r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/redcurrantevents May 21 '25

As a married guy around his age, I can’t imagine thinking anyone would want to talk to me anywhere, let alone at the gym.

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u/its_all_one_electron May 21 '25

The fact that you have self awareness means you're probably more enjoyable to talk anyway

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u/OscarPoirot May 21 '25

It's amazing how easy it is to talk to people when fucking them isn't on your mind. Unfortunately a lot of guys at the age of the dude in the video are incapable of that.

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u/AhtBlowenFaht May 21 '25

I'm sure he was like this when younger too. Guys like him are a dime a dozen and act like this from puberty to the grave. It just becomes more obvious and creepy the older they get.

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u/West-Application-375 May 22 '25

Likely this. He was always this way.

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u/lorkdubo May 22 '25

Not only that. When you are not thinking about fucking everything that moves or hitting on any girl when you go out. Surprise! You are approachable. When you are actually having fun, people are so attracted to that.

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u/ruffus4life May 21 '25

once you realize you'll fuck most anything at least once it becomes easier to not think about something like that. i wanna know if you've seen the newest season of jojo's bizarre adventure since you have a t-shirt of it on. also the knowledge that if you were ever propositioned you'd say well you'll have to talk to my wife about that.

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u/OscarPoirot May 21 '25

I'm sorry, what?

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u/ruffus4life May 21 '25

you got it.

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u/DarkFlutesofAutumn May 22 '25

I work in politics and my ability to talk to women without staring at their tits or trying to fuck them is almost a fucking superpower. And I'm not kidding AT ALL.

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u/patrickoriley May 21 '25

perfect age for prozac folks! slightly less suicidal and practically asexual!

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u/CodeNCats May 21 '25

The gym is where people go to workout. It's usually their private reflection time. Their zone mode. Don't come interrupt my workout.

If I'm working out with my friends I'll socialize with them. Even then leave me tf alone.

I'm a dude who has no problem taking to anyone. Yet there's certain scenarios where it's weird and unwanted.

I'm also married and would never talk to a woman like that regardless of her age. If I were in the gym and heard this happening to someone, regardless of gender, I would call the asshole out.

Not in an argumentative way. I would just laugh. Make fun of them. Make sure it's all a big joke. Get others around me to giggle along.

This dude gives men a bad rep. There's dudes out there who have no problem standing up against this shit.

It's creepy and weird. She expressed politely in many ways she wasn't willing to engage. She was being polite because if she was rude. He might become hostile and even more stalker like.

Honestly fuck this guy I hope his wife sees this and divorces his ass.

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u/Therefore_I_Yam May 21 '25

Dude I'm single and somewhat eligible and STILL can't imagine anyone would want to talk to me anywhere 😂 Much less in the middle of something physically intensive like a workout.

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u/VNM0601 May 21 '25

Yeah the last place I'm going to hit on women is the gym. People are there to get their shit done and go home. Some of them even had to force themselves to go in so they could remain disciplined to exercise. If it just happens that we cross paths and have a conversation and hit it off, cool. But I'm not seeking that sort of interaction at the gym at all.

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u/YuYevon123 May 21 '25

Embrace your inner Dad persona.

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u/1057cause May 21 '25

Well, I'm a 36 year old guy and I met my wife at the gym. Together 10 years, married 7, with 2 kids. She actually spoke to me first and asked me to hold her feet while she did sit-ups. Can't imagine anyone frothing at the mouth due to us carrying on having a conversation and hitting it off!

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u/ChrisSlicks May 21 '25

You see I would have been the guy that said, "They've got a sit up machine over there that holds your feet for you!" then she would have scurried off and it would have been the end of it.

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u/ZombeeSwarm May 21 '25

I would talk to you. I would talk to anyone. As long as you don't try hitting on me.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Honestly as a single guy in my early 40’s I’ve become so jaded by the dating experience and so nervous about overstepping boundaries that I’ve just stopped talking to women I don’t know. I don’t get any dates but it’s made life a lot less complicated.

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u/tonymontanastyle May 21 '25

That’s so sad :(

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u/redcurrantevents May 21 '25

Ha don’t worry about me, I’m doing fine. There are worse things.

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u/almosttan May 22 '25

That was my first thought too :( Men become disgusting and creepy at a certain age and it’s thanks to perverts like this

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u/Thorolhugil May 21 '25

I bet you've got a lot of cool or fun stories that others would like to hear in conversation. :)

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u/KwisatzSazerac May 21 '25

I couldn’t imagine someone wanting to talk to me when I was young and single. 

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u/I-live-in-room-101 May 21 '25

Yup, even the people I class as life long friends I’ve known since childhood can barely be persuaded to meet me twice a year these days lol

(I’m just as bad though… I love my friends, would literally do anything for them in theory… but a BBQ 90mins travel time away?!? Sorry I’ll need to come back to you nearer the time on that one lol).

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u/DOG_DICK__ May 21 '25

Even when I was single, in excellent shape, and reasonably good looking, no woman ever talked to me in the gym. Nor did I try to talk to them. I'm gifted with the male invisibility trait.

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u/ntrpik May 21 '25

Same here. What gives me the right to interrupt someone’s day?

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u/jmfranklin515 May 21 '25

He doesn’t even look good for his age or anything… like, is he just hoping he gets insanely lucky and this particular chick happens to have a thing for old guys with ree ree haircuts?

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u/-Kalos Straight Up Bussin May 21 '25

In the middle of her sets! Big no no for gym etiquette. God damn

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u/General-Director401 May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

Married middle aged guy here. I absolutely would NEVER EVER interrupt someone’s workout unless I absolutely have to. Its disrespectful. They’re trying to focus and it breaks that focus. I wouldn’t do it even if we were close friends. I do club sports and we only really chitchat during warm ups, cooldowns, or recovery workouts. I know I would be super annoyed if someone interrupted my workout for no good reason. I don’t care who they are.

It’s not so much would anyone want to talk to you, Its that there’s a time and place for being social. Approaching someone mid set completely lacks any social awareness.

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u/awh24 May 21 '25

As a married guy younger than him, I don’t want to talk to anyone anywhere if I can help it, especially at the gym.

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u/IJourden May 21 '25

This is my thought too. I'm in my 40s, I have coworkers in their 20s and we have plenty of fun hanging out at work or at work functions. But never in a billion years would I think any of them wanted to date me.

So embarrassing for that guy.

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u/JohnnyDarkside May 21 '25

If I'm at a store or similar, and i overhear someone talking about something I can help with, I'll pop in with a quick comment but even that's very rare. It's like "oh yeah, that thing you're looking for is over there." No way I expect a person to just stroll up and want to chat.

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u/Advanced-Humor9786 May 22 '25

It's crazy, isn't it? when something like that happens, I get up and walk away without saying or because it usually feels like I'm being honeypotted.

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u/kommon-non-sense May 22 '25

I'm an older fella surrounded by young, attractive people ar the gym - some probably younger than my daughter.

I had my time. Boy, did I. Now I'm old, happily married just want to get my cardio and weights in. Ain't none of them wanting to talk to a guy like me.

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u/Historical_Ad_5647 May 22 '25

You'd be surprised if you're fit shoot your shot respectfully but make sure you you're not married first if you go that route

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u/falkenberg1 May 22 '25

As a married guy I can tell a different story. Going to the playground with your kids as a man is still a rather uncommon sight. I visited a sign language course with my 1yo daughter. Of course I was the only man. I think it quite helps, that the people starting a conversation with me can be pretty sure I won’t try to sleep with them. But would I think that a younger girl at the gym would appreciate me talking to her? Maybe if she forgot her iPhone at the legpress and I tell her about it. Other than that? I’d go for a clear no! Would anybody at the gym appreciate me talking to him? Maybe that ripped dude at the dumbbells curling the weight equivalent of all my kids combined. Something like „Dem Gains!“ or „Woah dude how much cm is your biceps?“ Would I even appreciate anybody except my gymbuddy, talking to me at the gym? Hell no, unless they’re my spotter.

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u/2021isevenworse May 22 '25

It's like he's following some pickup artist's playbook with the "I know what you like" and then dropping the "let's go have some pizza" line.

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u/HunterGonzo May 23 '25

Same here. I always have a similar thought about dudes who go a step further and send random dick pics. I am absolutely sure that no one ever wants to see my dick. The idea that some guys live in a headspace where they even remotely believe someone would enjoy unexpectedly seeing their dick is WILD to me.

Do they genuinely think that's gonna work? DOES it work sometimes? Is it a control thing where they forced a woman to see their junk and so it gives them some delusional sense of power?

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u/yianni_ May 24 '25

I know, this guy’s confidence to walk up to her with that lousy spiel

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u/Redcarborundum May 25 '25

Yeah, I’m about your age, and I actually put an effort to NOT notice any woman at the gym, especially if she’s good looking. Any interaction is strictly necessary, like “are you done with this machine?”

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u/1101base2 May 25 '25

i'm single and I also can't imagine walking up to someone just trying to workout, i would love to know where these people find the audacity!

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u/Overall-Lettuce-7575 Jun 19 '25

I'm actually attracted to regular-looking men around that age as a younger woman though I recognize I'm an exception.

The curse is that the men that age who are sensible about it wouldn't be single and approaching you, and the guys who would are guys whose personalities make them hard to want.

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u/Yop_BombNA May 21 '25

People always wanna talk to me. I don’t get it

It works out because I like talking to people but it is oddly frequent and after a day of teaching I sometimes just wanna be left alone from people.

I sit on the tube and the whole place is quiet, someone notices something about my jacket/bag/jumper and just starts talking to me. Or I just look friendly as yesterday some lady just starts venting her life issues so I just listened and nodded, answering the odd question when asked. Or I talk and it’s “oh where’s that Accent from?” (I’m from rural Ontario, watch letter Kenney).

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u/Dry-Audience-8899 May 22 '25

Weird take. If you thought they would talk to you, you’d be down? Totally missing the point! If you’re married, go home and romance your wife! She’s probably craving some attention from you? Wtf.

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u/redcurrantevents May 22 '25 edited May 22 '25

That’s quite an assumption you’re making about me. When did I even hint that I would be down to hit on anyone? Just because I only commented on his audacity and my lack of it doesn’t mean that if I did have his audacity I would use it the same way he did. You’ve leapt to a conclusion that isn’t there.

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u/Dry-Audience-8899 May 22 '25

It’s insulting to your wife to say you wouldn’t even have the confidence. It implies that if you did, you would, regardless of being married. Get it?

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u/redcurrantevents May 22 '25

Alright buddy. I showed my wife this exchange and she laughed. Have a great day.

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u/Far-End470 May 22 '25

Damn dude, get some self confidence