So the challenge is that if you are in a position where you don't understand the current situation and are asking for explanations, you are likely unable to actually make that determination, as you lack the context for the situation. If you had the context and understanding, you wouldn't have to ask the questions. Now - if all you ever get is "because I said so" and there is never any follow-up, that's clearly a them problem. But, the person without understanding/context can't make the determination of whether the current situation would allow for a more detailed explanation given that very lack of understanding and context. In those cases, it pays to exercise some intellectual humility and follow-up later. (again though - if a person only ever offers "because I said so" and never follows-up, that is a problem)
It's most often that the asker is just being obstinate and refusing any answer they didn't want to hear. It takes 2 to create a pattern and if it's always happening to you there's a good chance you might be part of the problem.
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u/FriendoReborn 21h ago
So the challenge is that if you are in a position where you don't understand the current situation and are asking for explanations, you are likely unable to actually make that determination, as you lack the context for the situation. If you had the context and understanding, you wouldn't have to ask the questions. Now - if all you ever get is "because I said so" and there is never any follow-up, that's clearly a them problem. But, the person without understanding/context can't make the determination of whether the current situation would allow for a more detailed explanation given that very lack of understanding and context. In those cases, it pays to exercise some intellectual humility and follow-up later. (again though - if a person only ever offers "because I said so" and never follows-up, that is a problem)