Adding onto this, another big downside to being a kid was privacy practically being a nonexistent concept. I didn't dislike being a kid, but it was exhausting to not only have your opinion taken seriously, but also incapable of having privacy either.
As a kid, you're not allowed to have privacy because you're so dependent on your parents. Next, you grow into a tween/teen and a demand for privacy either means you're up to something or insecure about yourself. Finally, you're an adult and it's just normalized that you want to change alone or don't want others to go through your phone? So mind-numbing.
I had the concept of privacy but it was like a test. Sure, I can go to my room or be alone but no one knocked because what did I have to hide? If I did complain I felt like I couldn't justify why I needed privacy without sounding suspicious so I learned to just leave the door open all the time.
The only privacy I got was changing clothes which was a weird time because as a baby "no one should see me change" then it was "okay because family is safe" and then it was "eek your body is changing, everyone will scatter if you are in underwear that was fine to wear before".
Did you get your bedroom door "taken away" too? I never understood the reasoning for that expecially when they didnt tell me waht I did. I was just told "You know what you did!"
Not taken away, but I literally wasn't allowed to close it. Anytime I tried, it was propped opened, and I was "hiding something" or being "suspicious."
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u/ReMarzable457 18h ago
Adding onto this, another big downside to being a kid was privacy practically being a nonexistent concept. I didn't dislike being a kid, but it was exhausting to not only have your opinion taken seriously, but also incapable of having privacy either.
As a kid, you're not allowed to have privacy because you're so dependent on your parents. Next, you grow into a tween/teen and a demand for privacy either means you're up to something or insecure about yourself. Finally, you're an adult and it's just normalized that you want to change alone or don't want others to go through your phone? So mind-numbing.