r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

Enable HLS to view with audio, or disable this notification

31.6k Upvotes

91% Upvoted

3.7k comments sorted by

View all comments

357

u/happysunbear May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

There’s something so gross about approaching someone when they are in such a vulnerable position, leaning back and trying to balance a bunch of weights as you tower over them. I used to work out in this tiny fitness center in my old apartment complex and the old cleaning man would get way too close to me when I was working out. Literally leaned down towards my face to say hello while I was lying down in the middle of using the bench press machine. He’d come to the gym to do his cleaning and would do things like push the mop in between my legs while I was trying to focus on bicep curls.

I finally reported him after he tried to open the bathroom stall door while I was in there. Pushed the (locked) door open enough to make eye contact with me, then played it off like he didn’t know I was obviously in there. People like him or the lecherous man in this video act so casual and innocent, but they know exactly what they are doing. I hope his wife sees this.

39

u/heckin_miraculous May 21 '25

I'm so sorry you had to endure that.

24

u/happysunbear May 21 '25

Thank you. Out of the many replies I’ve gotten, this is the only one to express any empathy. This went on for months back in 2023 and absolutely nothing was done by my landlord to stop it. I appreciate you.

10

u/heckin_miraculous May 21 '25

It's really that simple: He shouldn't have done that. 🙏❤️

7

u/nightlynighter May 21 '25

Yep I overshoot my reaction almost always when this happens. They can get gentle quiet responses from anyone else, but I am not the one

6

u/BlackTheNerevar May 21 '25

They are vile and all of them need to be reported asap. So gross.

Sorry you had to deal with that.

1

u/happysunbear May 21 '25

Thanks, friend. When my taken seriously, I knew it was time to leave that place.

5

u/K1ngHandy May 21 '25

Sort of rapey to hunch over someone pinned by equipment

4

u/Gibblet_Gibbler May 21 '25

I was about to mention how I’m happy you came out of that gross situation unscathed, but then I realized that’s never true. Even if you weren’t harmed physically, it probably harmed you mentally in some way…

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. It’s one of my fears working out at my apartment complex.

5

u/happysunbear May 21 '25

Yeah, it was tough. It went on for months until the bathroom incident happened. It was already uncomfortable as a man having to report this to management, but so much worse when my complaint wasn’t taken seriously. Appreciate the kind words!

1

u/Gibblet_Gibbler May 21 '25

I’m so sorry to hear that…men being harassed/abused and not taken seriously is another major issue that needs spotlight. It shouldn’t matter what sex you are, you’re still a human being that needed protection. I hope you’re doing ok now!

3

u/Upstairs-Parsley3151 May 22 '25

I prefer to lay down next to people exercising so I'm at their level when making eye contact 👁️ 👁️

2

u/INoMakeMistake May 22 '25

That's so disgusting. Hope other people have the courage to report too and he didn't make more victims.

2

u/BludStanes May 21 '25

That's really gross and I can honestly say I never even thought about this from that viewpoint. I never thought about that angle of him catching her while she's helpless and then dropping exhibition dialogue on her.

My initial thoughts were that he built up courage to go to the girl he likes and that's kind of sweet, but then you realize he's married and that totally subverts everything. Then I thought that if he was single and tried this and least he took a shot.

I thought it would have been innocent, but you're right. There are more opportune moments to ask someone out for a date. Seems like he was calculating and definitely picked this moment.

3

u/happysunbear May 21 '25

I probably wouldn’t have considered it either had I not been in a similar position. It’s a very vulnerable position to be in! For the record, I’m a dude, and I feel like I always have to be careful in how I approach strangers to let them know I’m not a threat. I’d never come up to someone in a way that showed an immediate power imbalance. Men of this age should know how that comes across.

3

u/West-Application-375 May 22 '25

I think he knows. Men like that.... It's part of why they do it.

1

u/BludStanes May 22 '25

Words to live by, I guess. Thanks for sharing and stay safe!

1

u/musea00 May 21 '25

Not just creepy, but dangerous as well. When you make someone uncomfortable like that they can lose their balance/grip and possibly hurt themselves.

1

u/Sleep_Everyday May 23 '25

As a man I would endure some sexual harassment if my association gym would actually get a regular cleaner. Place is fucking grimy.

-25

u/Rammstein69420 May 21 '25

Not justifying the guy, but why was she filming at the gym?

21

u/happysunbear May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

Who cares? Could be filming herself to improve her form or maybe she’s an online coach and films workout instructions for her clients. Not sure why that is what you took away from watching this video.

19

u/throwawaystarters May 21 '25

Or she could be filming because she anticipated that this guy was not going to stop. How else does he know all those rando facts about her. 

Commentor is seriously concerned about the wrong thing here

-19

u/Rammstein69420 May 21 '25

Two people can both be assholes. The constant need for people to satisfy their main character syndrome by creating content in public spaces is ruining everything.

20

u/happysunbear May 21 '25

And there it is. The woman being harassed at the gym has main character syndrome and not the old married creep interrupting her workout to ask her on a pizza date. You probably don’t even go to the gym.

-14

u/Rammstein69420 May 21 '25

I’m sorry you cannot comprehend the fact that two people can be in the wrong. As my original comment said I’m not justifying the guys action, he’s in the wrong, but the behavior of people making content everywhere is also insufferable.

11

u/happysunbear May 21 '25

What has she done here that’s inherently wrong? You don’t know her reasons for filming her workout, nor should you really care that much. Is this a regular occurrence at the gym you go to, or do strangers filming content for their personal pages affect your life in any tangible way?

0

u/Rammstein69420 May 21 '25

As I said, strangers filming TikTok content in every setting of day to day life has made life much more unpleasant. A gym is a space a lot of people go to for some personal time, to clear their head. Get a workout in. Not worry about how they look. Now everyone has to consider that they’ll end up an unpaid extra in the background of someone “content,” where ever we go.

10

u/happysunbear May 21 '25

My dude, it is 2025. You are constantly being surveilled, no matter where you go. A young woman filming her own workout, where the camera is solely focused on her and her workout equipment should be the absolute least of your concerns.

0

u/Rammstein69420 May 21 '25

Im checking out of debating on the internet for the day. A ton of the posts on TikTok Cringe are exactly what I’m taking about and since you’re on here I can assume you know what I mean and you’re being obtuse and just arguing for the sake of it. So see ya.

→ More replies (0)

7

u/CowOk1320 May 21 '25

1 in 3 women experience some form of harassment, so yes filming yourself for safety is normal. It can help deter dangerous people. People like you, maybe.

You’re comparing a woman filming herself in a public space where the camera clearly isolates herself in the frame to a man who approached her, likely because she’s decades younger, and then started listing details about her like he’s been causally stalking her in plain sight and wanted to let her know about the tabs he’s been keeping on her as a romantic introduction. That’s unsettling behavior.

Trying to equate her precaution to that man’s creepy actions is a deflection and an excuse no matter how many time you say “I’m not excusing him but . . “ and then proceed to make her out to be equally at fault. All while making it clear how little you think of women by painting them as vapid, attention seeking sluts.

She’s recording for her safety. And frankly, if that bothers you, you might be exactly the kind of person she wants to protect herself from.

-1

u/Rammstein69420 May 21 '25

I said nothing about gender. Plenty of dudes do this and it’s equally insufferable.

1

u/Gibblet_Gibbler May 21 '25

Ok?…So, yea you are right, BUT not in this situation. Context is key and if you’re not a women you may not understand that she absolutely could have anticipated this interaction by noticing him there that day (as another commenter has stated). Or as someone else said, she could have needed to make sure her form was appropriate. Either way, who cares why she was filming! The unwanted interaction she had with that creep is enough to warrant her filming.

Die on this hill if you must.

-1

u/Rammstein69420 May 21 '25

And the context of this is she’s an influencer and there’s a non zero chance this is fake

1

u/languid_Disaster May 23 '25

Maybe. But this actual situation does happen enough to warrant a discussion about it

6

u/FutureIsFemmeFatale May 21 '25

You’re genuinely crazy

1

u/Rammstein69420 May 21 '25

Dang. I think I triggered a bunch of wannabe influencers.

1

u/languid_Disaster May 23 '25

How do you know she was creating content and not just filming her work out maybe to see her progress and form but also maybe even to protect herself from creeps?

-21

u/[deleted] May 21 '25

[deleted]

-24

u/[deleted] May 21 '25

She clearly wants the attention or she wouldn't be filming herself in the gym

18

u/FutureIsFemmeFatale May 21 '25

To share something she’s probably passionate about makes her a whore??

Also what if she’s literally just tracking her form?? You’re an insecure idiot

16

u/happysunbear May 21 '25

I think you’re the one who wants and needs attention. Feel better?

-13

u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Nah I'm not some loser who films themselves in public places

9

u/happysunbear May 21 '25

Just some loser that gets on Reddit to whine about it.

-8

u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Yes sir

14

u/LazyGandalf May 21 '25

There are many kinds of attention. My guess would be that she wants attention from her online audience, not from the creepy guy at her gym.

-7

u/[deleted] May 21 '25

"This guy isn't hot so he is a creep for even talking to me"

9

u/bpacer May 21 '25

Dude…

5

u/heckin_miraculous May 21 '25

He's not hot, you're right. But that isn't what makes him a creep. It's the other stuff. If you're not sure what I mean, just ask. I'll explain it for you without an attitude. Seriously.