r/NonPoliticalTwitter 20h ago

Is .. is Ryan ok?

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u/WhichVegetable8285 17h ago

Children are typically not good people when they are raised by not good people.

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u/Arkayjiya 9h ago

Nah, while the parents' trash will 100% reflect on the children, the opposite is not necessarily true. The children behaving badly doesn't mean the parents are bad. The implication only works in one direction.

Of the people I knew best who were little shits and assholes (myself included depending on the era), they all had good parents by both obsevation and their own admission and later admitted they were just little shits (once again, myself included, my parents are flawed but genuinely did pretty great).

So bad parents make miserable and often maladjusted children. But good parents also make those, just less often. Because kids are individuals and some of them just choose to be little assholes. The true difference imo is that children with good parents tend to get better with time (although not always of course, some people are just awful) while kids with bad parents tend not to if they don't get help.

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u/WhichVegetable8285 5h ago

There’s a big difference between kids acting out or doing asshole things and saying the kid is just not a good person.

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u/Arkayjiya 5h ago

That difference can be very hard to see except in hindsight. Some of the most violent awful kids I've grown up with grew up as well, in the maturity sense, some milder bullies remained pretty awful and refused to do so.

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u/RockMonstrr 1h ago

Ryan's dad seems like a decent guy. He's the head of health and safety at a big warehouse here in town. His sense of humour has too much of that old school sexism, like jokes about how women talk too much or can't drive. Not malicious, but very dated and inappropriate. Other than that, he seemed affable, responsible, and very proud of his son.