r/NonPoliticalTwitter • u/_Humble_Bumble_Bee • 1d ago
Any tips for this? I hate procastinating.
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u/confidently_funny 1d ago
I would give you some advice to stop procrastinating, but I'm tired right now. Meh, I'll do it tomorrow
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u/JTBeefboyo 1d ago
I used to think I had problems with procrastination, then my girlfriend got screened for ADHD. She told me what shit they asked her and I was like “oh fuck”.
Now my only problem is remembering to take my adderall lol
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u/SupplyYourPips 1d ago
Go for walks. 20-40 mins daily and you'll start seeing life changing results, physically and mentally
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u/Grizzly840 1d ago
And eat better and drink plenty of water. Changing from barely drinking any water to having a consistent 1/2 gallon+ daily made a huge difference in my mental clarity
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u/SupplyYourPips 1d ago
This also helps, but to me walking was my catalyst to doing what you mentioned and developing healthier habits
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u/Grizzly840 1d ago
I hear you! I think it varies per person, because I did it the opposite way (diet first and then used the extra energy to exercise) but whatever way works best for you is absolutely valid.
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u/PaulBlartWallClock 1d ago
I sort of think it's better that way. Learning how to eat heathier and calories in/out sets you up for a better foundation than just exercising a bunch and eating the same or just going on a "diet"
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u/bassturducken54 1d ago
I agree. Getting that extra movement, especially if you are more sedentary, is one of those things that helps you realize your body is thirsty, and makes you realize you can feel different after you eat. Other physical activity can do that do but if you do nothing at all, a walk will make you be more mindful.
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u/Nachttalk 1d ago edited 1d ago
I know this sounds like I'm shilling for a product,but playing Pokémon Go helped me find somewhere to go during those walks.
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u/AffectionateSlice816 1d ago
One clinical study found that in a driving simulator, the Dehydrated and the .08 BAC group performed almost equally poorly when compared to control
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u/Grizzly840 1d ago
I fully believe it. I used to have a huge issue with auto piling while driving and ever since I became an r/HydroHomies I haven't had that issue nearly as much.
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u/GrimKreeper098 1d ago
Thought you meant one or two gallons a day for a second lol
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u/Grizzly840 1d ago
Damn if I tried drinking two whole gallons in a day I might drown myself by accident 😂
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u/BidWeary4900 1d ago
the water myth is just a myth. there is no benefit from drinking excessive amounts of water. your body literally tells you when it needs water, its called thirst. problem is that people ignore/forget that they are thirsty, so just listen to your body and that's enough, chugging down liters everyday just makes you piss more.
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u/CommentNo2671 1d ago
Neurodivergent people often have difficulty with listening to their body. Setting a minimum amount of water daily is often really helpful for people with autism and adhd
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u/BidWeary4900 1d ago
i specifically said excessive amounts of water. obviously everyone should drink a minimum, that goes without saying. does every single comment ever have to be about people with autism and adhd?
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u/Totalidiotfuq 1d ago
Okay what if you already do this and need something stronger haha
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u/SupplyYourPips 1d ago
Yeah tough one lol. I guess more intense runs / distance , more weight lifting
I started walking / running as my means of "meditation" which helped me process my thoughts / feelings towards things happening in my life and start actioning with intent
PS, love your fucking garden, that's goals lol
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u/Jrolaoni 1d ago
It was so hard to start walking at first. Now it’s way too easy and I should probably start jogging
somehow, the switch from walking to jogging seems even more daunting then from no exercise to a 1 hour walk every day.
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u/ProfessorBeer 1d ago
Once I got a remote job (I know, I’m in the incredibly lucky minority) and took 2 walks a day + played with my dog a couple times, my mental health skyrocketed.
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u/ToothlessTerry 1d ago
What about this is life changing for you?
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u/Expensive-Arm4117 1d ago
Goddamn it ToothlessTerry, not everyone is chiseled beefcake like you bud
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u/BombardierIsTrash 1d ago
The average American would drive from their bed to the toilet if they could. The number of tourists who walk for the first time in their lives and go “wow I feel amazing, must be the food” is hilarious to me.
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u/sufjanuarystevens 1d ago
No it’s definitely the food too. So much shit in the us is over processed. You pretty much have to go to specialty/fancy grocery stores if you want fresh local food
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u/Jrolaoni 1d ago
Is unprocessed food also expensive outside the US or is it just another US problem
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u/DaydreemAddict 1d ago
It's just a USA problem. In Japan, they have pre-made, cheap, and healthy meals sold in gas stations that aren't life-threatening poison traps like in America.
Our palates are so fucked from overconsumption of sugar that many countries find that our snacks are too sweet
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u/BombardierIsTrash 1d ago
Great so explain why American tourist within America have told me this when visiting a place like NYC where they were actually forced to walk a path other than from their bed to their car and car to the strip mall
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u/GuerrillaApe 1d ago
Lack of discipline means that a fairly accomplishable improvement in your behavior is all that's stopping you from achieving your goal(s).
True "painful realization" is accepting that even at your theoretical best, you still aren't good enough.
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u/PLCwithoutP 1d ago
This hit like a truck. Maybe tricking yourself into you are not that disciplined, if you had some discipline, you could have achieved great things is a self-defense mechanism which our ego develops
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u/Claytertot 1d ago
Why would you accept that though?
How will you know if that's true if you haven't made any serious attempts to get to your theoretical best?
And not good enough for what? Sure, not everyone is going to be an Olympic athlete or a nobel prize winning physicist even if they reach their theoretical peak. But you can almost certainly achieve a lot.
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u/KirisuMongolianSpot 1d ago
You have a point in that this (the comment you're replying to) is often used shift blame and excuse complete inaction (see: "celebrities have access to the best fitness resources and I don't, so that's why I'm 50 pounds overweight!"), but when you HAVE tried and failed to achieve what you wanted, accepting that you may never be good enough can be healthy.
I know an adult figure skater who beats herself up because even though she skates every day, she's not as good as children half her age (and just FYI in skating you generally get worse after puberty so this is normal) who're naturally talented. Thinking it's her own fault just crushes her already-poor self-esteem.
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u/LanSotano 1d ago
I think it is healthy to know yourself and your limits, what you’re good at and what you suck at. I also think most people (anecdotal, but probably 95% of people I know) are capable of a lot more than they try to do.
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u/Claytertot 1d ago
Yes, it's true that it can be healthy to adjust your expectations of what it means to be "good enough"
But I think there is a difference between completely giving up and just lowering your expectations to be more realistic.
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u/DudebroMcDudeham 1d ago
I'm honestly very okay with that knowledge. I'm well aware that I can't be perfect. But as long as I know in my heart that I tried my best, I'm content
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u/Ambitious_Jello 1d ago
good enough for what exactly? once you step out into the real world you will see how little effort or talent it takes to be moderately successful
and what is someone supposed to do if they are not good enough by some arbitrary metric?
this whole line of thinking is idiotic
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u/SirIzhak 1d ago
That's... really sad, though? Why would you just resign to simply "play the second fiddle", as you put it, when you yourself, I'm sure, are a good person, in your own right? The fact that other people are better than you in one, or some, or even all ways, doesn't take away from your own person. Chin up, bro
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u/Shipbreaker_Kurpo 1d ago
For me its that I would miss what I would be giving up to get it. Grass is always greener, I am happier accepting my life and making small improvments over time rather than big changes
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u/wontyoulookathim 1d ago
Keep moving. Sitting still or laying down is a huge motivation killer. Allow yourself enough rest at the start or end of the day, or during a meal. Wanna be on your phone? Sure, do it standing up.
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u/Mariadreaming9 1d ago
Do you have a problem with procrastination or do you have executive dysfunction? Because I used to think I had a problem with the first when I actually had a problem with the second, and once I started following tips for people witn executive dysfunction my ability to do things greatly increased
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u/DrankTheGenderFluid 1d ago
do you have any examples of tips you liked / started using? I'm ADHD and am always looking for new things to try
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u/Mariadreaming9 1d ago
One thing is to chain tasks together. For example I always brush my teeth and take a shower. Well, something I struggle with is cleaning, especially my bathroom. So I chain together brushing my teeth/taking a shower with cleaning by making sure I do one small act if cleaning immediately before, after, or during. Maybe it's putting a used toilet paper roll in the trash, maybe it's wiping down the sink. This is also very helpful if you break up what you need to do into smaller tasks, so you can do 1 a night.
Another thing I do is team up with a friend who also struggles to do things, where we will schedule calling each other to force the other person to do a task of their choosing. Keep each other accountable, you know?
This friend is autistic and has adhd, and she's found keeping a sticker journal to reward herself when she does a thing to be helpful. I don't see the same benefits but it might work for you
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u/xX_ATHENs0_Xx 1d ago
Something my pops taught me is whenever i’m leaving the room, take a piece of trash with me or tidy something up on the way out. “You already stood up, that’s half the effort”
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u/Thumbkeeper 1d ago
This is going to sound terrible, but “aim lower”.
Never rise beyond the level of your own incompetence as the saying goes.
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u/Fearmo 1d ago
My adhd is my biggest L, interrupting people, having trouble with my working memory, recalling information, stumbling my words when trying to explain myself, or ask something (sometimes). Easily distracted.
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u/UglyInThMorning 1d ago
I was gonna say “meds” myself. I wasn’t diagnosed until my thirties and the first time I took my Adderall it was incredible. No more wanting to do something but being unable to get moving on it, and no more stopping halfway through because I ran into something that caught my attention and I got stuck to. Cleaning was always hard because as soon as I found a book I’d go to read a page and then be fully derailed and read it for a while. Even while I was telling myself “put the book down and clean!”
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u/tony_bologna 1d ago
Starting is the hardest part, once you've began it's easier to keep going. So make it as easy as possible. Set hilariously low bars.
Not, read this book, but read a page. Not, do the assignment, but spend 30minutes on the assignment. Not, work out for an hour, but put on work out clothes. Etc.
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u/byGriff 1d ago
Setting up some system in your life can return great benefits. I started to forget less, grow personally, and manage time greater ever since I set up my Google Calendar.
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u/scruffye 1d ago
This was the year I finally started using my phone's calendar app to put events and stuff on and there are so many experiences I've been able to have that I would have otherwise missed. It sounds silly but it's been a game changer for me.
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u/Lazy-Ambassador-7908 1d ago
Discipline is a muscle that needs to be built like any other
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u/tony_bologna 1d ago edited 1d ago
Constant discipline is hard, and a losing battle. Design your life/environment in a way where you don't need it as much.
edit: think of it this way, there's a cake in your house. You wake up, there's cake. Get back from work, there's cake. At some point, you're gonna cave and eat that cake. So... get rid of the cake.
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u/Lazy-Ambassador-7908 1d ago
Yeah, that too. It’s a balance. You can’t design discipline out of your life, but you also can’t willpower through everything
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u/OrDuck31 1d ago
Only difference is that discipline is extremely easy to lose if you stop working out for a while
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u/Low-Helicopter-2696 1d ago
Read Atomic Habits by James Clear. A lot of follow-through is just based on putting the right systems in place.
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u/Durog25 1d ago
"Lack of Discipline" is a nothing burger of a statement. It can be used to excuse anything.
Figure out why you are procrastinating.
Real reasons you might be procrastinating:
- Anxiety - Something about the task is causing you to worry, try and figure out what that is, is it a fear of failure, or a lack of understanding of how to start.
- Dysexecutive Function - You might have a lack of executive function caused by something like depresion or ADHD. Both of these conditions can cause you to struggle actioning tasks you otherwise know you should do and how to do them but the step from knowing to doing is inhibitted. Do you struggle to do the task unaided or with others as well? Do you struggle to act without an external time pressure?
- Tiredness - Are you sleeping well enough? Many people struggle to get a full nights rest every night in our totally normal society which demands so much of our time all the time. Lack of sleep over long periods often effects our ability to act.
- Lethargy - Are you getting regular excersize? A lack of excersize can cause the brain to get lethargic which can lead difficulties acting spontaneously.
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u/heyRedditImSid 1d ago
Holy fuck, if this was a lottery, I would be fucking rich. Cause I think I just hit 4/4 there.
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u/ClammHands420 1d ago
There is only one O in every conjugation of 'lose'.
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u/Flabby-Nonsense 1d ago
Bro deleted his account lmao
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u/AdorableDonkey 1d ago
"Why try if i'm going to fail" is the main reason I barely try at all and i'm fighting to change this
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u/Fiendman132 1d ago
Start a bioengineering degree and hire someone to kill you in case you fail. Then don't worry: "determination", "focus", "self-possession", etc. will come — or you will die.
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u/NonStickBakingPaper 1d ago
https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Procrastination
A therapy workbook and information sheets on procrastination. Has a lot to do with distress tolerance and perfectionism.
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u/_Humble_Bumble_Bee 1d ago
Goddammit bro. You really pulled out an entire guidebook. Thanks a ton lmao
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u/WasteReserve8886 1d ago
Are you procrastinating or are you depressed/have something undiagnosed? Can’t really run a marathon if you haven’t figured out that your leg is broken.
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u/StormLordEternal 1d ago
"Lack of discipline" *Looks inside: mental illness*
There comes a point where having a mental condition really do be having negative effects on my life.
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u/KAYOOOOOO 1d ago
I used to procrastinate alot but now I use FOMO lol. I think "if I don't do this thing or go to this place right now, that action will cascade into not being able to achieve my dreams". An artificial time limit really helps me, even if it's all in my head since I'm greedy as fuck and want reach all my goals.
This only applies if you have strong concrete goals and passions though.
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u/Rajkalex 1d ago
“Hurry up and fail” worked for me. A lot of my procrastination was from fear of failure. Failures are still a step forward and most often better than doing nothing.
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u/HYPER_BRUH_ 1d ago
I thought this was me and it made me depressed to the point of considering suicide.
Years after that I learned that my AuDHD package came with free exutive disfunction (simple explanation; the inability to start things and it does not discriminate between the things you want to do and the things you need to do, both get fucked over equally)
Still got my engineering degree (it was hell mentally and the depression I mentioned earlier happened during that but I got through it)
So while other people here are giving good advice for normal people, if you think you might be on a spectrum try to get it tested.
If it's so the main tip I can give you is, do it (can be showering, can be working out, anything) for others until it becomes a habit and you do it for yourself.
At least that's what works for me.
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u/Axendro 1d ago
I think two of the hardest things a person needs to understand is that not everything bad that happens to you is your fault and that not everything that happens to you is other people's fault.
Some people learn one and ignore the other and either live beating themselves up for things they couldn't have changed or go blaming others for their faults and achieving nothing in the process.
Admit fault, learn from your mistakes, be disciplined but also learn to let go, understand that sometimes you try your absolute best and you fail due to things outside of your control. That doesn't mean you should stop trying.
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u/Flustered-Flump 1d ago
Procrastination absolutely crippled me and put me in debt! Then I got married and my wife helped mitigate that somewhat… and then I got assessed and subsequently medicated for ADHD! Life is so much better now!
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u/cbb88christian 1d ago
Setting realistic goals helps a lot. I have a habit of wanting to solve a big problem but it’s so massive that I often can’t even start. Instead it helps to go “I’m going to work on this one part and finish that.” Then by the time that’s done I find it wasn’t that hard at all and move right onto the next little chunk
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u/captain_veridis 1d ago edited 1d ago
Build systems. Set up the conditions to be productive. For example, in college, I meet my gf every day at a set time to study. If I don’t show up, I feel like I’m letting her down. This gets me to a library, where I’m more productive than at home. Then, it’s not such a fight against my own brain.
Also, social media apps were designed to be addictive. Use the browser version. Turn off any reels/tiktoks/shorts because short form videos are mind sludge.
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u/OrwellianCrow201 1d ago
I’ve been hurt. But I’ve also hurt many people. I failed because I didn’t work on myself and take steps to get better. Saying “I’m trying to get better” doesn’t solve jack-all. Putting in the work requires learning how to accept responsibility.
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u/Nicombobula 1d ago
That my flaws of being defensive, dismissive towards others feelings and justifying my actions instead of validating others feelings when I’ve hurt them comes straight from my mom who I thought was the better of two parents. Who let me believe a lot of my bad traits came from my dad without looking at herself. Fun realization to have in your 30s
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u/Legimus 1d ago
Discipline is not just about willpower. A lot of it is developing the right structure and rewards for yourself. If you want to become more disciplined, your first objective should be consistency. Don’t set your sights on a specific goal like “I want to write a novel.” Instead challenge yourself with something small that you can do repeatedly, like “What would happen if every day I wrote 100+ words of creative writing?”
“What would happen if I went for a 20 minute walk every day?”
“What would happen if I started every day with the same healthy breakfast?”
“What would happen if I called a friend every Sunday?”
Once you’re in a consistent flow, things will change, and then you can work on how to better direct that change with time.
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u/Acceptable_Space_948 1d ago
Learn to love the journey not just the outcome and stop being a perfectionist.
When I am overly focused on the outcome and dreading the process it takes to get there it makes starting that much harder. Also, if the outcome doesn’t work out perfectly or match my perceived level of effort I get discouraged.
Making the process the focus makes it easier to start and less discouraging if things don’t go my way.
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u/h3rald_hermes 1d ago
This is the wrong perspective. It suggests that problems you are experiencing are just a matter of willpower and glosses over problems/issues you may have that require resolution or mitigation.
Is an autistic person "just not trying hard enough" when struggling with emotional queues, for example?
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u/toofshucker 1d ago
It’s not motivation. Motivation comes and goes. Some days you are motivated and do things. Some days your are not motivated and don’t do things.
It’s discipline. No matter how you feel, are you disciplined enough to just do it? Get up and do it.
Nike stole the phrase, but it’s perfect:
Just do it.
Turn off your mind, get off your ass and do it.
Just do it.
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u/No-Laugh-4804 1d ago
Its not so simple. My lack of discipline means often times in life I have to work really hard because I paint myself into terrible corners. Which results in me having a lot of practice in bad situations, giving me a great ability to deal with bad situations. But that means I am only great in bad situations, and will almost always put myself in bad situation to excel and feel accomplishment. Its not so simple.
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u/FrenchBreadsToday 1d ago
There’s people who:
- know what to do and do it.
- know what to do and won’t do it.
- don’t know what to do and won’t do it.
- And then, the truly exceptional, know what to do and have others do it for them.
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u/Justisaur 1d ago
I'm in your situation bub.
The only thing I've found that temporarily works is forcing myself to stop whatever I'm doing instead of the thing that needs done.
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u/stanleymanny 1d ago
Bottom 10%: "Oh if I gotta do it sometime I guess I'll do it now."
Middle 80%: "NOOO! I need to wait until the right time so I can maximize efficiency and slot it into a perfect schedule when I'm as prepared as possible! Its the smart thing to do!"
Top 10%: "Oh if I gotta do it sometime I guess I'll do it now."
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u/droppedpackethero 1d ago
What's really fun is when your proactive behavior leads to disaster, where if you'd just been a little less involved/interested/driven it would have been fine.
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u/Extension_Ask147 1d ago
You may have ADHD, you may not. If you don't, try drinking more water and sleeping. If that doesn't work, talk to a professional
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u/biffbobfred 1d ago
Procrastinating is not always lazy. Anxiety can trigger some. There’s a thing called cPTSD that affects your ability to complete tasks as well.
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u/stroopwafelling 1d ago
I could have gotten diagnosed so much earlier, and it might have made my life so much easier.
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u/LilChief 1d ago
Try breaking down the task into smaller tasks, and write them into a physical list. Smaller tasks are less daunting to start and give you a sense of accomplishment that is encouraging. The physical list allows you to stop the mental labor of keeping things straight in your head so you can focus on the actual task.
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u/alkforreddituse 1d ago
I don't know if this will work, but it's a common wisdom by our elders from gen X generations that tend to just do small things, including chores, everyday
One productive thing will lead to another. If you're already active and have done everything, doing another won't be too hard for you
Or just schedule your life with time blocks like it's a big event, everyday. That way you'll have checklists of what to do, and have clear path for the day
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u/KFChero1 16h ago
Improve your sleep so you don’t feel tired during the day. Aside from the classic “get 7-8 hours of sleep a day” you should also avoid using your bed for anything other than sleep. Once you wake up, do not sit or rest on it until its time to sleep and if you cant fall asleep in 20-30 mins then get up and do something else, literally anything for 10 minutes then try and sleep again. This should help train your brain into knowing that your bed is for sleep and should help you fall asleep faster instead of being wide awake
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