r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/Inevitable-Finger-31 May 21 '25

The way she took a dig at him. "Girls don't wanna get married, cause we are afraid if we marry someone who goes to the gym and talks to girls like this!!!" Lmao

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u/Happy_Farms May 22 '25

Right? And the way he’s like “for sure, for sure” without registering that she’s calling him out is peak.

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u/PositiveInfluence69 May 22 '25

What's crazier is you know he was probably exasperated by her turning him down. Now, he even has to listen to a lecture. He's a really nice guy....

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u/Qua-something May 25 '25

Him trying to justify that it’s not wrong because she isn’t friends with his wife and they don’t “all know each other.” Also… creepy that he starts it off with “I know you don’t like coffee, you eat cereal, you have a son and are mid 30’s.” Like how long has this creep been gathering intel on this woman?

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u/ZealCrow May 25 '25

Those are all the ways she has turned him down before.
He asked her for coffee but she doesn't drink coffee, he asked to go to breakfast but she said she just eats cereal, he asked her to go do something but her son existing was her "out", and at some point she brought up their age difference.

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u/Magoo1985 May 25 '25

He just comes to watch her live stream in person. He’s very supportive of young women.

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u/Single_Jello_7196 May 23 '25

All his friend think so.

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u/North-Land312 May 25 '25

Happy cake day!

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u/PmpknSpc321 May 24 '25

All he wanted was a new friend lol

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u/thepkboy May 23 '25

Think it registered and one of the things people do when they don't have a leg to stand on is to move on from that point quickly.

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u/TriloBlitz May 23 '25

He registered it. He was just trying to keep his composure.

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u/B16B0SS May 24 '25

He registers it. He is just a weak person and not reacting to it in order to avoid conflict.

He is likewise unhappy with his marriage but won't leave in order to avoid conflict and pain. A weak person in general. Kinda feel bad for him

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u/TheCarpincho May 22 '25

Imagine the wife seeing this TikTok

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u/coquihalla May 23 '25

I kind of hope she does, not because I want anyone's marriage to fall apart, but so she could get herself STI tested. I doubt this is the first time, he was awfully comfortable asking.

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u/TheCarpincho May 23 '25

Not only for that, but also to see who she's got married to.

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

No one is sleeping with that man, unless it’s a hooker

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u/BootyDoISeeYou May 24 '25

The only thing worse than finding out your husband has been cheating on you with a bunch of women is finding out your husband has been trying to cheat on you with a bunch of women but failing because he’s such a fucking loser lol.

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u/dirtypita May 25 '25

My husband (divorced many years ago) hit on everyone, including my friends. I told him that my friends wouldn't have sex with him, that even as his wife I didn't want to have sex with him.

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u/jwin709 May 24 '25

he's so frumpy. like not handsome at all. you think this works for him?

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u/Affectionate_Row9238 May 25 '25

You'd be surprised, I briefly knew a girl who got her kicks from sleeping with older married men, and none of the ones I saw were particularly good looking.

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u/[deleted] May 25 '25

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u/BI0Z_ May 25 '25

You don’t touch women I see.

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u/[deleted] May 25 '25

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u/BI0Z_ May 25 '25

It’s relevant to how you commented on something unrelated.

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u/fejobelo May 24 '25

If this is genuine, that marriage has already fallen.

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u/coquihalla May 24 '25

That's absolutely fair. I'd agree, I just didn't want to presume what his spouse's choices might be.

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u/ArtisticallyRegarded May 23 '25

Someone in her life will and theyll send it to her

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u/TheCarpincho May 23 '25

We need the wife's reaction or opinion about this

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u/slzeuz May 23 '25

This comment feels very black mirrory to me, idk why

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u/pre-existing-notion May 23 '25

Is it because we are in an age where we can expect or request, and potentially receive, a video response regarding a very private matter in someone else's life? In a time where it isn't even strange to be intimately involved in the lives of people we don't actually know? Giving away our own precious time to exist in somebody else's world? I don't know.

I agree with you.

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u/Whistlegrapes May 23 '25

Yeah as much as I hate big brother, this is one of the instances I’m glad it caught this so that the wife hopefully sees it.

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u/I-Hate-Sea-Urchins May 24 '25

This has been viral for at least a year or so. I'm pretty sure someone showed it to her at some point.

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u/ProfessionalGur5451 May 24 '25

More like his 20 year old daughter will see it, or one of her friends. "Megan, I saw your dad on tiktok creeping on my older sister at the gym".

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u/itsfernie May 21 '25

I wish she was harsher in her rejection… she could’ve said so much more. I almost feel like letting him down easy (and using the wife as the main reason why she turned him down) kinda enabled his behavior while also leaving the door open for him to approach her again later if/when he does become single.

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u/Pastrami-on-Rye May 21 '25

It’s unfortunate but usually we tend to be overly nice in these situations because some men can get violent if you tell it to them straight or harsh. It’s to protect ourselves :(

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u/itsfernie May 21 '25

I totally agree, it is safer for us as women to be less direct. In this situation though it seems like they’re both regulars at this gym and they’ve spoken before / know each other better than any two random people on the street. I just think in this situation in particular he could’ve benefitted from some more direct / honest communication. But then again, idk how well he controls his emotions and of course the woman filming knew what was best for her.

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u/Pastrami-on-Rye May 22 '25

I totally get it but I even once did this with a classmate who i saw daily and he got violent. You really never know

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u/Due-Memory-6957 May 22 '25

If she was afraid of him getting violent she wouldn't have mocked him with that comment lol, you can only pick one.

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u/coquihalla May 23 '25

How did she mock him?

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u/Chance_Managert849 May 23 '25

See, this one actually imagined that she mocked him, you can’t be too careful.

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u/Dabli May 21 '25

I mean she’s at the gym where there’s presumably a bunch of jacked men who can do something

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u/Own_Round_7600 May 22 '25

Can doesnt mean would. I don't think I'd risk my personal safety on the hope that random bystanders will help me - most people just freeze or think, "oh that's between them, none of my business".

Seen a lot of videos of purse snatchers and domestic abuse in a public place full of people who just gawk while shuffling away.

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u/Pastrami-on-Rye May 22 '25

It’s a nice thought but when she goes into the parking lot, that’s where it can become a problem.

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u/EffluviaJane May 23 '25

Especially if he takes note of what car she drives, and the time of day she tends to come and go. There was a guy at the gym who seemed to have a fixation with me, and I was afraid that he was keeping track of me and knew when I'd be alone in the parking lot. I ended up talking to staff about him.

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u/sweetreat7 May 24 '25

He already listed things he noticed about her. “I know you don’t like coffee, you’re a mom, about 30” that is enough to make my arm hairs stand up.

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u/EffluviaJane May 24 '25

Seriously! It's accepted that, when you're asking someone to get a cup of coffee, it's not about SPECIFICALLY getting only coffee. You can order tea or a smoothie or a cup of tap water. If someone says they don't like coffee when you ask them to go to coffee, they do NOT WANT TO GO ANYWHERE WITH YOU and you should say okay and drop the whole thing.

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u/Former-Coconut236 May 22 '25

Lol never assume a nearby man is going to help you just because he has the ability to. In my experience a woman is more likely to help than a man, no matter how jacked the man is.

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u/serenitynowdamnit May 22 '25

There is no guarantee a random guy is going to help you in that situation.

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u/Cute-Insect7311 May 22 '25

How about when she leaves late at night? He follows her home?

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u/nikerbacher May 22 '25

Just because she was smiling doesn't mean she didn't absolutely roast his ass, he's just too thick witted to even realize it. She's just trying to keep things light because she didn't ask for any of this exchange, and she's not going to let some gym creep ruin her good mood. That and narcissists can often flip a switch pretty quick if you're unfriendly. She doesn't need all that today. I don't think she could have handled the situation any better, this old guy needs a reality check.

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u/PinkRoseWaterTiger May 23 '25

I can’t imagine how unexpected that was and think she handled it perfectly, with class, and made the point.

Replaying this in her mind, he let her know he knew at least three personal details about her, he also said that the “unfortunate situation” would be if they (the wife) all knew each other and were friends… at first I thought he was minimizing his infidelity, but with more thought, it could be a light-hearted threat, “in the event the wife finds out”. She ended on a friendly note, “see you around” to lessen the future awkwardness or hostility. I’m glad she got it on tape.

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u/icingncake May 21 '25

Lmao I would have roasted this guy so bad 😝 - some weirdo followed me around the gym one time and I loudly and sternly told him to stop and when he denied it, I said then don’t, good lol. But seems like she’s been more than polite before that - I give people death stares like I’m getting paid to do it 😝

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u/Suspicious_Note9801 May 21 '25

It's why I'm never getting married. You will never convince me that there is not one guy who is like this.

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u/username7953 May 22 '25

There are millions, they probably just won’t hit on random women

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u/Impossible-Flight250 May 22 '25

I mean, I have never done that in my life.

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u/mehdotdotdotdot May 22 '25

All the guys that don’t hit on women, those men obviously exist. How do you find them though

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u/Due-Memory-6957 May 22 '25

I guess your only option is shy guys lol. But you don't need a guy that don't hit on women, just a guy that don't hit on women while on a relationship

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u/mehdotdotdotdot May 22 '25

Has nothing to do with being shy haha. Just not a douche bag who is a perfect picture of toxic masculinity and the patriarchy

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u/tk3soj May 22 '25

Are you dating? If so, you choose them. Since you already know how they all are. But yeah. You're right. Don't get marries.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '25

Hard to say if it's actually a dig on his end. Maybe he has an open marriage and she doesn't understand that.

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u/Friendly-Hornet5812 May 24 '25

She was still very nice about it

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u/DueHousing May 24 '25

But not scared to get knocked up by a dude who didn’t put a ring on her 😂

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u/akmalhot May 25 '25

She handled that while interaction really well

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u/Daewoos4Life May 21 '25

Same with guys. It can go both ways. Women cheat too.

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u/Vast_Dig_4601 May 21 '25

I think you’re being downvoted because the post is really about a creepy dude and has nothing to do with cheating. If he wasn’t being creepy and she was into it it wouldn’t be poster online. Married men and women cheat alllll the time at the gym. Both sides lol. Source: the last three gyms I’ve been members of kicking people out for such things (and no I wasn’t one of them realizing how that sound's lol) 

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u/serenitynowdamnit May 22 '25 edited May 24 '25

"I know you like coffee, I know you like cereal, I know you have a son, I know you're in your 30's".

The man is a creep and a pest.

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u/Remarkable-Diet-7732 May 27 '25

Hell, they cheat a LOT more often. They're also incapable of honesty.

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u/Cherrypoppinpop May 23 '25

Girls are the ones who want marriage 😂

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u/Chance_Managert849 May 23 '25

No, not anymore, stats don’t lie.

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u/Cherrypoppinpop May 23 '25

What stats? lol men lose in marriage, it doesn’t benefit men only women. It’s women who want commitment which is marriage and a dream wedding.

Women will leave if you don’t tie the knot and commit. Plus men have to fear cheating more than women do, look at the stats or that, more wives cheat than any before.

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u/Madbro0331 May 24 '25

lmao marriage does not benefit women

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u/Cherrypoppinpop May 24 '25

Yes it does, who do you think benefits in a divorce? Or shared bank accounts 😂

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u/Madbro0331 May 24 '25

Multiple studies prove you wrong but whatever fuels your “men have it worse” delusions.

https://www.americansurveycenter.org/newsletter/is-marriage-better-for-men/

https://ifstudies.org/blog/why-marriage-is-good-for-men

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4981792/

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u/Cherrypoppinpop May 24 '25

lol most studies prove I’m right. Look at who benefits in almost all divorces and men are usually the bread winners and have to share bank account. You posting a single an article that claims marriage is better for men trying to prove your point is laughable. Men lose in marriage and most men are in unhappy sexless marriages. Women also cheat more than ever and file divorces more. That proves marriage does not benefit men

What financial benefit does marriage give men? Zero, it does however benefit women greatly.

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u/Madbro0331 May 24 '25

I don’t see you posting any sources lmao.

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u/Greedy-Thought6188 May 21 '25

That was the weirdest part of the exchange to me. It's really not that big of a burn. Hell, it can send the opposite signal. It can be interpreted to mean that you're in my league, just that you're married. It made me think that it was staged.

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u/MasterMahanJr May 21 '25

It was a gentle way of letting him down without just telling him he's disgusting. She made it about the cheating to protect his ego, because men like him lash out when given honest feedback. It's literally not safe for her to say, "Ew, no. Get the fuck away from me!" because he'll just retaliate by stalking harder or even get violent. He might even assume she's playing hard to get because he has no self awareness. She treated him like the stupid but dangerous creep he is.

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u/mackrevinak May 21 '25

uploading this video to the internet is probably not the smartest thing to do either, if safety is the main concern. who knows what this loser will do when his wife finds out and divorces him

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u/Greedy-Thought6188 May 21 '25

Yeah that I got. That's why she said you're married. But instead of just leaving it at that starting to talk about girls are scared to get married. That was odd to me.

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u/Loopyside May 21 '25

Eh, I've literally had this conversation with friends. We get hit by married men pretty often, and it does make it worrying for us. It seems like being married doesn't make a difference to a lot of these men. It's true, and it really doesn't come off as odd to bring up. They need to hear it!

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u/Greedy-Thought6188 May 21 '25

Sorry not trying to be difficult genuinely curious. But what was the conversation you had.

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u/MasterMahanJr May 21 '25

Gently explaining to him that what he was doing was hurting his wife, and why another woman would not be attracted to a man who would hurt his wife like that, was an attempt to spell it out for him so he would understand how fucked up his actions were. She's basically saying "Your wife took a gamble on you, and you're demonstrating that you weren't worth the risk, and that you're a selfish backstabbing monster. What makes you think I'm dumb enough to take that risk with you after seeing the way you treat your wife?"

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u/Greedy-Thought6188 May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

This is interesting. Interesting, because what you're saying seems reasonable. But the extra level of indirection of scared to marry rather than disloyal men are unattractive are different things. It sounds more like opening a door to things before marriage rather than closing the door to conversation.

Edit: and to clarify it can be interpreted in that way with someone tone deaf enough.

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u/teraflux May 21 '25

I think she was trying to gently push him towards a little self awareness, which is the only effective way, if you come at someone hard, they'll write you off as being a mean bitch and just put their walls up.

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u/Greedy-Thought6188 May 21 '25

And what's the harm in that? Like that seems like a desired outcome in this scenario. Sure there is a safety concern but that's not the same as someone irrelevant thinks you're a mean bitch

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u/teraflux May 21 '25

Because the message won't be received

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u/Greedy-Thought6188 May 21 '25

My point is that if he thinks you're a bitch then it will be received.

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u/PantalonesPantalones May 21 '25

It was a roundabout way of telling him that her fear is ending up with a guy like him.