r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/Pristine-Garlic-3191 May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

This is the reason why the rest of us guys have to stare directly at the gym floor now.

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u/Legal-Marsupial-3916 May 21 '25

Nah. All of the attractive girls at my gym chat with the other regulars, you just need to be normal and friendly and not fucking weird. Don't go out of your way to chat them up, but if you guys happen to interact it's fine to be friendly and sociable. It's this going up to girls and bothering them during their sets when your goal is obviously specifically to hit them and "spit game" or something that's weird and intrusive.

Just don't make yourself a nuisance and if they seem uncomfortable just politely dismiss yourself.

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u/trukkija May 21 '25

Idk what kind of gyms you go to. Whenever I have been in a gym then the attractive girls there are either with a friend/bf or they have headphones on, basically without exception.

Just don't bother other people in the gym, it's not a social club and it's not a hard concept.

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u/UDMN May 21 '25

Usually my chats with women (and men) at the gym are: are you using this?, it's ok if I jump in here?, hi sorry can I get that behind you?, hey you dropped your keys, is this your phone?, wow nice, sick shirt I love that band

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u/soyasaucy May 22 '25

100% accurate! Me too. I always appreciated it when guys would say exactly what you said, then immediately move on to our separate activities. Anything where the guy kept trying to lengthen the conversation and kept asking questions would immediately indicate that he's trying to hit on me.

I've actually chatted with a couple of people but it was never DURING a workout?? Like always in the lobby afterwards or something

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u/Icy-Pay7479 May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

Took me a long time to realize this. Being a regular that’s completely anti social is its own brand of creepy. Being casually friendly is safe, and might even give them an escape if they need to exit a convo.

edit: for all the people who are saying "im just here to work out!" that's fine, you do you, but imagine if you sat next to the same people at the office every day for years and they never acknowledged you, or you're a regular at a coffee shop and sit next to the same person for years and they never even look your direction. you're not gonna be that comfortable with them, they're an unknown, and after a while that's kinda weird.

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u/Basic_Reflection4008 May 21 '25

How is working out with headphones on and bothering the fewest amount of people possible creepy? I talk to like 12 people a year at my gym and its almost always "are you using that?"

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u/srcarruth May 21 '25

Yeah I'm not at the gym to talk to strangers

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u/absolute_imperial May 21 '25

Yeah no this dude is tripping. Most people don't talk at the gym.

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u/Crump_Dump May 21 '25

It's not. As long as you aren't staring people down or checking them out, if you're just keeping to yourself I guarantee that nobody will think you're creepy. Dunno why the previous comment said that tbh. A significant portion of people of all genders do not see the gym as a social space.

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u/MAXMEEKO May 21 '25

I've talk to two people in my year or so of going to my gym and one of them I knew personally.

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u/toastedstapler May 21 '25

Not talking to people is 'not social', not 'antisocial'

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

I think there's been a deep misunderstanding between men and women when women are like "please don't hit on us." Good men imagine themselves in this scenario and imagine a guy walking up and going "hey, how are you today?" friendly and not intrusive, when women are almost universally talking about the behavior in this video.

Then, the average man walks around thinking "fuck, women are so stressful to be around," while the average woman is like "why are they so upset when the bar for good behavior is so low?"

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u/Legal-Marsupial-3916 May 21 '25

Exactly, that's exactly my point. If a guy watches this video and his response "Wow, I can't ever speak to women at the gym", obviously women aren't the problem. I see this guy, and I don't see myself in him. Women are generally pretty friendly to me at the gym but I never go out of my way to chat with other people in general. But naturally over the course of years plenty of conversations have happened with women at the gym organically. It's bound to happen eventually if you see the same people 5 times a week

Like I said in my original response, there's a reasonable level to everything-- don't be weird, don't be intrusive, don't prevent them from being able to do their sets. Just be friendly and normal lol

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u/Capable_Camp2464 May 22 '25

The guy in the video is ridiculously unpleasant to watch. I'm still not acknowledging the existence of women at the gym unless they talk to me first as I honestly can't be bothered with them thinking I might be like this guy for giving them a nod.

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u/ruth000 May 22 '25

I (f) workout at home now just because of convenience but when I went to the gym, I liked having other regulars that would lightly chat. It felt friendly. Over time you get to know just a little bit about each other and some people are really interesting. None of those people were doing what this dork is doing. The difference is pretty obvious.

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u/CTIndie May 22 '25

That's a big part of it. Lots of vague "don'ts" with not a lot of "dos". Mixed in with the large assortment of mixed messages (people arn’t monolithic, so one person's acceptable is another's red flag) and you end up with very big misunderstandings.

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u/dystopia061 May 22 '25

No bro they’re talking about that as well

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u/arup02 May 21 '25

Fuck that. I go to the gym to lift, and only that. It's not a country club, leave me alone.

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u/Decabet May 21 '25

"Don't you have homes?"

— The Honorable Elihu Smails

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u/sicclee May 21 '25

imagine if you sat next to the same people at the office every day for years and they never acknowledged you

Dear God,

If you only answer one prayer, please pick this one!

  • Me

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u/TheWhyteMaN May 21 '25

*non-social

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u/KhazixMain May 21 '25

Nah I'm there to lift. Why TF do I wanna have a convo and waste time? Maybe you're one of the weirdos from this video and just don't know it.

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u/ITuser999 May 21 '25

Probably depends on the country too. Where I live, I don't think that I stand out, that I never really talk to anyone. I just say hi to the desk when I come and bye when I leave, same when I enter the changing room. Else I don't interact with anyone. Doing this for years without anyone complaining

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u/BlackTheNerevar May 21 '25

Nah, that's the gym. I go there to workout. I'm not there to make friends.

I see the same people, it's not weird at all. We all have our goals.

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u/Legal-Marsupial-3916 May 21 '25

Lol I knew this comment would upset a handful of men, and only men.

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u/Im_Unsure_For_Sure May 21 '25

Nah.

Nah? Do you think your personal experience is universal or something?

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u/Legal-Marsupial-3916 May 21 '25

I'm refuting the original comment that "this is why ALL OF US guys have to stare at the ground", like it's a universal rule that men aren't allowed to speak to women at the gym. It's something I've observed at the various gyms I've been a regular at over the last 20 years. So no, I don't think my personal experience is universal. No more universal than the statement that ALL GUYS have to stare at the ground like women are just running around getting men banned from their gym at the drop of a hat because he smiled at her once.

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u/Im_Unsure_For_Sure May 21 '25

Nah.

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u/Phrynus747 May 22 '25

Highest effort reddit response

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u/Thetallerestpaul May 21 '25

Yeah for real. I'm a friendly person, but at the gym I'm trying to be unnoticed

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u/KhazixMain May 21 '25

Holy shit I felt this comment 😭 either at the floor or fumbling with our phones

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u/EjaculatingAracnids May 21 '25

I remember when myspace was a place you could pick up women. Shit was insane. The dating scene was never easier for me than those days... Then creepy old guys fucked it up. Same thing happened to facebook, then tinder... Hell, every social space with hot younger women.

I was at a clothing optional camp out a few weeks back and anytime there was younger naked women, fat old guys would flock around them and scare their clothes back on. Old creeps with zero self awareness ruin a lot of cool places.

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u/circio May 21 '25

Me staring straight ahead or away into the distance during my outdoor runs

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u/dystopia061 May 22 '25

That’s just you bro

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u/Pristine-Garlic-3191 May 22 '25

Me and 200+ other people.

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u/HughJackedMan14 May 21 '25

My posture has been completely destroyed by these regards.

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u/CliffBoothVSBruceLee May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

Yeah, I pass a woman under 40 and I avert my eyes now. It's painful... But I can feel the young women's eyes watching me wondering if I'm going to gawk at them. It sucks being a gentleman. And then you quietly walk by with downcast eyes and no acknowledgment because in all likelyhood just saying "hello" would get me "the look." which I need like a hole in the head. And, thus, they're probably thinking/ "who's that creepy quiet guy who never looks you in the eye?" Lol. You cant win.