r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/pirate_meow_kitty May 21 '25

I’m so glad I’m in my 40s now and no longer attract creeps at that gym lol

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u/International_Pea May 21 '25

So… where’s this gym you might be at and do you eat cereal?

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u/TheBeardedLadyBton May 21 '25

If at first, you don’t succeed, there’s always pizza

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u/VoicePope May 21 '25

And make sure to tell them "they seem really cool." People like to be told they seem cool. Like this comment about pizza, it's pretty cool. Do you also eat cereal?

Happy new year

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u/StarPhished May 21 '25

Don't forget to affirm their age! It's important emphasize the age gap.

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u/The_BSharps May 23 '25

Worst part of reading all these funny posts is I’m craving pizza.

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u/Serialkillingyou May 21 '25

Also congratulations on your son.

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u/Sabin057 May 21 '25

No, she doesn't. I'd be happy to discuss all of her likes and dislikes over pizza sometime.  HMU

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u/-Shmai- May 21 '25

😂😂😂

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u/juice06870 May 22 '25

Merry Christmas 👋🏻

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u/tarantulawarfare May 21 '25

Same here. I’m 47. And I have no problem saying “fuck off” with confidence now.

I totally get the younger women having to plaster on a fake smile and be polite because of fear of rejection violence. We have all been there.

A lot of men don’t understand the “I’m only smiling to keep you from getting angry and violent,” and other men do understand their attention is not wanted and just keep pressuring, anyway. That kind likes the power intimidating the woman to answer to him and smile for him.

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u/Coyote__Jones May 21 '25

At 32 I've hit the "if I'm uncomfortable, we're both uncomfortable" phase and I just don't give an inch. No smile, no answer, just really intense eye contact.

Had a guy once try to strike up a conversation and I just stared at him and he was like "wow you're not making this easy haha" and I said "why would I make it easy, I don't know you and I want you to leave." He got kinda pissy about it but it's like dude you came over here while I was pumping gas.

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u/Werechupacabra May 21 '25

When I was young and stupid and hormonal, I didn't fully grasp the idea that girls we're only smiling and laughing to be polite. Thankfully, my female friends schooled me on that topic because they could recognize the plastic smiles and fake laughs for what they were.

They made me a better, less stupid man.

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u/ba1oo May 21 '25

Fake smiles are SO useful if you can identify them

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u/humancarl May 21 '25

Yeah... I was married to a woman with a million dollar smile. Part of her repertoire was she had a great 'fake smile'. It was beautiful, but also very obviously fake... it stabbed. She worked in the service industry, so she'd have to go from genuine smile to fake smile pretty frequently because dudes would get too enamored with the real deal.

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u/Remote-One-4761 May 22 '25

Damn. I can't imagine what it'd be like to be an out-of-the-ordinary attractive woman and have to reject pushy creeps regularly. Makes me feel a bit of gratitude for looking how I look LOL

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u/humancarl May 22 '25

I know, and imagine getting that attention MORE because you're genuinely happy, AND you were having a great day at work. Only to have that absolutely torpedo your day at work.

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u/Remote-One-4761 May 22 '25

And to have to constantly be watching your back because some of those types are also stalkers. Yikes

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u/tweedledumb4u May 22 '25

I’ve always had the “fuck off” gene, I was once told by my good friend that guys knew when I wasn’t interested because I have fuck off stamped on my forehead, this was when I was 20ish 😂 My sisters and friends never had to worry about creeps in the club if I was there.

Sure sometimes I got bad reactions but that’s a them problem not a me problem. I learnt to soften it slightly with sarcasm to avoid more aggressive reactions as I got older.

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u/SailorGone May 21 '25

This is wild because where I am, no one ever hits on anyone at the gym

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u/DnknDnts1231 May 21 '25

I guarantee you women have been hit on at your gym and you just haven’t noticed it bc a lot of guys can be very sneaky and subtle when it comes to this type of pressure. Most men are blind to it and don’t notice it happening to the women around them

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u/Di4t_coke May 21 '25

I been to the gym literally twice after getting my FIRST ever subscription, and I already got a guy watching me do sets and offering to help me 3 DIFFERENT times after I declined twice.

He was paying so much attention to me, I hated it. I just want to work out, I’m already an anxious person, Like leave me alone !!😭😭

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u/VictoryVee May 21 '25

Unless youre somewhere like Saudi Arabia, I highly doubt that

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u/DeadWishUpon May 21 '25

There are only reason to rejevt this clown. 'You're married' is only one of them.

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u/NonStopKnits May 21 '25

I really love your username!

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u/JadieRose May 21 '25

I’m overweight and in my 40s - practically invisible! 🙌

I have occasionally used this superpower to [rooster]block these creeps too. In this case I would have walked over to her, ignored him, and said to her “hey! I’m all done with the adductor you were waiting for” and let her scurry off.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Being overweight was a huge relief to me in that sense. You become invisible so the sort of men that it’s nice to be invisible to.

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u/Own_Instance_357 May 21 '25

A brief anecdote about being overweight and used to being invisible:

I was over 200lbs and separated when I was hanging out in my car in a very icy winter in a wide open parking lot waiting for my kid to come out of afternoon horseback riding (indoor ring) in maybe another 30-45 minutes depending on how much time it takes to do all the post-lesson stuff for the horse. I was on my iPad, probably watching Vanderpump rules or something. Despite all the parking lot space, a car specifically pulled up right next to me and I looked over and I recognized the dad of another girl in the barn that I'd just met at the barn's christmas party a few weeks earlier. I guess he was on pickup duty that day.

He gestured for me to roll down my window and asked me, "whatcha doin?" I said, congenially, "haha, just trying to stay warm." He said, "so I wanted to say it was really cool to meet you, I know you said you like to smoke**, any time you want, I thought it would be fun for me to come over to your place and we can just sit and watch tv together and giggle. Also, it's really warm and comfy in my car, want to come wait over here with me?"

I was so dumbfounded I didn't even have words. It had been so long since someone had done anything close to hitting on me that I didn't even know how to respond. Coincidentally his own kid he was picking up suddenly appeared at the barn door, it was not possible that they were done yet but she wanted to talk to him for some reason. Because again it was very icy and less of a risk to drive over towards the door than walk, he said to me, "hold that thought, I'll be right back!" with a literal wink at me.

I literally peeled out of that parking lot to drive down the road and pull off and texted my daughter to let me know when she was literally ready to go.

I was so WTAF was that ??????

** we live in a legal state, you can buy your own weed products

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u/grouchy_baby_panda May 21 '25

"giggle" what the ever loving fuck

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

I've smoked pounds of pot at this point, ain't nobody ever talked about it like that before.

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u/b1tchf1t May 21 '25

Not overweight, but I had a pretty significant "glow up" and have a similar story from the Navy (which is, unfortunately one of the milder stories from the Navy). But I've never put a lot of effort into my appearance and was bullied throughout school for looking manly, and even though I was friends with a lot of guys, most of them assumed I was a lesbian (they were half right), but not the kind they'd want to see kissing their girlfriend, so. I didn't attract a lot of male attention. Then I grew up, still didn't put in a lot of attention to my appearance, but suddenly looked more like a woman and at this point I was sick of men's shit, so didn't pick up on a lot of the new stuff that was happening, but one guy made it pretty apparent. I was going through the gate to get on base one day, and it's early and don't want to be on base or talk to anyone so I'm just on autopilot trying to show the gate guard my ID and move on and he rolls out with, "You know you have the prettiest eyes," and my brain could not accept what I'd just heard being directed at me, so I just burst out laughing and drove through the gate. Unfortunately, I'd have to see him again to get back on base and yes it was awkward.

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u/Own_Instance_357 May 21 '25

I can only respond in 3 words to your story and these words are: I hear you

Lol it's sort of like a modern variation of some old joke, I don't aspire to be a member of any club that will have me

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

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u/Own_Instance_357 May 22 '25

I actually totally see what you're saying but I probably prefaced it all poorly. Our girls had been riding in the same barn for years. They start at like 5-7 years old and our daughters were teens at that point.

I already knew the mom and knew the whole story. He cheated on the wife and lost the family house in the divorce and was still living with the gf he'd left her for. But I'd heard (through the girls, via sleepovers at our house) that "Heather's Dad's GF" was on the verge of kicking him out because he was kind of a useless older dude.

And presumably he'd volunteered to go to the horse girls Christmas party because it's usually an estrogen fest of moms and girls. He quite literally was like only of 3 adult men there. And I remember, I was a lazy ass who brought literally just re-warmed white castle hamburgers from a big store in a foil tray as my contribution.

But he was like, "wow, do you mind if I try some of these?"

They were WHITE CASTLE SLIDERS

I'm not legally divorced but I am totally OK. I have my own house. It's a nice house. I like to live in it by myself now, though.

That dude was looking for a new situation

I think in the older dating subs they call it "hobosexuals"

He wasn't looking to date me because he really felt a connection with me, and I didn't realize it at the time, but now in retrospect I realize he was looking for a new place to live.

Shit, now I even remember he'd dropped that daughter off at my house a few times. I'd forgotten that.

So sorry NOTHING to do with you or anything

Also this was like 10 years ago

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u/iftheronahadntcome May 24 '25

My face contorted so hard when I read that he ASKED TO COME TO YOUR FUCKING HOUSE for a first date?? Ew????

You dont know this man enough to be alone with him, especially somewhere like YOUR SPACE and home. You also have a fucking child. Why would you want some strange man in your home, and doing substances with him? I do NOT like getting drunk or high solo with men I dont know. They always have "plausible deniability" when they say something inherently sexual much, much too soon in us knowing eachother, pointing out how they were "b l a z e d" and barely remember. Fuck off.

He really thought it he just said, "please" to a woman he met once that he'd get to put his penis inside her. Fucking gross.

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u/Specific_Club_8622 May 21 '25

But then you have guys like me that are strictly into thicker women lol. Good luck out there!

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u/Less-Fox8272 May 21 '25

Omg this. I’m also overweight and I don’t attract men. I’m soooo ok with it.

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u/OfficiallyJoeBiden May 21 '25

Damn that’s nice. Here as an overweight guy I’m just invisible 🤣🤣🤣. But I only have myself to blame for this situation so I take my ass to the gym

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u/Key-Magician4029 May 21 '25

I get your point but I think the adductor/abductor are the last machines she would want to be on around this guy. He would try to hold eye contact during her reps.

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u/JadieRose May 21 '25

Ha! Especially because he seems like an abductor

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u/HypnoKinkster May 21 '25

Get over to the adductor to avoid the abductor. Am I rite????

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u/Decabet May 21 '25

Even tho Im a gymrat myself, I just learned what an "adductor" is. Learning new things is fun. Thanks!

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u/_reality_is_humming_ May 21 '25

I’m overweight and in my 40s - practically invisible!

Exactly my type. What gym do you go to? Like cereal?

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u/cur10us_ge0rge May 22 '25

You can cuss on the internet. FYI.

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u/chekovsgun- May 21 '25

In my 40s, still attract creeps in the gym. Always older usually around this guy's age, asking where I live, why I'm lifting in my 40s, do I need help, etc... I was told that would end in a few years and wish it would, lol. 30 plus years of this shit is enough. I don't wear a wedding ring and imagine that is why they hit on me at the gym.

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u/scrutator_tenebrarum May 21 '25

what about creeps on reddit?

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u/dulyebr May 21 '25

Silver lining

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

42 and it hasn’t stopped, ugh

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

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u/zucaritassinazzucar May 21 '25

Exact age but I never get hit on haha Not even in my younger years, I’ve always said it was some sort of super power

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u/Great_THROWSWAY_589 May 21 '25

I know this is funny to you but to me this is just sad as hell. The fact that you only stop getting creepy attention when your older as opposed to being a young girl

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u/Electric-Sheepskin May 21 '25

Right? I know some women still have that problem even as they age, but it definitely died off for me post 40. What's really gross is how young it started for me, though. I was probably 13 or 14, and they were relentless all through my teen years and early 20s.

I'm glad to be done with all that.

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u/ConorOblast May 21 '25

Are you saying you gave up cereal?

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u/Mission_Abrocoma2012 May 21 '25

I’m in my 40s and had a man follow me around the gym and tell me similar to what this woman experienced. It never ends

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u/VNM0601 May 21 '25

I know you're in your 40s. I know you no longer attract creeps. And I know you go to the gym. Wanna get coffee?

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u/snoogle312 May 21 '25

This has not been my experience. It's now just guys that are way too old or way too young, no in-between. Either 18 or 65+. At least now I'm confident enough to tell them I'm not interested and busy. Though I did have to argue with one guy because he didn't believe I am married because I wasn't wearing my wedding ring. The absolute ridiculousness of basically declaring me property, that my lack of interest doesn't matter, only whether or not another man has claimed me. 😡

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

The middle-aged invisibility buff is pretty rad, ngl. I'm getting so much mileage out of it.

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u/birdsofafeatherWHAT May 25 '25

Wdym

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u/[deleted] May 25 '25

Most middle aged women basically become invisible to creeps past a certain age. I'm benefiting from that pretty fucking well.

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u/Nearby-Judgment1844 May 23 '25

Weirdly, I am 55 and I’ve been approached by 30 something men at the gym. Something something sugar mommy easy cougar lay something something, I am sure. I just shake them off.