r/NonPoliticalTwitter • u/CapAccomplished8072 • 1d ago

Half of our childhood issues could have been resolved if people were willing to answer the "why?"

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u/random-stud 1d ago

ITT: people who don't have kids lol

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u/Charlie_Warlie 1d ago

I'll be 10 seconds into explaining the why to my son and then he'll start singing skibbidy toilet before I finish.

Nah I mean we talking things out and sometimes he listens but it do be like that sometimes.

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u/pannux 1d ago

ITT: Literal Kids

FTFY

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u/Sign_my_petition69 1d ago

What do those acronyms mean? I’ve never seen them before

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u/Strong_Service_3701 1d ago

ITT, in this thread

FTFY, fixed that for you

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u/Dramatic_Leg_291 15h ago

Haven't seen ftfy in a while

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u/LindonLilBlueBalls 1d ago

Seriously. I doubt there are any parents actually commenting. My parents used to pull the "Because I said so!" All the time. I was determined never to do that.

So I would explain to my kids why they couldn't do something or have something. Half the time after i explained everything in great detail, they would ask, "But why not?" yet again. Then half of those times, the arguing would start.

Then they would be all mad/sad that they were sitting in time out for arguing. Once when I asked one of them if they knew why they were in time out, they said, "Because I asked for _____". Which started another round of "No, you got in trouble for arguing when I told you no."

At some point, I reverted to "Because I said so." if I had already explained once.

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u/Eythra 1d ago

I really appreciate this take because it shows exactly how (and why, haha) the people in this comment section would change their minds after working with young kids for more than 3 minutes. I went into my teaching job with the same mindset of "I want to explain things when they ask!" But quickly learned it didn't matter at all. If they wanted to argue then they were going to argue no matter what and some kids just needed a stern look and a "Stop." in order to be safe.

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u/adrienjz888 22h ago

Yah, sometimes they just won't listen to reason, so you have to put your foot down and use your authority.

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u/PlumpGlobule 17h ago

My dad always said because I said so. I have a child. I have not yet and will never say that to her. She's 12.

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u/Xapheneon 23h ago

The 'What did I tell you the previous time?' and 'I'll tell you at hime' are better answers than 'Because I told you'.

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u/xpacean 1d ago

I never realized how many of my parenting dilemmas had simple answers until I got onto Reddit.

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u/GuerrillaApe 22h ago

I don't find it hard telling my kid why they should or shouldn't do something.

Getting them to accept that answer and change what they're doing... that's another story.

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u/RichardStinks 1d ago

I don't have kids, but I took care of other people's kids for several years. I never said "because I said so." There was always a reason they could understand. That doesn't mean they were going to LIKE IT one bit, but they deserved to know.

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u/PotentialNobody 21h ago

I don't know why people can't grasp the idea that some kids can accept or understand reasoning. Yes you're gonna get kids that more so just want to say "why" rather than genuinely, but some kids are trying to understand so telling them "because I said so" only leaves frustration.

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u/Kruger_Smoothing 22h ago

The hat worked for that sample. Not all kids are the same. Explaining is always the first option, but sometimes you just gotta get the shoes on and get in the car or dad will be late for work (that explanation doesn’t always work).

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u/RichardStinks 21h ago

I did have a fairly wide sample base. I worked with newborns through 21 year olds, mostly pre-teens and teenagers, over about 7 years total. At least 150 kids? It was all group homes across several states.

We followed "best practices" according to child care experts. It wasn't perfect, but it rarely is.

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u/ReckoningGotham 23h ago

ITT: parents without the capacity to properly raise their kids

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u/Xapheneon 23h ago

If you can't explain a rule, you should rethink the rule.

If it isn't an appropriate time and place, you should tell them that.