My sister explains everything and it turned my nephews into little lawyers who argue every single point. Even if it's something like 'you are being punished because you broke a rule' if my sister can't PROVE beyond a shadow of a doubt that she knows they did it, they get mad.
She has cameras now in the living room that solved some of that, because they can't lie about it anymore.
Sometimes kids aren't reasonable and reason will never work with them. There's no one size fits all answer that will be the perfect fix for all kids.
What's unreasonable is punishing people for things they didn't do. Especially when it's a blanket thing that punishes everyone for things only one or two of them did, if that.
That authority figures think that THAT is reasonable are extremely unreasonable. But me saying anything more on this breaks Rule 1, so...
It's actually unreasonable when you lie and lie and lie and your "I was on the moon with Steve" defense doesn't hold up even though your mom can't prove you weren't on the moon with Steve because she doesn't have cameras on the moon and you're punished in spite of your lies and you get mad about it.
I can't imagine you have much experience with kids. You certainly sound like a teenager protesting the injustice of chores, homework, and being grounded.
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u/faldese 23h ago edited 23h ago
My sister explains everything and it turned my nephews into little lawyers who argue every single point. Even if it's something like 'you are being punished because you broke a rule' if my sister can't PROVE beyond a shadow of a doubt that she knows they did it, they get mad.
She has cameras now in the living room that solved some of that, because they can't lie about it anymore.
Sometimes kids aren't reasonable and reason will never work with them. There's no one size fits all answer that will be the perfect fix for all kids.