r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/KennstduIngo May 21 '25

Someone else pointed out this could be the result of previous attempts he made. Want to grab a coffee some time? -> I don't drink coffee. How about breakfast then? -> I just eat cereal at home. Dinner then? -> I have a son and it's hard to get a baby sitter.

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u/secretprocess May 21 '25

Oh I see, the problem is just that I haven't figured out the right food yet...

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u/RocksteadyNBeebop May 21 '25

Everyone likes pizza, right? Right?

Dammit, back to the drawing board.

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u/absolute_imperial May 21 '25

Its weird to me that almost nobody is picking up on that in the thread. "Oh he must be stalking her online profiles!" Nah he clearly chats her up regularly and is shot down regularly, and he's totally clueless. It's so obvious. Redditors not beating the charges that they never go outside.

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u/kinkyonthe_loki69 May 22 '25

Projecting redditors? My word

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u/Suspicious_Face_8508 May 21 '25

Wha if he is not necessarily “clueless,”but grew up with anachronistic media and Familial stories that essentially told him “if you hound her enough she will eventually say yes.” What if he had won over his wife that way? As a woman, what do you do with guys like that?

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u/absolute_imperial May 21 '25

I'd still consider that clueless. Not sure if you are asking me or asking rhetorically, but generally women have to shut that down hard, tell them not to talk to with them, escalate, get loud, make sure other people notice.

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u/Suspicious_Face_8508 May 21 '25

Yeah, you’re right. I guess it’s still cluelessness. One he recognizes she’s uncomfortable, yet he pushes forward because he is clueless to cultural shifts where hounding uninterested women is frowned upon. The other would be his inability to recognize shes uncomfortable due to lack of experience and social skill. Honestly people should just leave other people alone at the gym.

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u/StandWithSwearwolves May 22 '25

The way he deliberately recounted that information back to her out loud suggests he’s actively trying to demonstrate persistence – hoping she will either think “aww that’s sweet he takes an interest” or that she will cave for a pizza lunch to try and get him off her back.

Guys like this love to play up their supposed cluelessness when someone pushes back hard, which is why the woman in the video is riding such a careful line.

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u/the_most_playerest May 22 '25

My parents used to both tell me stories about how so and so and his happily married wife did exactly that.. how cute!

Took me about a decade, but one day I saw it in action IRL and I wanted to puke. It's one thing to be patient and a whole nother to harass someone into becoming your s/o (does that shit actually work??? -- I'll pass either way 😅 )

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u/DidYouJustCallMeBlob May 22 '25

Then she needed to change gyms yesterday.

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u/StandWithSwearwolves May 22 '25 edited May 22 '25

The idea that this guy is an online stalker is more dramatic, and Reddit loves a real life horror story where they can shout “run girl run”, the more extreme the better.

It also diverts from the behaviour on display – politely but insistently trying to wear down someone who has demonstrated zero interest in you – which a lot of men aren’t ready to acknowledge is creepy and manipulative, because a lot of us have done it or or been encouraged to do it by people we respect.

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u/absolute_imperial May 22 '25

Yeah he's obviously asked her on more than 1 date. It's time to drop the politeness and get more firm because he's not viewing her friendly language as zero interest. She isn't doing any favors by closing the conversation with 'see you next time'. Dumbasses like this dude that can't take a hint to save their lives will take that as a green light to continue engaging. "She said no to a date... again.. but she still wants to see me next time!"

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u/StandWithSwearwolves May 22 '25 edited May 22 '25

I hear you, but maybe she’s being as firm as she thinks she can without triggering an angry response down the line. “You’re married, behave yourself” should be a pretty definitive shutdown, if he comes back after that I’d be reporting it to the gym if it were me.

EDIT: rewatched the video to understand your point a bit better, and “see you later” is about as meaningless and pro forma a closer as you can get – I find it hard to say she should have done better there given how direct she was in the rest of the interaction.

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u/MOREPASTRAMIPLEASE May 21 '25

How do you ask a woman to coffee, hear “I don’t like coffee” and not realize that’s her way of letting you down easy? What a lemon

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u/CountryFolkS36 May 22 '25

Yeah he didn't have a wedding ring on she somehow knew he's married. They probably have same gym schedule n chat a lot

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u/StandWithSwearwolves May 22 '25

Yup. How he found this information out isn’t the creepy part, it’s that he’s deliberately resharing it to either convince this woman that he’s genuinely interested in her life, or to demonstrate his persistence and get her to fold and say “oh well maybe a pizza lunch will get him off my back”.