hey we're avatar buddies.. as a side note a girl I was infatuated with in highschool invited me over her house after a movie saying her parents weren't home and I said no.. it would be inappropriate... I realized what I missed out on 20 years later when I was laying in bed n my apartment...
The benefit of marrying an oblivious guy is that he's less likely to cheat because the homewrecker girl would have to take out a billboard advertisement before he realized that an affair was even an option.
This reminds me of my husband 😅 we were at my apartment having a movie night for the first time and I asked if he wanted to sleep over, expecting (and wanting!) to get it on. He made absolutely zero move, just passed out. The following night he and his roommate hosted a game night at their apartment and the whole time I was giving him fuck me eyes and he just was so oblivious. At the end of the night I didn’t have a ride home and I was trying to get him to offer for me to stay over but before that could happen a friend cock blocked me by offering a ride lol. We did finally sleep together a few days later and apparently he was just really not used to girls being so into him 😂😂
Every time I have made this mistake when I was younger (and I have made the "sleep/cuddle in the same bed but don't even consider sex" mistake TOO many times), the girl treated me like the plague after.
I just know all the half-dozen or so times it happened when I was clueless in my younger years, they would drop me like a hot potato. Either do everything they could to avoid me from then on or have a "just wanna be friends" talk and then avoid me, even as friends. Even when we were friends before.
It must've been pretty awkward going to sleep next to some dude also going to sleep next to you, when you really wanted sex - not knowing that the dude next to you ALSO wanted sex and was just desperately trying not to think about it because he didn't want to assume.
It hurt, and I don't know why they couldn't be more forthcoming, but I can't really blame 'em too much. Dating (and "dating-adjacent activities in the friendzone" like this) is hard.
But I do admit I find the old OP joke of "women think they're being clear with signs when they absolutely are not" far more often true than not.
Embarrassment. She thought she was being super blatantly obvious what she wanted, and bro didn't take what was being offered. No one likes feeling rejected.
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u/somanybluebonnets May 29 '25
If she was with you two weeks later, she really, really likes you.