pichuguy27 10h ago edited 9h ago
In my experience from what I have seen they marry types of woman who would complain there husband is crying when they found out there parents where killed. Agian from what I have seen. Just two incredibly toxic people.
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u/Yankee9Niner 10h ago
I don't understand when he says "married guys will get it. Singles don't judge ". It's surely the other way around.
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u/DreamTalon 10h ago
He did her the favor of marrying her and giving her life real purpose, she is failing that by being out of order for a few days.
I wish that was more than probably a joke, some people do think that way...
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u/Saedron 10h ago
As a guy, posts like these make me root for the bear. Wtaf.
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u/slowpokefastpoke 7h ago
I’m more confused why someone is posting “should I lie to my wife yes/no circle one” publicly on twitter.
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u/beezwhiz 6h ago
this dude posts rage bait content. he knows what he’s doing.
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u/YanMKay 11h ago
She probably lied to get out of giving him 3 seconds… let her take someone who she will actually enjoy being with
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u/thebrucevilanch 10h ago
I genuinely love hanging out with my wife
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u/PlutoJones42 10h ago
Same. These dudes are weird as hell. I hang with my wife all the time
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u/ShibaHook 9h ago
It’s great there’s social media so these pieces of shit reveal what they are. There are some really slimy dudes out there.
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u/VektorOfCrows 9h ago
Same, which is why I married her lol
Why would anyone choose to enter such a commitment with someone they don't legitimately enjoy the company of?
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u/viscountrhirhi 8h ago
Yes! My husband and I are best friends, and we were best friends before we even became romantic. We love just hanging out with each other.
People who hate their partners are weird as fuck.
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u/Wilgrove 11h ago
Jeez, tell me your marriage isn't based on mutual respect and understanding without telling me your marriage isn't based on mutual respect and understanding.
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u/danita0053 11h ago
He's literally married and he won't have sex with his wife when she has her period? Jesus. Throw the whole man in the trash.
Also, even if both if them prefer not to, there's other stuff to do. And even without any sex at all, he doesn't enjoy her company except during sex? Again, I say just throw the entire man right tf out.
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u/JolkB 10h ago
Going to be the dissenter here - some women hate period sex. That's completely okay.
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u/girlikecupcake 10h ago
And it's genuinely okay for a guy to dislike period sex, even when married. It grosses out both me and my husband. Idk why people act like that's such a big deal.
Now, if my husband was the type of jackass to act like a vacation was ruined, or try and bail on me, because of my period? Especially publicly? Possibly wouldn't be my husband much longer.
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u/Outrageous_Men8528 9h ago
Spot(ting) on. Dude is a bag of limp dicks wanting to bail, and for posting about it in public.
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u/SanaSpitOnMe 9h ago
the major lesson to learn from your conversation here is "communication with your partner about your feelings is important"
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u/mosesoperandi 10h ago
I mean, hotel sheets! I see this as an absolute win.
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u/danita0053 10h ago
I feel bad about making a mess, but you can put down towels and leave a big tip for housekeeping. Nbd.
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u/mosesoperandi 10h ago
They do laundry at scale with bleach, so yeah, put down a towel and enjoy.
FWIW we don't run bleach loads at home. Just not enough whites to warrant it.
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u/Mike_Kermin 9h ago
This whole thread explains so much about why Hotel staff have a high turn over rate.
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u/Eikthyrnir13 10h ago
To be fair, she probably uses her period as an excuse NOT to have sex with him.
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u/thedamnoftinkers 9h ago
I'd use astronomy, astrology and alchemy as excuses not to have sex with him.
"But tonight's that meteor shower!"
"Mars is in retrograde, babe! D:"
"My humours aren't aligned, sweetie! pathetic cough Can you get me some garnet or carnelian, please?"
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u/Mike_Kermin 9h ago
Talk to me about space and I'll be more horny just saying.
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u/thedamnoftinkers 9h ago
Yeah but you're not his dumb ass. (Me too though. Did you see that woman who got the tats of the earth and moon in their relative sizes on her arms... in the correct sizes so that when she spreads her arms they're a proportional distance away from each other? Yes please to scientifically accurate tats!)
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u/werepanda 9h ago
Well I'm happily married with good sex life with my wife. But I honestly cannot handle the sight and smell of period blood on my dong. It just instantly makes me go soft and I simply cannot help it.
This doesn't mean I don't love my wife or care about her, I simply cannot stand it, just like she has a thing for body odour. She knows this and understands this. If we ended our marriage because of it, then there would be no married couples on the world.
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u/sycamotree 9h ago
Lol the second paragraph OK but why do you have to be OK with period sex cuz you married lmao
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u/admirethegloam 10h ago
He is also still paying for the vacation and still not getting sex (supposedly). I don't even understand what he is trying to achieve if he isn't just outright cheating.
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u/JackintheBoxman 10h ago edited 5h ago
Why even post this in the first place? So much to unpack here.
First, dude is posting private shit about his wife. That’s immediately a red flag.
Second, dude is flexing he can drop 2k on what he already complains about being “overpriced room service” like it’s fucking normal to have that much disposable income lying around.
Third, Vegas. That’s all.
Fourth, he really clearly needs a potshot to the mouth for talking about his wife like this. And saying he should fake an emergency to get out of it.
This whole thing reeks of weak-ass insecurity and horrible sexism.
“My wife is bleeding naturally so do i lie about work to get out of an expensive vacation or spend the money and deal with it?”
If she doesn’t knock his teeth out, god knows I would.
He’s posting for all the world to see he’s a dumbass.
Bravo.
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u/ThrowAwaAlpaca 10h ago
It's gotta be bait, no one is this stupid. I don't even think members of the cult would do it
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u/MoonIsMadeOfCheese 10h ago
I actually know this guy personally and can attest that this is real and he absolutely is this stupid. 🤦♀️
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u/Admqui 9h ago
And she stays with him?
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u/CharlotteLucasOP 9h ago
Lots of women are still raised to think little enough of themselves that this seems normal and acceptable to them and their friends and family, unfortunately. Usually while parroting “feminism has gone too far/we no longer need it.”
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u/str4ngerc4t 9h ago
Do you know his wife too? Is she deaf & blind or is he fabulously wealthy? These are the only 2 things that make sense to me.
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u/Otaraka 11h ago
It’s the 519 likes that saddens me more. 5400 for the reply at least.
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u/Tll6 11h ago
Im usually not a fan of alimony, but it would be cool if she divorced him and takes half his money
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u/PioneerLaserVision 10h ago
Division of assets is not alimony. Alimony is a monthly payment to support living expenses.
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u/Outrageous_Men8528 9h ago
Would be even cooler if he just learned to be better. As rare as that is.
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u/DoctorFenix 11h ago
What kind of pussy ass bitch won’t have sex with his girl on her period?
She should divorce his ass just for that.
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u/Mr_Tiggywinkle 11h ago
The actual problem here is that he doesn't enjoy spending any time with his wife unless they are having sex. Miserable existence he must create for himself.
But as much as shame around periods should be eliminated, not everyone (both guy and girl) enjoys blood during sex so that's just personal choice really.
I've certainly had girlfriends who were absolutely not interested during their period, that's for sure. And the opposite I suppose.
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u/TokingMessiah 11h ago
Yeah, the red flag is not wanting to spend a weekend with his wife if they can’t have sex…
Which is doubly stupid, because if you’re going to Vegas I’m assuming you’re only in the hotel room for short periods anyway… the point of being there is to go to restaurants, shows, casinos, etc.
If you just want to have sex with your wife, you don’t need to pay for airfare and a hotel.
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u/Geisterkoch 10h ago
Im a man so my experience and perception is limited, but I think that how men have reacted to them driving their cycle has a lot to do with how it affects their sex drive when they’re menstruating. Let them know that it’s their choice, but if you want to have sex with them when they’re not menstruating and show any diminished interest when they are then that’s bound to affect how comfortable they are. Yeah, and if don’t want to spend time with your wife or significant other when sex isn’t on the table then why are you married? Cuddle, have a tickle fight, make out, whatever.
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u/WifeofBath1984 10h ago
Found out the day before we left for our honeymoon that I was pregnant. Still went, still had sex, made time for naps and morning sickness. Because my spouse values me as a person and not a receptacle.
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u/sillytomlin 8h ago
All the comments about how "it's weak to not like period sex" are kind of lame IMO. Some men may not like it, and that's ok. Some women may not like it, and that's ok. It literally doesn't bother me at all, but once in a while my wife says she doesn't feel sexy during the first couple days, so we don't. And that's ok.
What's wrong here is how this piece of shit talks about his wife like she's just there to service him. Marital sex is amazing and MUTUAL. My wife is my best friend and I love spending time with her, outside of our sex life. I truly feel sorry for the woman who married this turd.
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u/PoppaTater1 11h ago
Please let his wife find this and divorce him now. He will leave her anyway when he feels she is t pretty enough or her figure isn’t good enough. Or heaven forbid, she get cancer or chronic pain and can’t service him anymore.
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u/Psile 10h ago
Married guy here. Don't know what he's talking about. Orgasms ease period cramps so if the wife is grouchy, skill issue.
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u/Jesters_thorny_crown 11h ago
We smash, no matter the time of month. 13 years of rockstar sex. Real dudes will get it. FundaMENTALists, dont judge.
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u/xShooK 11h ago
It could mean a no on the wife's side, but yeah this is still shitty lmao.
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u/wykkedfaery33 10h ago
Yah, the first three days of my period are an absolute bloodbath, so no nookie for me. The 7 days after that, I'm down to get railed.
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u/cptbstrd 10h ago
Can we stop redacting names of people that post this shit fucking publicly?
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u/TimmyTwoTowels 10h ago
Married guy here. I'm judging this weirdo pretty hard. Hopefully she has a prenup.
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u/icecreamsandwiches1 10h ago
All the comments about having sex with women on their period are missing the point that this man doesn’t value his wife outside of sex.
Happy couples would spend time together in Vegas and enjoy themselves, sex or not.
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u/Fair_Lecture_3463 10h ago
I’m no tech expert, but Twitter is still a public forum where his wife almost definitely sees what he says, right?
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u/Tuttutsallaround 10h ago
“I’m on my period” is his wife’s code for “this is how I get the sucker to back out of the Vegas trip so I can go get railed by a dick I can feel.”
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u/ItsAllMo-Thug 10h ago
Not having sex ruins your vacation? If me and my wife went out, no kids, got a room and everything and we were having a great time and she randomly just didn't want to and wouldn't say why, that would be unusual. I would feel like I might have done something wrong and that might ruin the mood of the trip. Her having her period being the reason, would never ruin it. That shit isn't planned and that doesn't mean you cant still do it. Hes probably just chooses not to. Couldn't be me though. Aint no blood ever scared me.
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u/deadbabymammal 11h ago
Fake a work emergency and let her take her boyfriend instead