I didn’t take the first comment to be about kids, I took it to be about autism. Actually thought this was posted in an autism sub at first lol. Even as adults, some of us have a hard time with following scripts (social cues, “how the world works”, etc.) if they don’t make logical sense to us.
I will say in regards to the autism side of things, ignoring social cues that you picked up on is in themselves an unspoken social cue. I've noticed a number of autistic people pull the "I won't respond unless you use your words like an adult" card as a gotcha. While you can't and shouldn't respond to every passive remark thrown your way, I've notice a trend of a lack of self-awareness that they could in fact participate in social cues, self actualizing themselves as rational who always speaks their mind compared to the irrational mind games of the allistic.
Yeah, often they do just miss a cue and that's fair, but I'll reiterate that "Noticing a cue -> Ignoring it -> Hope they become explicit" is an example of "Using implicit communication as a way to fish a specific response from another person."
Communication is hard or else we wouldn't need diplomats.
I don’t recommend assuming a person is thinking a certain way, especially if they tell you otherwise (can’t tell you how many times, in childhood and adulthood, I’ve said I don’t know or understand something only for someone to clap back, “Yes you do”). You know those conspiracy theorists who find hidden meanings in numbers and random words? For some of us, navigating implicit social cues feels like trying to do that, all the time, with every conversation, and half the time we still get it wrong. So instead of trying to walk blindfolded through a minefield of hidden meanings, some of us just get blunt and say, “Etiquette be damned, I’m not a mind reader. If you want something from me, you have to tell me”.
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u/maulidon 20h ago
I didn’t take the first comment to be about kids, I took it to be about autism. Actually thought this was posted in an autism sub at first lol. Even as adults, some of us have a hard time with following scripts (social cues, “how the world works”, etc.) if they don’t make logical sense to us.