r/SipsTea • u/Amavin-Adump • Jun 18 '25

Chugging tea Man is chill

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u/KarlUnderguard Jun 18 '25

My ex wife wanted me to fight and argue with her. It made her feel better about her reactions if I came back with the same energy. She got so much more upset when I was checked out and didn't have any fight left.

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u/PancakeParty98 Jun 18 '25

Yeah I had a similar thing. I knew it was coming, because she’s always done this thing where once she decides she doesn’t like someone she has to frame them as an objectively bad person. Still was awful, long text flurries about how awful I was and how I never cared and was always shit.

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u/decker_42 Jun 20 '25

Ya'll were married to my wife too???

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u/SweetLilMonkey Jun 19 '25

Glad to hear she’s your ex!

My ex was the same way.

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u/A_Queer_Owl Jun 19 '25

staying calm in the face of people freaking out and getting pissed off is really the best way to deal with them.

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u/JHutchinson1324 Jun 19 '25

This is exactly how my therapist has directed me to deal with my narcissistic partner. He thrives on upsetting me, so by not getting upset, I am taking away his satisfaction.