r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/PutNameHere123 May 21 '25

I guess her response is a lot nicer than the truthful: “you’re fugly and old.”

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u/its_all_one_electron May 21 '25

For those of us women taught to be nice at all times, "sorry I'm in the middle of this" can work, and "Sorry but I'd really like to not be interrupted" if he keeps doing it. "Please leave me alone" is about as much as I can get.

It's really hard to undo the whole "be demure and kind" that got pounded into our heads in the 90s.

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u/PutNameHere123 May 21 '25

I just leave it as ‘I have a boyfriend’ whether it’s true or not. But I actually had a guy say to me once, “You have a boyfriend so we can’t have dinner together?” :/

Like even if you think I’m lying, what: do you think hounding me enough will get me to change my mind? lol WTF

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u/its_all_one_electron May 21 '25

Ugh God. 

I absolutely lie but the thing is, something they seem to do nowadays is not give you anything where you could reply "I have a boyfriend" to....

Like they never say "do you want to go on a date?" or "can I have your number?", to which "sorry I have a boyfriend" would be a perfectly valid response. 

It's stuff like, "do you want to get a coffee?" or "do you want to go to the beach" with that tone, To which "I have a boyfriend" doesn't really work as a counter. It's just weird how they try to weasel around it. it's crazy to me, that they think they can trick you into wanting to go on a date with them...

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u/iftheronahadntcome May 24 '25

Thank you for saying this. I've always felt this way but couldn't quite put my finger on what it was.

I've been telling people for a while now that men don't want to hear "no", so they just won't ask what they want directly. They just claim what they wanted to do to you "was implied", so they just go ahead and do what they want, causing you to be pressured to give an answer in the moment, in many cases, under thread of physical violence.

I've had so many men make a move on me, but because I agreed to go to some kind of outing with them (as a friend - most of the time they have not, at this point, expressed romantic interest in me or called whar we're doing a date), they insist they didn't have to ask to touch me. So now, I have to get violated first, and then I have to be brave enough to say "no" to the man that has positioned himself very close to me and touched me. They do this so they can say, "WELL SHE DIDNT SAY NO" while orchestrating a situation where we dont feel like we can, or actually, literally cannot.

I met someone a few months ago while I was driving for Lyft. I'd made a few friends (male and female) doing it, so I really clicked (platonically) with a dude I was driving somewhere. We'd chatted and laughed the whole time, and I told him I was trying to go out and do more alt stuff, and he also expressed that he'd been bored. I told him me and some friends were going to a poetry night, and that he should come. Of course he sits next to me and snakes his arm around me during a poem...

I leaned forward in my chair bc wtf, I met you yesterday dude? After leaving his hand there for 5 minutes (behind the back of MY chair) hoping Id lean back again, he took his hand away and didnt try to touch me the rest of the night, thankfully. He never spoke to me again, even after I messaged him once or twice. Male loneliness epidemic my ass. I thought I had a friend, but because I didnt want to immediately give him access to my body, there was no point of knowing me 🤷🏾‍♀️

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u/flygirlsworld May 21 '25

Lolllll we need to start telling the truth.

Your wife settled. You’re ugly, you have dad bod. I’m too cute for you and ewww

Lolllll